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Review-Induced Performance Anxiety? Any New Providers Experience This?
ItGirlNYC 2843 reads
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1 / 13

Soon I'll be seeing a gentleman who reviews the providers he sees.  
I'm afraid I'll be uncomfortable and worried with him, knowing that the whole date may end up being reviewed--which has never happened to me before.  
I know reviews can effect my business for better or worse, and I'm anxious that knowing I may be reviewed will make me too nervous to perform well.
How do newer ladies handle the first-time-review jitters?

And gentlemen, do you take this into account when seeing someone who knows she may be reviewed for the first time?

maturebridgette See my TER Reviews 3162 reads
posted
2 / 13

Im not a new provider, but new to knowing I might be reviewed. I don't think about it. I give the same service to a reviewer as I would  to a non reviewer. And to tell the truth, these days you never know who is going to review you. Kepp in mind that what ever service you provide to him, he will review and comment, so anyone else reading it, will expect the same treatment if not better.

good luck & relax and most definately enjoy

bridgette

Cherry_Girl See my TER Reviews 1494 reads
posted
3 / 13

sweetie, take a deep breath and relax. Just be yourself and preform as you normally do. If you really are new, he's going to understand. One review doesn't make or break you. Hell, he shouldn't have even told you that he was going to review you.

hungry1951 29 Reviews 1817 reads
posted
6 / 13

Being nervous is normal for either party. If you are confident that your performance has been good in the past, don't treat this date any differently than any other. We're all nervous at first, no matter which side of the fence we're on. I suspect that the nervousness will disappear rather quickly, just as it does with us. If you go in with confidence, you'll come out with a good review. Have fun, and see to it that your new friend has fun as well.

shudaknownbetter 1219 reads
posted
7 / 13

Relax.  Put reviews or the possibility of reviews out of your mind.  Do what you say you will for the donation you specify...  What's not to like?  
I trust he'll be a gentleman & you'll both have a good time.
skb

Cptnkirk 11 Reviews 1030 reads
posted
8 / 13

Her nervousness made me nervous and things did not go as smoothly as I would hope. We talked by email after and I told her it would be better for me to review her after a couple more visits.  I can tell she is a gem and she has been on my hit list for a long time.  I just know I can give her a much better review after we adapt to each other a little more.

thebellasecret 1453 reads
posted
9 / 13

Do you... And everything will be . :)

keystonekid 114 Reviews 1882 reads
posted
10 / 13

review will be good.  You don't get to choose which reviews are posted and which ones are not.  

My advice is to relax, enjoy your time with the gentleman you have screened well, and then wait to see the review, if he chooses to write one.

SaschaDoesIt See my TER Reviews 1702 reads
posted
11 / 13

Um, sadly, yes.  I've had my own nerves ruin dates before because all I thought about was what horrible thing he'd say about me later.  

To be honest, and I'm NOT passing the buck, but us girls who have one bad review... it taints things.  On another site I have a totally erroneous review of me.  I've asked the site to remove it and they won't.  It sticks out like a sore thumb among GOOD reviews and that's some consolation... but overall it's very distressing to me.

If you wonder why we get nervous about reviews, there you go.  One poor review is devastating.  I know, I know: thick skin.  Shake it off.  Don't let it get to you.  But you can't help how you feel when someone degrades you that way.  We’re talking about a very intimiate act here.  Compliments and presents and courtship aside, it comes down to how he’s going to view you when the clothes are off.

I’m not insecure by any means.  I show 100% accurate pics and the personality on this board is pretty much what you get in person with me. I try in every way to show BEFORE the date what you’re getting with me.  So for someone to say deliberate, nasty, unkind and untrue things… it really shakes you.

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ki.wan 76 Reviews 2089 reads
posted
12 / 13

I really don't think you should worry - especially if your ad is true (photo, $$$, description). Everyone has his/her preferences. Most of us use this site to make sure of LE and ladies are true to their advertisement. The experience between can be very different based on chemistry and comfort level.
*also don't let guys take advantage of you with the thought of possible bad reviews. Unfortunately, there are few guys who will state that they will give you a bad review if he does not get a discount or makes you perform certain acts that you are not comfortable with - these guys should be reported to TER and rest of the ladies who are in the business. Good luck to you

famkejensen 1466 reads
posted
13 / 13

You might not want to scare the poor girl right out of the gate. Just because she provides x,y and z, does not mean she has to do those things with every man that sees her. Being consistent helps but if a guy shows up filthy and she won't bbbj, who could blame her and with that line line of thinking she might think she has to, therefore compromising herself for no reason...this can lead to early burn-out.

There's a damn good reason for YMMV.

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