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No tips required or expected. Swimtrekr is right. ...
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...You ask the question as if you think you're obligated to tip. You are not. Consider you are already paying her a lot of money for the session. I like swimtrekr have taken gifts after having seen the provider a few times. I have tipped but I don't do it as a matter of course.  If you decide to give a gift keep it simple.

thenobody1870 reads

It's my frist time on TER and im about to go get some goooooood goooood....

I was wondering how much do u guys usually tip for the first time and can I buy gifts instead of tipping?

Much thanks!

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swimtrekr771 reads

Most quality providers do not expect tips or ask for them.  Many will say the best tip is a request for a return visit.  A lot of guys, myself included, will bring gifts.  I generally give them a VS gift card and a candle set, never had a refusal.  But, its totally up to you.  I'd suggest do nothing for your first few dates, then maybe carry some extra cash and it the date is exceptional in your mind, leave some extra cash for her, how much is up to you.

PM me if you want specifics on what I give.

Swi

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...You ask the question as if you think you're obligated to tip. You are not. Consider you are already paying her a lot of money for the session. I like swimtrekr have taken gifts after having seen the provider a few times. I have tipped but I don't do it as a matter of course.  If you decide to give a gift keep it simple.

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VixenBijou622 reads

tips are NEVER expected but always appreciated! If a provider has given you a really amazing experience, or if you've become a regular, tips, or gifts, are a nice way to say, "I want to keep seeing you and respect you as a great provider." Some providers, like myself, have a wish list, or gift list for clients who might wish to give a little extra, everything from what kinds of bath products we like to more extravagant items. But like I said, it's not an expectation from most of us ;)

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JackDunphy524 reads

Just a question though. Don't you think if a guy that has become a girl's "regular", that that would be an added reason for him NOT to spend even MORE money on her?

I mean if he is already providing good money to you on a consistent basis, isn't that MORE than enough?  

If anything, in that specific case, shouldn't the gal be saying to HIM "I want to keep seeing you and respect you as a great provider of money for me" and then grant him some OTC time to show HER appreciation?

Thanks and welcome again! Hope to see you post more often.

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VixenBijou558 reads

I guess it really depends. Again I certainly don't expect gifts, but let us say that, hypothetically, a situation develops where someone wants to see a provider, for a longer date, but on a regular basis. Hypothetically a provider might adjust her rates to reflect the fact that even though the longer dates might be more expensive, due to the regularity, the base might drop, even significantly, to reflect the frequency of the dates. Wouldn't you say a gift to show appreciation for that might be, not indicated, but certainly well received?

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JackDunphy900 reads

And sure, if a guy wants to give a gift after the girl has shown her appreciation with OTC, that is up to him and yes, I am sure in almost all cases that would be well received by the gal.

Again, welcome to TER and I hope to see you post more here and on the other boards here as well if you desire

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VixenBijou540 reads

And yes, I'm *very* new to TER :D

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VixenBijou560 reads

Thank you kindly, sir ;)

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JackDunphy663 reads

I can see where you came to believe one or the other is the etiquette, based on some of the ladies and guys views here. It certainly is not as MANY guys hobby w/o ever tipping or gifting.  

Many girls here make a fortune on an hourly basis. Just remember that part.

Hobby any way that you want, whatever makes you enjoy it more. I just didn't want you to think you were obligated at all to do one or the other.  

Doing neither is perfectly acceptable in p4p and no one will say a word if you don't (hopefully) and they will all see you in the future if you choose to do neither.

Just thought I'd give you a different view. Have fun!

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Lately there has been some discussion here to the effect that some who rarely post here need to come check things out to be sure the newbies are getting the "correct" information about how this should be done. They just don't know what the newbies would do if it wasn't for them. If you believe them you would think only providers and clueless mongers hand out advice here and a newbies understanding of things could be skewed by their instruction.

There are plenty here that post on a regular basis that have no trouble telling it like it is.

You and I have agreed in the past as we did this time. The last statement in your reply to the OP, "Just thought I'd give you a different view.", was my opportunity to point out that your view and those that agree with you is regularly stated here.  

I notice you post good advice here often.  

I invite those others to post here as well but leave the condescension over on the other boards.

Sorry if my "one liner" came across as terse or to strong.

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GaGambler628 reads

and truth be told, I meant to include your name when I listed the guys that this board needs. Others of course would include PerfectStorm, mrfisher, Swim, and several others, too many to name.

My point when I made my post was that the "other side" besides the provider POV needs to be heard here, my apologies if I made it sound as if there were only a couple of us doing so, that was not my intention.

and yes, I know you didn't say it was me, but my guilty conscience knows better, you have my sincere apologies.

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StinaValentine462 reads

If I ever made an appointment with a lady working for an agency, I'd think it would be normal to tip. She's only making a portion of what you paid. I don't know how much though. I'm indy and have received tips from $20-$80.

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natashalynne666 reads

the agency is also paying for the girls' ads and incall, and (theoretically) doing the screening, which is time consuming (and time is money).  The indy is covering all of the above herself.  There is, after all, a reason that the agency gets a cut of the fee.  

If a guy wants to tip - great!  If he doesn't - no problem.  I don't think whether or not a provider is with an agency should matter.

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keystonekid535 reads

your honesty.  Most providers say a repeat date is a great thank you gift.

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