I have have recently been told by a provider to never contact her again after canceling with her twice.  She has a 24-hour notice rule. The first time I canceled because I got very sick within that period and notified her five hours before the date. The second time was because of work and I canceled with 18 hours notice.  
I live in an area with no quality local providers and depend largely on the girls on tour, and this lady is particularly hot. I have seen several providers and have great references.  It's not like I didn't give any notice, which would have left her no time to find a replacement, yet the consequences are the same.  Should I wait 6 months and try to reschedule hoping she forgets the unfortunate circumstances or just let it go ?

I think I know the answer, I screwed up.  I just wanted to get it off my chest.

There so many providers out there, just move on.  I'm sure there is someone out there that can catch your fancy as much as the one you canceled out twice.  Even if it was something beyond your control, you gotta understand she is going to be wary of scheduling another date with you.

Swim

If she is that hot, and high on your list, and if pickings are that slim... have you considered offering her a cancellation fee (since this is twice on short notice)?

If there are others t see, and she isn't important to you "to do" list, then pass, but it's an option. Also, for me, i would tend to offer a cancellation fee for a work related last minute cancellation.

Tangentially related ... I had a confirmed appointment with someone I would really like to meet. I called shortly before the time, as planned, and she starts asking me for a lot of personal info that was previously not asked for. I was taken by surprise, uncomfortable and evasive (and asked why I wasn't asked for the info when making the appointment), asking if she would at least meet me (lobby, bar, whatever) where I could show her valid IDs and, if she wanted to, send me on my way or see me. She hung up and cut me off on several attempts to call back. A few days later, I apologized by e-mail and offered to be more forthcoming the next time she was in town. Months later, I e-mailed about a schedule match (I actually reminded her who I was) and she did not reply. Go figure.

By her pictures (and reviews) she is a stunning beauty. I'd still very much like to meet her. Oh, well. It's not like I haven't met many others in the meantime!

My advice: move on.

You disrespected her time by costing her income, twice.  That's all there is to it on her side.  She doesn't know you and has no reason to believe anything you say, maybe you simply double booked or got cold feet.  Why would she give you the opportunity to strike out a third time?  You think that 5 and 18 hours notice is adequate, yet she likely had already turned away requests on those days and did not have the ability to turn it back around.  

If you really want to see her offer to pay for the inconvenience that you have caused.  OR wait for the next visiting lady to roll around.

Touring ladies have expenses they must cover.  What occurs is that they try and book enough appointments in advance to cover their travel and hotel expenses and return a reasonable profit.  When a gentleman cancels, it may not be possible for them to fill that appointment.

If you really want to see her, you can a) make arrangements to compensate her for the appointment you cancelled or b) prepay for your next visit.

Chances are waiting 6 months and hoping she will forget will not work.  I have a DNS list that has names from 5 years ago.  She probably keeps a similar list and it has no expiration date.





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Knowbody likes cancelations. We put allot into our time for apts, Please understand that .

to tell you "no" just as much as any woman.

Her telling you not to contact her is her telling you "No". Respect that.

You already disregarded her wishes on two occasions, by not following her rules for canceling, don't disregard her wishes again.  

She has a 24 hour notice for a reason, and just because you think breaking that by 19 hours and 6 hours is Ok, doesn't make it so.  Just because you believe she had enough notice to book someone else in that time slot doesn't make it so.

You wasted her time, you probably cost her money, and you didn't respect the rules she clearly stated.  She didn't have to give you a second chance after you cancelled 19 hours after she said  cancellations were allowed, but she did...
then you did the exact same thing, again.

Now she is asking you to respect her and her wishes enough to not contact her and you are trying to figure out how to disregard her wishes once again?  

You mention you have "seen several providers and have great references", I assume this is an effort to imply you are a good client...
well, if you are a good client, then act like one and accept that she is telling you "No", respect her enough to accept that "No".

Hi, Tallyguy. I'm sorry about your situation and I'm also sorry that you haven't met any quality providers. I live in Tallahassee and I've noticed what you are referring to, which is another reason I came into this business. I feel that Tallahassee should at least have someone that does not seem to be out for a quick $. I love being in the company of a man (or woman) and I want this to be my profession on the side for as long as possible. Quality service is always my goal in everything I do. That's what gives me repeat guests. I do have a personal goal and having "fly-by-night" flings will not help in reaching it. You saying there are "No quality providers in our area" is like a warning sign for everyone to stay away from myself also. Before you come to that conclusion, contact me and let's make a date.

Just move on. Regardless of the reason, if the lady has been doing this awhile, she's heard every excuse in the world. If you continue to try and see her you could find yourself on a dns list.

Hail. He wasted her time and cost her money. The lady had a 24 hour cancellation policy, he ignored that policy. The lady deserved monetary compensation and almost assuredly did not get it.

Say that the next time a ripoff artist or cash and dasher has an encounter with you.

Thank you for the response SolaLove.  It did not occur to me to offer her compensation, nor did she ask.  I would definitely have considered it and it was entirely appropriate.  That is good advice for a newbie.