That is only time I have done outcall, traveling.  I can't do incall at home, but prefer incall anyway.  I think it's more important for her to feel safe in her own environment, than for me.  If she feels safer, I feel you will have a better date.

Lou

not sure I want to give them the home field advantage, but I don't necessarily want them to show up at my doorstep either. request thoughts on whats best way for newbies to go?

Unless you want to rent a room on your dollar for an outcall.  It is never a good idea to have a provider you have not yet met come to your house, or apartment.  Think about it.....  You should only invite someone you are familiar with to your home, and that ain't the case if it's your first date with her.

Lou

Yep, unless your in a travel situation and have the room already I'd go with incall.

I've read countless reviews of outcall sessions telling how the provider kept making the guy wait, calling to make excuses, leaving him at her mercy. Of course, she can do the same with an incall, but if she does you can decide when to cut bait and move on to Plan B.

Likewise, if it turns out she's not the girl in her pics, it can be easier for you to just walk away than it would be to get her to leave peacefully. All of which reinforces what has been said about doing outcalls only with known, trusted providers.

Especially for newbies, it's better to leave all the details of discreetly choosing the room and having it ready to the provider, who has more experience that. Other than the newbie butterflies of the first couple of incalls, the whole experience should be simpler and less stressful that way.

I agree that with incall, you can leave if you feel uncomfortable or if the girl is not the one in the photos. I have turned around and left several times when I was not pleased with how the girl looked, but that was back in the days before internet.

If the girls keeps you waiting you can decide when to leave and not waste any more of your time.

I have had girls over to my place a hand full of times.  It's been years since I've done outcall.  I suppose those times I did not feel like driving or just wanted "delivery" instead of going out.  I do greatly prefer incall and feel that's the way to go.  I was ripped off once when a girl came over to my place.  Your chances of getting ripped off at an incall are non-existent.  She can't take your money and run out the door. Though she could still give you crappy service.

For me, doing incall, I don't feel the need to have my placed cleaned up or "entertain" her.  I feel safer going out than inviting someone in, even it's it's a well reviewed provider.  I live in a building and don't need neighbors possibly asking me questions later.

When they someone for the first time, they prefer to meet them at their hotel. Once a client is a "regular" they're happy to go to his home. Getting a girl to go to someone's private home first time round is scary business.

I suppose anything is possible.  If the provider is meeting you somewhere that is not her place, yeah you are right.  I made an assumption that she'd be working in her own home/apt.  She could be meeting in a hotel rented out by someone else who'd already left.  

.... if you don't want the girl to show up to your door....you can book a hotel room for you to meet in.

There usually is a price difference, and it indicates what the provider prefers. Save the money (or apply it to a longer date), take the preferred option, and do that part her way. Lots of benefits to keeping your new friend relaxed and happy to start.

Having said that, for purely practical reasons I almost always do incall when playing at home, and do whatever the provider prefers when traveling (usually incall again, but it makes little difference to me).

Most providers seem to prefer incall, probably because of a number of things including less down time, but some cannot host, or prefer not to because of perceived risks, or whatever.

zig

hosting has it's benefits once you know who's going to show up. Kind of a crack up, the last few times I've had ladies over to my place seems to coincide when all my neighbors are out in their front yards and they get a nice bit of gossip. Another plus to hosting is if you like to party, you can enjoy an adult beverage while you wait in your lazy boy for her to show up, and not have to worry about driving around or parking hassles, imo.

If you are visiting her city and have a hotel anyway, think outcall, since those damn phone navigation apps like to recalculate the route at crucial moments when missing the off ramp to the right turn off can really hose you up.