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I have a question on how to better find who I'm looking for. I have a particular fetish request that is very innocent, not dangerous, messy, and not anything to do with BDSM, although it is a bit unusual. I would prefer to meet a provider who already understands what I'm asking for before we meet and is ok with doing it. And also someone who is exceptional at doing what I ask. I've noticed that for the most part if I contact a provider describing what it is I'm looking for , even if they were listed under the fetish section of a site like city vibe or eros la, I get no response. And trust me there are requests that are much much stranger/dangerous/gross. Is it bad etiquette to come out and describe what I'm looking for in an introductory email? I figured I'd get to the point and not waste anyone's time. But is it possible providers don't want to discuss details of a session over email? I've listed the request here also under the "In Search Of" board and found one person willing to do it although she's moved away now. Any suggestions for me on how to connect with the right person? Thank you!!!It must be an unusual request if you only got one response from a provider that moved away. If you're not getting any responses through email then this fetish must out of the norm. Asking a provider in person about this fetish will most likely get you turned away. I would keep trying via email or calling directly a provider that might do this fetish whatever it is. If no provider is willing to do this then I would just forget about this fetish.
There are only so many of us with only so much time to follow you around cleaning up after all the bad advice you give out. As if picking up after Fancy wasn't enough to do. Sheesh
To the OP. PLEASE disregard the horrible advice you were just given by ROGM and do the exact opposite. Sex acts should never be discussed in any introductory or any other kind of "pre date" emails and will get you on a whole bunch of DNS lists and possibly a black list or two.
My advice is to read the reviews and to see if any of the reviews mention anything "close" to what you are looking for, book a session with one or more of these ladies and see if she is willing to make your fantasy come true, but PLEASE stop asking these women by email before meeting them, pretty soon there won't be ANY women willing to talk with you, much less meet you.
Did you say that in your Trump interview voice? 
Well said though -- the other response was terrible advice.
in your initial email this is the reason why you are being ignored.Many providers are not going to answer any kind of email like that.Some providers might speak with you regarding what you seek after you have passed screening.And others do not care if you have been screened or not no explicit talk.Have you thought of posting an ISO in the city you live or travel to see if you get a response.Not the ISO board but the local city board?
You could try this out.
Contact any lady that is your type and you think that you would have some type of chemistry with. Set up a date with her. If everything goes well and you find out that that is some type of chemistry with her. Then set up a second date with her. During the second date asked her what she thinks about your fetish and if she would like to try it out. If she not interested in doing it for you, then it does not hurt to asked her if she knows somebody that would be interested in it. If she does not know and is not interested in doing it then move on to the next girl until you find somebody that is able to accommodate your fetish.
Agree with Jaydale and gaga.
If you are writing in your FIRST email things like that... I doubt any well reviewed lady would answer you back.
What about filling the form on the lady's website, submit all screening information that she needs, once she screened you and you pass her screening writing her with "a have a special request and would like to ask you about it" then wait until she respond if a yes-no and then move on.
Maybe meeting a lady first... and while in your date you can discussed of the things you like in private, face to face and maybe a second session would be an option?
Just my two cents.
I have a question on how to better find who I'm looking for. I have a particular fetish request that is very innocent, not dangerous, messy, and not anything to do with BDSM, although it is a bit unusual.
I would prefer to meet a provider who already understands what I'm asking for before we meet and is ok with doing it. And also someone who is exceptional at doing what I ask.
I've noticed that for the most part if I contact a provider describing what it is I'm looking for , even if they were listed under the fetish section of a site like city vibe or eros la, I get no response. And trust me there are requests that are much much stranger/dangerous/gross. Is it bad etiquette to come out and describe what I'm looking for in an introductory email? I figured I'd get to the point and not waste anyone's time. But is it possible providers don't want to discuss details of a session over email?
I've listed the request here also under the "In Search Of" board and found one person willing to do it although she's moved away now.
Any suggestions for me on how to connect with the right person?
Thank you!!!
WTF does your post have to do with he OP?
By doing a search on the ISO Board. Honestly, I personally, would have no issue in it being mentioned in an email to me...since it is not a sexual request.
It is not a sexual request. However, breath play requires a lot of trust. Also it is something that a lot of people are not interested in. It could be that the ladies you asked have no interest in It and rather than saying "no thanks," just decided to ignore the email. Even for people who are into that, or willing to try it will have to have a lot of trust in each other. It may take a few visits. So even though it is not sexual in nature, it probably is still not something you should ask in an initial email.
I agree with Jaydalee that you should try posting ISOs on your regional board or regional boards you are traveling to.
I have a question on how to better find who I'm looking for. I have a particular fetish request that is very innocent, not dangerous, messy, and not anything to do with BDSM, although it is a bit unusual.
I would prefer to meet a provider who already understands what I'm asking for before we meet and is ok with doing it. And also someone who is exceptional at doing what I ask.
I've noticed that for the most part if I contact a provider describing what it is I'm looking for , even if they were listed under the fetish section of a site like city vibe or eros la, I get no response. And trust me there are requests that are much much stranger/dangerous/gross. Is it bad etiquette to come out and describe what I'm looking for in an introductory email? I figured I'd get to the point and not waste anyone's time. But is it possible providers don't want to discuss details of a session over email?
I've listed the request here also under the "In Search Of" board and found one person willing to do it although she's moved away now.
Any suggestions for me on how to connect with the right person?
Thank you!!!
Especially if they are without provider references, is to first do a regular appointment. That way when you ask about it I know not only that you're "safe", but also whether or not I'm comfortable catering to that fetish with you personally. As always, there are exceptions to the rule such as a very well known or respected hobbyist with an impeccable reputation, but that is generally what I see as the best way to go about requesting a specific fetish.