new at this ,but is there a proper way to ask a provider her do's or don'ts before making appointment ?

and that's why taking one for the team is always a dicey experience.

As for other dos and don'ts many providers include a page of etiquette on their sites to cover issues like how to arrange the envelope, how to dress, etc.

You can also always ask about non sexual things like clothing, music, etc.

(By the way, don't use apostrophes to create plurals of words.  Each time you do a kitten dies, and we all don't want that to happen, do we?  8o)

Asking for sexual services before you meet is frowned at and most will not see you if you do so. It reeks of LE and/or a complete lack of discretion. As you are new stay with reviewed ladies. This kind of post is better for the newbie board than the GD board. People are less likely to bite there.

Seeing an non-reviewed provider is a roll of the dice in many ways.  Aside from not knowing if she's legit or not you really have no way of knowing what she will or will not do. Before the internet existed men simply took a shot.  While I would recommend that newbies stick to well reviewed ladies I know that some guys are always going to take a chance.  At least be as sure as you can that it's not a sting by checking for some sort of posting history, advertising history or web site. There is no way to guarantee what sort of service you will get but it does minimize the chance of her turning out to be LE.

but you can politely inquire if she has reviews somewhere or a web site which might give more information.  She might direct you...  or take offense...  
Newbies (as we all were once) do best if they see well reviewed ladies.  Scams, upsells are more likely than LE but best to be as sure as possible.

newbies are advised to only see well-reviewed providers.  By reading the reviews, you can learn her do's and don'ts.

Most providers, if asked sexual/lewd questions will usually not see that client. (I personally will not even respond to any emails that mention sexual/lewd topics)..

To find out about her do's and dont's, first look at her menu (which every provider has, as long as she has 1review).. If no reviews, then I would go to her personal website to research, and definitely check out her etiquette section! (Which to me, is very important).. I tell every guy who is newer to TER to read that before we go any further to prevent our conversation from going the wrong way!  

Other than that, good luck!! Just remember better to be safe than sorry! ((I think everyone has a few bad experiences, so if you do- remember your not alone!!))  

Xoxo Kayden.

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