I recently invited to my home a well reviewed provider that I've been seeing for more than a year. I wanted to do something a bit different and special after one year. We totally trust each other. At first, she agreed. Then, as the day got closer, she declined.
Since I am married, there are lots of factors to consider, including the warnings from many on these boards. But she expressed concern about something that never even crossed my mind, but now makes a lot of sense. It was not about neighbors, leaving lingering scents, or the wife suddenly showing up.
She felt uncomfortable coming into my/our home because it was a feeling of intrusion on her part. Meeting away from my home and life was more okay because that only involved us, and OUR decisions on how to spend our time. Of course, we both recognize the "intrusion" of her into my life. However, everyone's situation and circumstances are unique to them and no one should judge.
I am grateful and glad she was willing to provide her concern and perspective; we should all realize that we are never too old or experienced to appreciate the thoughts and opinions of others.
In summary, we planned something even better for the occasion.