recently saw provider who must have posted a big negative about me -- don't know how to respond or whether to respond or react.  All other previous providers have approved of me, contacted me afterward wanting to see me again.  Where in TER is this type of issue best discussed?    Thanks for help.

There must be some reason you think that she did; something in session?  Something said by someone later when you tried to book?

Curiously,

*Maureen*

Do you mean she refused to give you an ok on P411?  If so, that is her right but there has to be a legit reason.  

Generally, the team over there is very thorough about finding out why a guy was refused an ok to reduce the amount of bs that comes with them. Many times providers want to refuse an ok because the guy did not review them, gave them a so so review or whatever other drama one can think of. I have been gone a while so I am not sure if the rules have been changed, but as I recall refusing an ok because a guy was not clean did not really fly. I mean you could do it, but if it got to where that's all a provider ever claimed was the reason, it became obvious something was up.  

If that is what you are talking about, contact the provider then contact Gina to look into it. You only have 2 reviews, so can't really see beyond that.

If the other ladies you have seen invited you backed you must be doing things right so don't worry if one wasn't impressed with you. Move on to someone else or go back to someone you have already seen.

At least in the mind of the lady in question as P 411 rewards the ladies for giving okays. It's the reason that okay now have to be requested before a provider can give one out. I am actually kind of happy about that relatively new policy. Just like many hookers don't want hundreds of reviews, I really don't want hundreds of okays. I try to limit my okays to about one a month, just enough to be "current", but not so many that a woman's first reaction to my profile is "OMG, what a fucking pig" lol

P411 makes you give the ok. I refused to give an ok for a guy ripping me off my donation and I spoke with Gina on it. I was told that I can not refuse an ok unless I never met him (ie they want to verify he isn't LE or if he is dangerous). I still refused and it was done anyways.

Pretty stupid to use me as a reference after what he did. He eventually got banned? off of there.

Not really sure what OP is asking, but sounds like it may be about P411. He should just contact Gina if that is the case (as London said)

I too like the new policy of requiring me to request an okay before it's given. And about the "OMG" comment.....I once had a woman I'd seen several times tell me that she didn't wish to see me again because I had been seeing "too many" different women recently. She had looked at my "okays" for the first time in awhile and said "OMG, what a fucking pig!" LOL I pointed out to her that she had a bunch of reviews in the same period and was probably seeing more men than I was women. And, I thought she was simply pissed that I hadn't seen her in awhile. I never looked back and haven't contacted her again. A couple months later I hear from her asking why I had disappeared. WTF?? LOL
                                                                                             Regards......RR

Perhaps there was a mix up.

In any case, I'd apologize and ask what the transgression was, just to be sure you don't repeat it with someone else.

If she doesn't respond, then at least you'll know it was intentional, in any case.

Geez, what a stupid thing for her to say. An escort complaining about a guy seeing too many women. Hmmm.

Dear Alex:
The reason that you mentioned is one the best reasons not to give him an okay.  Also it should be resounding that when you share this with the community at large that incident should come with several exclamation points behind it.  Granted it is Gina's site but part of verification is making sure that all parties are safe and reputable when having interactions with them of this nature.

Did I ask for and not receive an okay. I didn't pursue it. Why bother. I have plenty anyway. I don't know if something was off during our date. I don't recall anything terrible. Maybe I asked to many questions that she took as personal. Maybe she doesn't like giving them. Maybe she truly felt I wasn't safe/okay.  I don't know. I wouldn't ask everyone, just enough to keep current, but it used to reward the providers with points. Now it doesn't, so I may reconsider doing so. I kinda felt obligated to do so. It isn't the same with reviews, which really only help the guys by giving free days, so I don't write a review for every lady I see. Unless they don't have a recent review, then I'll make it a point to do so.  I know that when I don't see current reviews I often won't see a lady.  6 months without a review and still actively posting ads, makes me think something is off. Could just mean she hasn't seen anyone to give a review or just has a lot of regulars. Its my system, doesn't mean it's the best.

It's easy to delete excess OKs to limit your overall number or remove one if she goes BSC and you no longer want to be associated with her.