How to start? First, make a list (If you are a VIP member you can use the "My Favorites" list under "Account Manager," and make notes there) of all the ladies you just got to have. Then, do your homework and find the ones that are well reviewed (good reviews by multiple reviewers, who themselves have multiple reviews). Then, though it's a ways off, start by contacting those ladies, and telling them of your plans and concerns. I imagine you might do best with more established ladies, and MILF types, but keep your list long enough so you have plenty of flexibility in case, due to scheduling conflicts, you have to go to plan b, or c, or even d. Good Luck.

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The waters fine, the babes are hot and the drinks are cold.  Have some fun.

Gosh, I didn't realize I kinda sounded like the devil there. LOL

As someone who was recently in your position, I'd recommend looking for someone close to your age. This isn't to take anything away from the younger ladies, but you are likely to be nervous and having some shared life experiences (tastes in music for instance) will give you something to talk about. That and the idea of being with someone my daughter's age still freaks me out (but I'm working up to it!) My experiences with MILFs is that they are understanding and willing and able to help you take the plunge. And if you are thinking that a MILF will be too similar to your wife, trust me, if your wife were like these ladies, you wouldn't be thinking of stepping out on her! So far, everyone I've seen has been an E-ticket ride.

Sometimes the older GFE providers are so into the GFE aspect of the experience that you can be left working in the habitual positions and styles. You might like someone younger and wilder. It's really up to you. You can go for whatever you want. I wouldn't be scared off my someone who is reviewed as being high energy. Remember, you'll be excited as hell during the experience. You'll be able to do things you wouldn't imagine.

For my first experience i would try to make sure that the provider is absolutely physically a turn-on for you, whether you like big or small breasts, tall or short, spinner or full figured. If she physically gets your juices flowing, it will set you off. And who the hell cares if you're a first grader in this arena? You're paying. You can do whatever you want with the time. If you want to indulge in 69 for 30 minutes, go right ahead. Personally, I recommend standing doggie, with you standing by the side of the bed and the provider crouching on the bed, or standing as well depending on her height. It's a very easy position. The visuals are great and many providers like it a great deal. it will also make you feel like a porn stud, which is always fun when you're 53. Good luck!

O.k. Jon54, I'm going to grab & shake you: what are you afraid of?  And why do you need to wait for a trip to San Diego?  You sound like a mouseketeer waiting for the last train to Disneyland.

Join a verification service like P411, cross-check their listings against the TER boards, then find someone this week, a provider in your hometown.  And stop talking about San Diego.

One-more-thing: if you act weak & uncertain during your first session, you're going to make the provider nervous or angry.  This 'delicate flower' routine of yours may work for an 18 year old boy, but it's a disaster for a 53 year old man.  During that first session with your provider, act like you know what you're doing.
--z