Today both for asking if i'm GFE then BOTH asked how much are my rates for the hour. When my rates are clearly on my site and my ad! I'm getting a bit frustrated that's 5 guys in the past month. I know i have no reviews so its hard to say rather i am GFE but come on fellas this is making it soo hard for me to trust you, i will simply turn you down no question's and i hate that (unless you are indeed LE). My safety comes first. Small rant please any advice i'd hate to be turning down good guys. One, i even got a reference from a well known provider. But still he asked if i'm GFE and my rate when that's clearly stated.
Maybe i'm paranoid but its still a no go no if ands or buts.
Please remember that a lot us guys are pretty stupid about these things to begin with and we probably lose another 20 IQ points when we are actually on the phone talking a real girl. (I'm thinking of teenager Jimmy Stewart talking like an idiot to teenager Donna Reed in "It's a Wonderful Life.") We read the pages, we are desperate for something to say and do not have a clue ... so out if blubs.
Mind you, that's just some of us. There are some creeps out there who know better but just want to give you a hard time.
Rant away but don't compromise your procedures or do anything that makes you uncomfortabale.
(BTW ... where are you?
In fact, it is a great quality in this bizz.... What you can do is to, ask them to please read all the content on your website should they have any questions. You can also say that "My hourly rate is (enter amount) for my time and companionship". It is important to reinstate the amount at some point so no confusions ever happen (very common). There is nothing wrong with stating companionship because that is not illegal. You can also write somewhere that "explicit emails, or phone conversations will be terminated immediately and will not receive a response"
I hope this helps!
No doubt I've asked some foolish questions when I was brand, brand, brand spanking new that probably made some providers question what I am all about. Now that I am merely brand new, I do things that in hindsight I think "oh, that was dumb of me".
Nonetheless, when in doubt, don't take any chances. Trust your gut. Better to be paranoid than busted
I won't take the risk, it just bugs me that i know for a fact one of these men knows better (he needs a spanking). I'm located in Minneapolis love. Thanks for the advice everyone that's why i LOVE this community!!
slackening your screening requirements or compromising your menu options. If a guy doesn't want to give you what you need to be safe, he can move on.
Hi Mariah!
This is kind of funny because I was looking at your site and some of your posts just today.
I liked your photos, but since you have no reviews and don't give out any clues on your website, I didn't know what your menu was like, so I simply passed instead of contacting you.
That information is very important for me to know before I attempt to book a date.
Out of the 5 guys in the last month you have turned down, haven't any of them posted several reviews, been "whitelisted" or have a consistent presence on the message boards? Surely you could do some basic verification and then let them know if you are GFE or not.
Maybe you can be a little creative and either write, or have a potential client write, a description of a "fantasy date", you could then let them know if they would be disappointed in a meeting with you.
Hard to understand the questions about your rates, they are clearly stated, although you don't list longer session rates.
I sense your frustration in your posts at not being able to get that first review, but you also don't say anywhere I can see if you are GFE. Pm me if you feel like it.
You must do what you have to do to feel safe.
Good luck!
Makes perfect sense i've been thinking that that's clearly the problem with some of the gentlemen not knowing what exactly i provide. Yes one gentleman does have about 5 reviews all DIY though. PM is being sent love!
This is kind of funny because I was looking at your site and some of your posts just today.
I liked your photos, but since you have no reviews and don't give out any clues on your website, I didn't know what your menu was like, so I simply passed instead of contacting you.
That information is very important for me to know before I attempt to book a date.
Out of the 5 guys in the last month you have turned down, haven't any of them posted several reviews, been "whitelisted" or have a consistent presence on the message boards? Surely you could do some basic verification and then let them know if you are GFE or not.
Maybe you can be a little creative and either write, or have a potential client write, a description of a "fantasy date", you could then let them know if they would be disappointed in a meeting with you.
Hard to understand the questions about your rates, they are clearly stated, although you don't list longer session rates.
I sense your frustration in your posts at not being able to get that first review, but you also don't say anywhere I can see if you are GFE. Pm me if you feel like it.
You must do what you have to do to feel safe.
Good luck!
Continue to do what makes you feel safe and comfortable. As in all service businesses, it takes time to build a clientele base. There will be some set backs, but provide a good service, be reliable and deal fare and you will succeed.
I get freaked out when any one asks those kinds of questions and I do the same thing I will not see them there are to many guys out there that will simply say they want to see you submit there references and set a date and time so like every one has always told me there is no money worth your safety and comfortability
Xoxo
you want them to know so they can book correctly. Refer questions to your web site. Just refer them back. At a certain point you might come up with a line like "You are freaking me out. The answers are on my web site. Why do you keep asking?" If that doesn't solve it, I'd forget about seeing them. WHY?
Because so much of this hobby is about trust... and the ability to follow simple directions. Where to call from. Where to park. Don't make a scene in the hall. Don't put your fingers there. etc.
It's not all one way. I'm trusting you to deliver as promised.
OK, I probably screwed up because I'm newish but when you're making email plans with a provider, and her website/ad says Greek offered, is it a no-no to mention that I'd like a trip to the isles in the email?
If it's extra for the "extra", I'd like to know to bring the right donation.
I've had a few providers say it's offered but many seem to need to prepare for it ahead of time. So how do you let them know ahead of time without raising LE alarm bells for them, or putting them at risk?
Thanks!