I would like honest feedback from both providers and hobbyists. Feel free to call me an asshole and to just be critical in general. I'm seeing my my provider who is out of state, because she is that good, but I'm starting to wonder if it's a good idea.
The first time I saw her, she stiffed me by half an hour.
She has NEVER said she is sorry for anything and lies all the time to me which makes me certain she is a sociopath.
I don't consider her a friend, but on her birthday, I sent her a small gift. She wanted my address and my birthday because she claimed she would send me a card. Of course, I didn't receive anything. Since she said she was going to do something, it just would have been nice if she actually did it. And then tonight, I got in a pretty big argument with her about a political issue.
I'm starting to think it just might not be worth it. Then again, I'm probably being an asshole. Should I cancel?
You offer a long list of criticisms, any one of which is grounds to not see her again. Clearly, there must be something about her that attracts you, but all you say is "she is that good." My feeling is, I'd cancel but only if you're still able to give her enough notice. You made the date knowing full well about the negatives, so you have a certain level of obligation, which is to give her enough time to make another date. If you do see her, my advice is to keep the talking to a minimum.
Based on what you wrote, which really isn't much, seems to me you should find another escort to play with. BTW, if I had a $ for every time a provider was a 1/2 hour late and/or lied to me, I'd be a really really,rich hobbyists. And waiting for an apology, please are you kidding me.
Not sure how you define "a pretty big arguement" comment, but the hobby is supposed to be all about having fun, not getting in arguements. Sounds to me more like you have your own issues and one of them might be "falling for a provider and can't get up" syndrome. No one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to see her. And what in the world were you thinking when you gave her your address.
If you can give sufficient notice I recommend you cancel. But only if you can give notice in time. I definitely think it's time to move on and not see her anymore. Find one that rocks your world with out the drama. Hell, you can get a wife or GF to behave the way this lady has though they would actually remember your birthday. I'm wondering why you didn't move on already. Hobby for fun not drama.
It's sounds like he is describing my ex.
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I recommend you see providers closer to you for some comparison, if you haven't already. Then you will have a better basis of whether seeing her again is worth it. And ask yourself why you feel a need to see this provider if she treats you the way she does. Remember sometimes provider and client really click and sometimes they don't. It may be time to move on.
and she is taking advantage of that. Sending her a B-day gift? Dude. Your gut tells you to cancel, you're just looking for confirmation from us. I say cancel and find another provider.
You sure as shooting aren't going to find it here...that's for sure.
You create this drama (perhaps you aren't recognizing that YOU'RE the problem)...want to dump the issue on this gal...and are starting to realize that you don't want the drama.
As others have suggested it is time to move on...but you better do some serious "soul searching" to define just what you are looking for in P4P. You may be much better served to go and play on match or eharmony.
see a reason NOT to cancel unless the time frame is too short. I'd rather give her a little $ for canceling close to the appointment rather than the full amount and have a bad experience.
Move on!
Over and over and expect a different outcome. I am not saying you are stupid, but you need a wakeup call. How many times have you seen her? She has already ripped you off. Yes, I said ripped you off. You spent your hard earned money to pay for her companionship for a certain amount of time and she failed to deliver as promised. She shorted you.
If she were a painter who quoted a job based upon time and materials and finished early, he may hold you to the original quote saying it was an estimate and you agreed to the price. However, if it were an appointment with a shrink who sells his time by the hour, you would expect to have that full hour as you should.
Don't kid yourself. Had it gone over, she would have expected additional compensation.
An argument, especially a big one, over politics. Is she nuts? It is okay to disagree about politics, economics, environmental issues, etc. However, she is not a coworker or friend and an overly heated debate that becomes a fight would sure put a damper on things unless you are into the whole angry sex thing. Sounds like you are not. *wink*
My view of a compensated companion is simple. It is my responsibillity to create an oasis for my clients, free from the stress of the everyday world. If a client wishes to talk politics and hear my views as well, I will do so, even though there are far less controversial topics to talk about. If I disagree with his political leanings, or he mine, I won't just agree with his viewpoint. Rather, I would tactfully say that we should agree to disagree and move to other topics or activities. *wink*
In creating my oasis, I want my client to relax from the stresses of the day or problems in life. I want him to leave, feeling pampered and spent, but yet recharged having worked off some of the tension. I want him to leave with a smile and a warm memory, rather than irritated and even more stressed after a heated argument.
If this provider doesn't leave you feeling this way...IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON. Save the arguments and political debates for your family, friends and colleagues and find someone who understands that it is a priviledge to see you. You have many other choices and you chose to spend time with (and obviously spend your money on) her.
Good luck. (And again, I wasn't calling you stupid but WAS saying that what you were doing was dumb! Lol)
who are stupid who try and use insanity as a "defense" 
Hence my disclaimers in my post. I never want deliberately hurt anyones feelings. Lol
You seem to have a contentious marriage going on in every aspect of such relationships. You stated that the provider lies to you. Why do you continue wanting to deal with her. You make the hobby way harder than it is. Move on. There are multitudes of solid providers living in or travelling to your region that won't lie to you and won't cause drama for you.
Thanks, everyone, for the reply. Sorry I'm now just responding, but I just now saw that my post ended up in this forum.
I'm very tempted to cancel, but I'm just afraid this person would retaliate against me. I've told her who I work for and I gave her my address, which were totally stupid things to do, but I just wasn't thinking at the time.
If I were to cancel, I'd be very nice about it, but I'm just afraid that she might try to get back at me. I tend to worry about ridiculous things a lot. I definitely have OCD, if you know what I mean.
Is my fear of retaliation legitimate?
I can't tell you what to do about the session you have booked but sure do not book another one! You don't know your freakin schedule yet.
You ought to be able to cancel with enough time... Lots of providers "know" people's information, much of it given in screening. I don't know her... some providers will black list for no reason at all... and some black lists ae publicly searcheable.
The safest thing would be to do this session & walk away.
Are you using a hobby phone & hobby email? Times like this some separation between hobby & civie lives appreciated.
You ought to be able to cancel with enough time... Lots of providers "know" people's information, much of it given in screening. I don't know her... some providers will black list for no reason at all... and some black lists ae publicly searcheable.
The safest thing would be to do this session & walk away.
Are you using a hobby phone & hobby email? Times like this some separation between hobby & civie lives appreciated.
Or follow through and do not book again.
but she is a b*! No way could I treat a guy like that, especially if he is seeking something in me that he needs. Your wasting your time and money on a chick that doesn't know her role. Her body may be hot but her attitude sucks and then how can any of the perks be good if she's not willing to be connected to you or do the basics to foster the relationship? There are way too many girls out there that you can click with and relax and enjoy yourself and to not have to put up with the BS...
Bullshit walks...
Do what ever you must to protect yourself. Forget about her. YOU are the only one who will look after YOU. Act in your own best interest.