Every lady has to decide that for herself. See, where you are confused is in thinking that YOU get to set the terms. You can make your offer though it is the lady who will accept or reject it.
Yet again with the advice to stick with a lady you know and trust... It mitigates your fears of a no show. As asking significant deposits up front will mitigate hers.
You obviously are going to do what you are going to do, despite the great advice you have received. Good luck!
Another thought is contacting a lady local to where you are traveling and just scheduling for the off hours you would like company. This takes care of the airfare issue, makes it easier for a lady to commit, requires less trust... And may be easier on your pocketbook.
Hello,
Have anybody ever booked an girl for long term (3-10 days)? How did you like the experience and how did you make the arrangements with the girl including payments?
I'll be visiting Europe and want to book a girl for about a week and like to get some feedback from those that have tried doing it.
One of my main concern is on how to make the payment - concerning that she can take the $ and just run. I'm sure there will be time when I will need to step away to do something, can't be with the girl all the time.
Thanks!
Why don't you break up the payments and pay her at the end of each day?
I've done this a few times. Several weekends in Vegas. My last was a trip to Cozumel. Right now I'm planning a weekend on the east coast in May. I absolutely love seeing this lady and going places with her (maybe too darn much). I always look forward to our time together (again, maybe to much). Before I did this, I got to know the lady fairly well by booking two or three hour appointments with her. Booked a dinner date. Now we are much more like really good friends when we see each other. We have a high level of trust. I would never worry about her stealing from me or dashing on me. As far as payment, agree on a price and then tell her it will be 1/2 up front and half at the end or something like that.
My best advice would be to make sure that this is someone you are compatible with, otherwise it might be a miserable 3 - 10 days for both of you.
Good luck & enjoy!
Thanks for all the feedbacks!
I'm not too worry about compatibility actually; I deal with people all the time and am easy to get along with.
It's also a business trip so for the weekdays she gets to have the full 9-5 business hours to herself. It's only the weekend when we will be seeing each other 24/7 with some fun tourism; but even then I don't mind her taking care of her own things and letting her take off a few hours for private time. So it's really more like 4-5 hour weekday appointment and then full weekends.
I was thinking of breaking up the payments, but not sure if there's a unspoken standard way of doing things - like the way we work the donation envelope for those hourly appointment. Or have anybody made full payments up front but hold on to the girls passport or ID?
Paying on a daily basis is the safest way for a new provider but it is kind of mood breaking. I think I'm going to try the 50% up front and 50% at the end method - maybe break it to a 30/40% up front then another 30% midway with the last 40/30% paid at the end.
It sounds like you are both from different cities. If so it is hard to imagine that you knew each other that much to develop enough just to chance a 3 night appointment. If I am right that is the lesson to be learned.
Before I go on extended vacation I would work myself up from several 2 hr appointment, followed by successive longer and longer appointments. Before a 3 day I would at the least had a couple overnights first and at least one 24hr appointment.
I always prepay my extended appointments if no other reason I don't want to carry that much cash. Also the consequences of rip off are much greater for the lady. If I get rip off (never have) I am just losing expendable funds. If a lady get rip off she is losing her bread and butter. If you feel it necessary to breakup the payments you don’t have the trust necessary for an extended appointment.
I have been doing it with some regularity. In each case, I had known the lady for a long time - usually several years - before discussing a trip. In some cases, the lady in question was the instigator. She knew my travel plans and raised the issue of accompanying me. The arrangements vary all over the place. There is no standard way of setting this sort of thing up. Whatever makes both of us comfortable.
I only got burned once. I had only known the lady a couple of months. My mistake. On the second day of the trip she suddenly claimed to have received a phone call about a sick child. She was on her way out the door as I was returning from a meeting.
Thank for sharing your experience NickCharlesIII!
So with the lady that ran off, were you able to get a partial refund if you've made the full payment up front? Did you make partial payment and she didn't get the other portion?
Please fill me in on some more detail of this incident?
Thanks!
The trip was supposed to be for three nights. We were traveling from different cities. I picked her up at the airport and paid her the agreed-upon fee as soon as we reached the hotel. We had a lovely afternoon, dinner, and evening. The next morning I left for an appointment while she was still asleep. When I returned to the room a few hours later she was packed up and ready to leave. While I did not believe her sick child story for one minute, I felt powerless to call her on it. She walked with my money, and I learned a lesson about trust.
I've not had the opportunity but I'd start with a couple of meetings first. Then maybe an over night. There should be an agreement on play time & sleep time. Even on a weekend, she should be entitled to an hour or 2 of private time (to call home, soak in the tub or have her hair done??) Her choice. A breather is so refreshing... You might want an hour at the hotel gym or just walk around the block.
There is always a risk of a runner... even on brief dates. It's just a risk of the game. Best get it out of the way with a brief date!! You can not stop her. (Read illegal restraint or kidnaping.)
You are asking a lot of a lady. If traveling with you, she'll have to give you her real name & info. If booking her own flight you'll have to advance her the cost plus a deposit. This is about the only exception to my no advance/deposit rule.
This takes a bit of plannng...
Have fun.
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Including dinner dates, and an overnight. And in the mean time, spend time communicating and learning each other.
I would NEVER let you take me out of the country without knowing you well. I have too much to lose if we're incompatible or have ulterior motives. But no one likes to feel cheated, and I would make sure that we're both square before we parted ways. But to avoid all that, those type of extended trips are reserved for gents I trust implicitly.
Putting myself in your shoes, I would want you to think with your big head just for a minute. I would hope that this is a lady that you've met before, and seems just as sincere in making sure YOU'RE okay for her too. Be wary of any lady that is just gung-ho to go. Just send the deposit and everything is okay.
As far as deposits are concerned, I would definitely work it out with her, but MY only arrangement is 50%down, and 50% upon my arrival. I send you a copy of the itineraries, and we plan wardrobes, outings and dinner plans before going. When leaving the country, you must consider a lady's safety as well. Even in your absence. It's alot to think about.
You are visiting the plumb of escorting and you plan to book just one lady? Europe has topflight escorts of all ethnic varieties. Do some web research. TER covers some of europe, check reviews. This may get censored, but Captain69 covers all of europe, check that site out.
IMHO if you have not spent atleast had several overnights with this lady you are taking a risk suddenly spending such a large amount of time with her. There is quite a differnce between a 3 hr date and spending even just 12 hours with a lady. (does she snore? Does that bother you? Can you sleep thru it?). Did you make sure she has a little time to herself daily? She still has a personal life and family at home.
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