somtimes I ask what her favorite fanstasy is. That helps sometimes.

I have some rather lurid fantasies, but I would never bring them up with someone unless we were very comfortable with each other, lest she feel that I will be dissatisfied that she could not fufill my fantasies and I worry that I am grossing her out.

So, I end up saying something rather innocuous that everyone does anyways, and worry that she'll think I'm inhibited or just a lame-o.

I prefer that the love making unfold organically and each does whatever feels right at the time.

When the time is right, we'll both know when it's right to start sharing the really intimate stuff.

I've had ladies ask "What do you like?"  But they probably just get a generic "Everything".  

I think the best way to start is non-verbal...  a hug & kiss with body contact...  it just naturally flows from there.
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Never been asked what my fav porn is...I doubt most would have a sybian with them to break out for a session.

As far as fantasy, I did get nervous the first couple of times I was asked that but got lucky when the 2nd one that asked actually was hugely into what I wanted to try.  So after that session, not so much.  

I get more nervous when I get asked about what to do next as I tend to be relatively simplistic in my normal session.  I get afraid I will come off sounding corny or dorkish.  But I suck it up and move on.

I tell her my fantasy is to have sex with Katherine Heigl. That's probably not the answer she wanted to hear, lol.

Am I nervous...yes, if I meeting her for the first time, but I get over that within a couple of minutes.  As for asking about fantasies or porn, better to not to ask.  Although I am into both, not all hobbyists are.  Best to guage us before asking...

They are better questions than "What do you want to do?" which has been asked of me in my beginning times.

I agree; start with some kissing and stroking and let it flow from there.