but not a whole lot of experience exspecially with independents mostly a classy service that tours my area quite often. but i always seem like i wish i would asked for this are that after the time is up, is it ok to ask a lady what i can are can't do after funds are exchanged and we get more comfortable.

when you are in the heat of passion, thats a different story. Most women wont have a problem then. Or ask after round one. Or if you have seen her before, then as away. But for a first time encounter? No. Thats what TER is for in the first place.

"what do you like?"   If you have something in mind, you could give a non-explicit hint.  I'd not recommend bringing it up.  When you're in the deed, you could whisper suggestions & see what happens...

If she does not have reviews, you're taking a chance anyway, so stick with women who don't force you to have a decoder ring to find out their rates, services, and even the damn city lol. NO, If a guy started asking me crazy sex questions after he arrived, I would probably just tell him to take a hike.

But realize that since you already gave her the funds, she can always say, "No, that's extra."

Read the reviews...that gives you a very good idea as to what to expect.  The review database is the reason this site exists.

you should know if it's on her menu if you have done your research.  Reading the reviews is the most basic part of research.  Visit the ones that you know provide what you want and you can avoid embarrassing moments like you describe.  I would never see a provider not knowing if she does the things I expect to occur during our date.

Swim