Newbie - FAQ
I joined the TER and I am eager to have some GFEs. I contacted several providers in LA/OC area but I only got one reply, from who's taking a vacation in Canada. So How should I approach them?
Well, to answer your question, my question for you is what are you saying in your e-mails?
If she has a contact form on her website, are you using that or sending her an e-mail directly? This wouldn't bother me, but some women can be very particular, and will respond only to inquiries made via their contact form.
Are you stating a specific time that you had in mind? If I get an e-mail that says something like "I would like to come see you sometime", I often times won't answer because the sender doesn't appear to be serious, or know what he wants. When he makes up his mind about getting together, we'll have something to talk about then.
Are you including screening information? If I get an e-mail and it simply says that he's interested in seeing me, but provides no information about himself - contact info, references, membership with a verification site, etc, I'm generally going to assume he's one of those "private types" who refuses to give out any information. Furthermore, if I do get any information from him, it will probably bear a strong resemblance to pulling teeth to get it.
Finally, are you mentioning any form of specific acts? When I get e-mails asking if I do this particular act or that, I immediately delete, and add the e-mail to my blocked list. This is a big no no.
These are probably the three biggest reasons why e-mails go unanswered. It may not be any of the above. Sometimes life gets in the way of a provider's business. I just took an unwanted, unexpected 3 week vacation myself after having emergency surgery. Needless to say, some e-mails went unanswered for a while LOL. If your initial contact says the right things, just be patient, you will get responses. Hope this helps 
Yeah, I have anxiety disorder. And yes, I am totally naive when it comes to this GFE thing. I never realized that this is a hobby for a circle of few selected people.
Oh, well. On the positive note I am no LE on some sting.
doesn't necessarily wash away the subtle effects of the past orthodoxy, and if any creature has a sixth sense about predispositions and prejudice it is a WOMAN.
Just as celebrities attract deluded admirers and stalkers, so too do providers.
If a provider senses an extraordinary “urgency” or obsession in a hobbyist’s e-mail, telephone communications, etc they often will summarily dismiss you as a problem waiting to happen.