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CR987 26 Reviews 3385 reads
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I know this has been brought up before, but I couldn't find the answers I am looking for. I have never done an overnight, but after meeting the most amazing girl I have ever met (unfortunately for my wallet and my heart since I know it's business)last night, I am planning on doing an overnight with her. We talked about it a little during our encounter, but I wanted to know what was expected in an overnight and what is acceptable. I am worried that since I am a one-popper that it might be a waste of time if we have to rely on massages and conversation most of the night. I love just hanging out with her so it shouldn't be a problem. She works for an agency and I am wondering if it is acceptable to jump in my car and go get something to eat after our fun or if providors won't go anywhere with clients (we discussed our equal White Castle craving after sex). What are the rules regarding this and what are some things to expect from an overnight. Lay in bed and watch a movie? I guess I just don't want it to become akward since I've never spent more than 2 hours with a providor. I think with her it would be great, but wanted to get some other opinions from both hobbyists and providors on the subject. Thanks in advance for any help!

mrfisher1493 reads

especially when you're with the right person.

Plan to go out on the town; see a movie or play then dinner.  When you get back have a massage-a-thon, then get to the main event and fall asleep in a spooning position.  The next morning see if you're up for some breakfast in bed, so to speak.  (A little roll with honey :o)

If you want a midnight snack, stay somewhere with 24 hour room service.  It would be a bummer to have to get all dressed and go out.

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CR9871472 reads

Thanks. What I am thinking is that maybe I will meet her one more time for a 2 hour so we can discuss and plan an overnight for my birthday here in a couple months. Would it be better to meet and plan an overnight, or just do it and see what happens?

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TornalittleinDC1654 reads

What I've found with some of the ladies I've thought about doing an overnighter with is that most will state that a certain number of hours is for actual sleep.  I totally understand that and that's more or less why I've never done an overnighter.  After a first pop, I'm usually able to go again in about 10mins and then it's like 2 hours till I pop again and then another 10mins and then it would be like 3 hours for the next and trust me, last one....I normally do a nice two hour session, every now and then a 3 or 4 but I normally let her know that most of the time will be some type of sex....

I guess what I'm saying is that in my opinion, an overnighter aint worth it...

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dermont1091557 reads

I would have to agree that overnighter are just not worth it, unless you just don't want to sleep alone.  I have done a few and will most likely not do anymore.  the first overnighter I got three pops and the second one only one, and she did not spoon.  I hate sleeping alone but I hate wasting cash even more.. good luck

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mrfisher2838 reads

Getting theater tickets and reservations at a good restaurant takes some time and why bother to get them unless you know that your date is interested in these things?

By all means have that next two hour tryst and settle on all the salient details rather than wing it.

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Amertricot1566 reads

Great response, Fish, it's about enjoying your tme together.

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Carrie_of_London1525 reads

Overnight dates are not about how many times a guy can pop, to think like that is to miss the point in my opinion.  It’s about so much more than sex.  It’s about enjoying each other’s company in a relaxed way and not having to worry about the time.

Overnights for me usually consist of meeting at the hotel for drinks and some fun then heading out for dinner and possibly to the theatre or similar.  Then back to the hotel for more intimate time and some again in the morning.  Of course dates vary, not every man wants to play before dinner or in the morning, for instance.

I think putting some thought into how you want to spend the time you will be together will work better than just taking the evening as it comes.  Find out what she’d like to do and come up with an evening you’ll both enjoy.  It’s unlikely you’ll find there is any awkwardness if you get on well as you obviously do or your wouldn’t be considering an overnight date.

Related Link: Carrie of London

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Bostonguy571707 reads

It is about spending an extended period of time with a lady who interests you. By all means book a two hour with her and spend some time talking about it. Overnighters are not about how many times you can boink in given time-frame. If that is all you are interested in you are better off booking a couple of 2 hour dates on consecutive nights...

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CR9872142 reads

I guess my post came off wrong. I am not looking for a bed-bouncing marathon. I just mentioned the one-pop thing to see if it would be a disappointment at all if only once was all but guaranteed. I am more interested in spending a wonderful evening with an amazing girl. My review of her is now up if that helps. I just don't know if overnights are worth it when I don't have a huge budget to hobby on. An overnight will be all the hobbying I can do for a couple months if I do it and if it doesn't work out then it's a huge loss. But the gains could be huge if I really enjoy myself. I guess I just need some extra hobby money so I don't feek like it is such a risk. Anybody want to donate?

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Bostonguy571338 reads

If I have to choose between a donation and seeing my ATF this week you lose....

OK, seriously. I've never paid for an overnight in the strictest sense. I would love to but I'd rather see my favorite lady every week or so for a couple of hours than blow the cost of three or four visits just to be able to sleep next to her.
I have had an indy girl that I see out of town spend the night a couple of times but that was off the clock. It was a lot of fun but honestly, we only did it twice. We spent the rest of the time walking around in the snow, going to dinner and talking each other's ears off-we are both really good at that. It worked because we have a connection beyond my lusting after her ass and her after my wallet.  If you don't have that with the lady you are thinking of I would save my money and stick to the shorter, immediate gratification type of appointments. It's all about having fun. If you are putting undue pressure on yourself you probably will regret spending the money.

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CR9871529 reads

and I am fairly sure that despite how much I enjoyed being with her, doing an overnight is a waste of money for me. As mentioned before, being a one-popper, that leaves plenty of time in a 2 or 3 hour session to chat, cuddle, and enjoy each other's company. Besides, I hate sharing a bed with someone when I am trying to sleep. I would love to cuddle up with her in bed all night, but if I'm sleeping there's no point. My money can go much further without the overnight. Plus, the more I think about it, she's not really the personality type that would be good for an overnight. So unless I can only work out one night to see her in the next month or two, there won't be an overnight.

By the way though Bostonguy, if your ATF gets sick or moves away, PM for my mailing address. I do accept personal checks as donations! LOL

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