There have been threads and comments on this and many girls do that type of "screening". I think it depends on where you are located in the US and what they are after that determines what LE will do to get an arrest. I do agree that seeing someone for lunch or dinner before the "act" is not smart either because just in saying that you are assuming there is an after party lol. Plus escorts are paid for time and companionship which is what lunch and dinner are. I personally would not use that as a way to screen but you are right many do. Whether or not she is just trying to get more money out of him or she has been told/believes that is good screening IDK but he has to decide if its worth "paying" for the verification.
Hi All,
I'm not exactly a newbie, but it's been a while. There is a provider I'm interested in seeing. I reached out to two other providers I've seen in the past for references and they both claimed they weren't sure who I was. I think they're just fishing for another session to "remember" me ($$$). Nice try.
So, the provider I'm trying to see now says she will skip the references if I agree to have lunch or dinner with her (before the main event) and that that time needs to be paid too.
Any thoughts? This doesn't sound totally kosher to me, but, again, it's been a while, so, maybe this is what the kids are doing these days. I don't know. There is very little potential for me to be blackmailed so I don't necessarily give a damn if some guy is taking pictures of us at lunch or whatever (just one scenario that came to my mind), but I'm hesitant.
Thanks.
to be compensated for all time spent with a client, whether it's play time or just having dinner. She might give you a reduced rate for the dinner, but of course you will be expected to pick up the check.
IMHO, it depends on how bad you want to see her, and if you can afford the extra non-play time. In light of your situation, it might not be a bad idea to go along with her request.
Swim
...the lady who will bypass references for lunch or dinner is taking advantage of you.
While I do ask for references, I rarely check them, as other means of screening are much more important to me. My question is: why is the lady trading safety for lunch or dinner, when you could easily be LE? It is not uncommon for LE to meet a lady in a public venue, and then present her with the gift of "silver bracelets" after retiring to the room.
I truly believe that the lady in question is not out to blackmail you, but just wants to make a few extra dollars.
As Leroy Jethro Gibbs says: go with your gut.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
Just curious what other screening methods can be useful? I do ask for references, especially if they are not a member to any forums or boards. What tools can a provider use to screen new clients. I'm a newbie in the industry and I continue to receive inquires from new suitors . I don't know what to do when they are not a member and/or they don't have references. Any insight?
to screen, on theory that LE would not waste time on a lunch just for a sting.
LE does that shit all the time.
Yup, intent laws say they can arrest us at a Coffee shop, bar, mall, etc. You do not have to have or even discuss sex to be arrested when you are contacted on your escort email from your escort site. People who have guys meet in public to screen them, are beyond ignorant. That's not screening.
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But the number of guys who ask to be screened that way is astounding. No me gusta.
I think a lot of people believe in this myth the way a lot of people still believe that a cop can't touch you/be touched, can't deny that he/she is with LE, can't drink on duty, etc.
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the lunch idea was posted on TER with the rationale that I re-stated. But you're the experts and I should not have repeated a rumor. Don't want to get anyone in trouble!
There have been threads and comments on this and many girls do that type of "screening". I think it depends on where you are located in the US and what they are after that determines what LE will do to get an arrest. I do agree that seeing someone for lunch or dinner before the "act" is not smart either because just in saying that you are assuming there is an after party lol. Plus escorts are paid for time and companionship which is what lunch and dinner are. I personally would not use that as a way to screen but you are right many do. Whether or not she is just trying to get more money out of him or she has been told/believes that is good screening IDK but he has to decide if its worth "paying" for the verification.
London and I were just saying that it's a pointless way to screen.
anyone who relies on a meal-meet for LE screening might end up being sorry!
For my punishment for being sorry, I will allow the three of you to spank me. For free!
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Similar thing happened to me after I had taken a break from the hobby. Many providers won't give you a reference, but are still willing to see you! Funny how that works.
AFTER they see you they are happy to give a reference. I simply booked a date with the gal I had seen in the past and that "got me in the door" for the new gal, now I had two current references and away we go!
It must be frustrating for a gal to give out references if her business is slow.
Good luck and have fun!
I'm not exactly a newbie, but it's been a while. There is a provider I'm interested in seeing. I reached out to two other providers I've seen in the past for references and they both claimed they weren't sure who I was. I think they're just fishing for another session to "remember" me ($$$). Nice try.
So, the provider I'm trying to see now says she will skip the references if I agree to have lunch or dinner with her (before the main event) and that that time needs to be paid too.
Any thoughts? This doesn't sound totally kosher to me, but, again, it's been a while, so, maybe this is what the kids are doing these days. I don't know. There is very little potential for me to be blackmailed so I don't necessarily give a damn if some guy is taking pictures of us at lunch or whatever (just one scenario that came to my mind), but I'm hesitant.
Thanks.
Thank you. I think I'll just pay a visit to one of my old acquaintances. I guess I do need to get back in the door.
Bye.
AFTER they see you they are happy to give a reference. I simply booked a date with the gal I had seen in the past and that "got me in the door" for the new gal, now I had two current references and away we go!
It must be frustrating for a gal to give out references if her business is slow.
Good luck and have fun!
I'm not exactly a newbie, but it's been a while. There is a provider I'm interested in seeing. I reached out to two other providers I've seen in the past for references and they both claimed they weren't sure who I was. I think they're just fishing for another session to "remember" me ($$$). Nice try.
So, the provider I'm trying to see now says she will skip the references if I agree to have lunch or dinner with her (before the main event) and that that time needs to be paid too.
Any thoughts? This doesn't sound totally kosher to me, but, again, it's been a while, so, maybe this is what the kids are doing these days. I don't know. There is very little potential for me to be blackmailed so I don't necessarily give a damn if some guy is taking pictures of us at lunch or whatever (just one scenario that came to my mind), but I'm hesitant.
Thanks.
And, to be honest, I don't like giving them. You men like to feel special and so do I. Some other girl calls asking if you're cool kills my vibe. Blah blah blah, I know, hobbyists see plenty of other providers, but, you know, I'm special. :P
I do ask for them, though, on occasion, particularly for outcalls. I occasionally know the referenced provider, so, in that case, I'll totally call her up
I do ask for them, though, on occasion, particularly for outcalls. I occasionally know the referenced provider, so, in that case, I'll totally call her up.
I don't think it's wise to begrudge people asking for references. References are extremely important for the safety of other providers. I would never not give one, personally.
Anyway-- the ladies who have posted saying meeting for lunch is a pointless way to screen are correct. There is no way to know he isn't LE or the next Ted Bundy, and you certainly can't tell that just by chatting with him over lunch.
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There's a million and one ways to screen without references. If you don't know them, I'd say you should maybe research them.
I'm just surprised, because those ways aren't typically very private and many won't give out that kind of personal info. Not to mention, there's no real way to know how someone behaves in a sexual situation from most of them (but then again, past behavior in a sexual situation doesn't always predict future behavior, so obviously references aren't foolproof either.)