Hi all, I have a couple of questions.  I don't see myself really as a newby to the hobby any longer but I need to know how to handle a couple of situations.

1.  I have an ATF that I see on a regular basis, we understand each other and are very open and understanding, so this does not apply to her.  The question concerns a 2nd circle of ladies that I see every so often, just not a standing appointment like my ATF.  Some of the ladies in this group have raised their published rates since I started seeing them.  I'm still donating the original amount, but I almost always leave a good tip.  In the past, the tip would be enough to put me above average, and ensure special service and appreciation.  But now with the higher rates the tip only brings the total up to what a new customer would bring.  None have ever mentioned an increase, but I've noticed that a couple of the ladies don't seem as excited to see me as they once did.  Not trying to be cheap here, just want to avoid any uncomfortable situation.  Advice?

2.  There is one provider that I have seen twice.  I enjoyed my time with her, but she has priced herself at the upper end of the local market.  She's fun, but frankly not worth the top dollar.  She's contacted me a couple of times inviting me to see her again.  I don't want to seem like I'm trying to negotiate with her as I don't want to go there.  In this case I'm one of the new customers.  I know that her rates are much less for her older customers.  Do I just keep making excuses or just tell her like it is?  

Thanks,
UR

Just be upfront and ask her. You have nothing to lose, other than some of your current confusion. If she isn't worth it in your opinion then tell her this as well.

Any one who has been in the hobby for any length of time has run into the problem with increased rates. The easiest thing is the most straightforward. Simply ask the ladies if they would prefer for you to pay the new rate, the old or something inbetween. Most of the ladies prefer to have a regular at an old rate than a new client at a higher rate, but everyone is different. Just ask.

I agree with everyone above. Be honest.  (Sorry to those of you who have seen me rant thus before but ....) COMMUNICATION = THE RESPONSE YOU GET.  If you want her to be "real", you be "real."  If you don't like the response you get,try harder or move on.  It's not that complicated.

LJ
(In a bad mood. Sorry.)

You have asked a very good question.   As a woman, I would suggest that the best policy is communication.  

If you are a new client, you should without question take care of the lady at her current rate.

Established clients of ladies that have increased there rate over time should communicate with the lady. Most ladies will give a "special" rate to a long time, regular client.  

Communication is a good thing, however, in regard to the "be brutally honest" theory.   I would say remember that these ladies are real people with feelings.  Try to be a gentleman and use care in what you say and how you say it.

As far as tipping, it should be appreciate not expected.

Sabra