So I've been meeting girls but not through the boards here. There are some women I'd like to meet from these boards but I can't seem to get a meeting because my references aren't TER providers (they have reviews but don't post on here) and I'm not on other sites. Is there any other way to get the references needed to meet with a lady on here?

I have had a lot of success with p411. I know other parts of the country use date check a lot.

Every provider is different.  Be upfront about not having references, and ask her what she needs on her end to be comfortable seeing you.

And ask her UPFRONT if she is comfortable being a reference for you in the future.