you've seen before and he contacted you about your availability on a particular date, sending him a short email, text, or phone call to find out if he still wants to see you isn't the same as "communicating out of the blue."  If the shoe were on the other foot and it was a lady I wanted to see given the same facts, I'd be inclined to contact her to see if we were still "on" for the next day, and if so, get the details worked out.

My first thought would be to send a quick email simply saying "still interested?"

I don't feel it would be contacting him "out of the blue" as he had made an inquiry.

Personally, I don't like how people communicate in the cyber world. Ignoring people is not the right way to do things, people should be able to say "no thank you" or "sorry I changed my mind" instead of leaving someone hanging.

To be clear, I am speaking of the gent, not you Sarah.

Today's world is much different than the way I was raised.

Why?  He contacted you first, you've seen him before, you have already let him know you're available.  IMHO, he's the one in the wrong in this case.  He led you to believe he would see you on such and such a date, then didn't follow up one way or another.  Bad manners on his part, I think.  

I would not assume the engagement is on as he has not firmed up a time or location, so I would send him a very short inquiry, like 'still interested?'  The onus for this situation is on him, not you, Sarah.

Swim

f this were a new client, I would prob. assume that no appointment has been confirmed and I would tell you to move on and forget about him. Since you haven't set the time nor the place, he would have no idea when and where to go to meet you.  

However, since it's a client you have seen before (and presume you want to see again), there is nothing wrong with sending him an E-mail to confirm. You are certainly within your right to say "Hi, its Sarah. You had inquired about my availability on X date and wanted to see if you were still planning on seeing me. Please let me know so we can finalize our appointment".  There is nothing invasive about receiving that E-mail.

You are not a mind reader (nor should you be), Frankly, any professional hobbyist (More like unpaid volunteer...but I digress), who thinks they have an appointment the next day, should have long ago confirmed the specific details. If the appointment is not going to happen, you have every right to move on and make other plans. No hobbyist should ever leave you wondering

Send a confirmation email that goes something like this:

Hi (first name)

I am just confirming our appointment for tomorrow at (said time o'clock).  I will contact you approximately an hour before for address, directions, and instructions. Please respond to confirm and if anything has changed please let me know asap.

B xoxo

Then if I don't get a response by the end of the day, I will send one more email or a text (another way of contact) ... If nothing within 2 hours of appt I send o e last one stating I assume the appt is canceled.

If there was no time discussed then I would assume no appointment was really made. One email to check in and see if he still wanted to set up the appt ... Just wondering why you waited until the day before to set a time if there wasn't one set. Communication on both parts is important ... Why didn't he respond with "great I will see you at (whatever time) on (whatever day)". Seems like possibly neither of you moved forward on finalizing the appt.  Either one of you could have clarified.  

If you dont mind letting us know what happened with the possible appt .... Did he think there was one? Was there a time? Did things work out? Its always good to learn from others and good communication is something we all need to continue to be aware of.

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If it's someone you've seen before and know pretty well, I would email asking if you're still on because you can't just be prepared last minute. No pressure on him one way or the other, but you need to know, or it's not going to happen.

Thanks guys! I wrote him in the end this afternoon. I will let you know how it goes.  The first email inquired about my availability and said he'd get back to me with more information regarding time and location, to which I responded confirming my availability. His last email to me was thanking me for confirming the date.

are you going to do, hold the whole day for him...  or maybe go get your hair done or go shopping...   Certainly a day in advance, a gentle prompting would be courteous, though this really falls on him.  If he does not firm up the appointment, then safe to say it's not happening.

My last 2 appointments were not well communicated.  The first...  blame on both of us though her 20 minute rant when I arrived wasn't much fun...  The second, just yesterday, I had a confirmed appointment the night before but she saw the snow storm & assumed I wasn't coming...  I made the second call & she was surprised.  we did make it work.  But I should have called or messaged  when I decided to go for it.

"can we meet at 'X' time for 'Y' hours? I will be staying at 'Z' hotel in the airport area."

If he didn't respond with a time and location, he most likely has either had something come up that prevents the meet or he has moved on.