I'm going to say it any way. References are important. Most providers will not see you if you do not have any references.  A provider is taking a chance seeing you without references because you are new.  Most likely, you gave her your personal information for her to be willing to see you.

...to not go well such that an exaggerated review would be needed. My first few sessions went quite well.

There's others but I'm not posting them. Read back.  

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Great in baseball, not great on the Newbie board.

I'm glad you brought that up. Newbies, who happen to be reading this post, will find out soon enough why I used the word "exaggerated". Again, some will balk at this.

Newbies AND experienced reviewers should NOT be encouraged to write exaggerated or dishonest reviews. Not writing a review at all is perfectly fine. Nobody is required to write a review, but encouraging people to exaggerate a review is not a good thing.  

juicy details in reviews, you need to have TER VIP. Just looking at a provider's profile without VIP is useless. Also, do not rely on the provider profile, read the reviews. Profiles are set by the first reviewer and often times not very accurate.

and I think yu are saying not to review so harshly with the hindsite that your expectations may have been unrelistic and influenced the overall satisfaction OR perhaps YOUR performance in those first meetings.  I certainly have met newbies that were so nervous and excited that they  were, let's say not on their A Game.  I found it charming, but they may interpret it later as SHE did not get me going even with all those fab reviews.  We are not magicians, lol, but most of us can get you to relax and vibe.  

Have told me not to write negative reviews if it was my first time. I say fuck that. Its my hard earned money and if i had a less than stellar experience i am going to write about it. Maybe its because time was shorted, her performance left a lot to be desired, or she didnt deliver as promised. This is still a community and frankly i think the trash needs to be honestly weeded out with transparent reviews. Plus, if you are personable and honest, you should be able to get an appointment as a newbie, OR find providers that are well established and newbie friendly, and build your book of references. Anyone with common sense can do that. Dont muddy the waters with bogus and superfluous reviews because that fucks shit up for other hobbyists as well as the provider who will want to use reviews as a way to teach herself that A) how to improve or B) tell her get the fuck out of the industry because she doesnt belong.

..excellent point: the profile is set by the first reviewer and the provider.  Who came up with that idea?  Obviously, the provider sets his/her own profile, duh!!!  The first reviewer sets it as well...ok.  That's it?  Why exactly does it stop there?

"Obviously the provider sets his/her own profile, duh"  

If you don't know the answer to a question don't just take a wild ass guess about it and then try to pass it off as "advice" to the other newbies.

If I see a provider profile on TER, and it lists services provided, are they accurate?  Can anything be done to improve the system?

but if she lists a particular service that is very important to you and you don't see it mentioned in her reviews, and only see it in the profile, Lets say "Greek' is that's important to you, the best way to be sure is by "back channel" which means to PM her reviewers and ask them.

...as an aside, shout out to "anonymous" for good looking out, saw something fishy and PM'd me for it