Newbie - FAQ

Variety of providers at spa's
JOHN353 13 Reviews 14968 reads
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I am fairly new to our little "hobby"and I thoroughly enjoy
checking out the websites, and reading the reviews,in order to
find my next morsel if you will.One of the things I find so
stimulating is the sheer number of girls to chose from.
Especially when 90% are all really beautiful ladies (at least
at the spa's I go to.)
My question is how do the girls feel when I the customer come
in and chose someone other than the one I had before?
Do they think that they didn't please me and I'm blowing them off for someone else? Or,do they understand that alot of guys
out there, including myself,just enjoy tasting the variety
of what is offered,and that its nothing anywhere close to personal? I just don't want to go and hook up with my little
"love baby" that I chose to be with that day and catch
attitude.Does this ever happen?

MichaelCA 12 Reviews 9575 reads
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Women are the same no matter what job they hold. Some are jealous, some not. Just make sure that when you start with a lady that you let her know that you see other ladies. However you return more frequently to those ladies that enderstand this and even recommend other ladies you might like.

It will not work with all of the ladies, but the more experienced ones will be glad of your honesty and can be a great source of information.

JOHN353 13 Reviews 11139 reads
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AHH...The "jealous"word,thats what I was afraid of.
I usually get the standard question,"so..have you been here before?" I rarely do repeats, but on occasion I have been known
to see a lady more than once.Sometimes its good,and once not so good.I am always truthful with these ladies,I feel thats the only way to be, because I expect and appreciate the same in return.I have had providers ask me,"who else have you seen here?"The first time,(like a big dummy,)I answered the question
truthfully and the response I got was "uh huh....I see..(pause)
I don't know why it bothered me,but that turned me off.Anyway
I've never done that again,and the way I answer this question now is "oh ..it doesnt matter Im here to see just you today,"
and thats the end of it,and then we get to business at hand.
Why would she ask that question in the first place?
Any providers out there with .02 cents to share?  
Thank You, Michael for the info.

Coconutt 11013 reads
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There is no hard and fast rule.  I think it depends somewhat on how busy they are.  I have had it both ways, wanting to see a girl I've seen before and had her try to get me to see someone else; and had someone get jealous when I don't repeat.

I have also had a girl I have seen get me to see someone else, then on another visit, the first girl wanted me to see her again.  

I think most understand that guys like variety.  If you are going to switch every time, you might tell her when you are saying goodbye that you see different girls every time but complement her looks, tell her she was the prettiest.  

I have asked for a girl I've seen before and gotten another girl to try to "out do" her, ask what I liked, even go further than the other girl.  

However, repeating several times with the same girl can have its advantages, she can become a GFE, especially the 3rd or 4th visit.  But then you have become a regular and will have a harder time changing.  

When you do repeat, just be act happy to see her again.  Hug her and say you are glad to see her again, and complement her.   That should prevent the attitude.

JOHN353 13 Reviews 12826 reads
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Cool,thanks for the advice,I will remember that.
Thanks again, everybody, in advance.

Coconutt 9103 reads
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If you are asking why she asks who you have seen, the most obvious answer is that by giving the name of a current girl, you are more or less assuring her you HAVE been there before.  The less obvious reason is that she may go ask the other girl about you (by description or your name).  More than once, I have had a girl I mentioned that day pop her head in the door to say HI (possibly further verfy I am a guy she saw).

JOHN353 13 Reviews 9934 reads
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Putting it in that perspective helps me to understand more
about what they are possibly thinking.I must also remember that
I don't repeat very often at all,and these woman are
seeing me for the first time.If a little extra caution and
verification makes her feel more comfortable and relaxed,then I am way cool with that. After all, I may be a newbie,but I know that a provider that feels warm,comfortable, and relaxed with you is far more likely to provide a GFE service,and thats what we're all looking for anyway....right? At least I am,I can't speak for everyone.

Thanks Coconutt,you've opened my eyes a little wider.

Coconutt 8744 reads
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One other thing about "repeating" and her being comfortable with you.  I don't know how many times I have heard the phrase "you come see me again, next time be better".  It is almost always with a girl who seems a little shy at first or cautious or apprehensive, then gets more comfortable.  

Anything you can do to make them feel special will go a VERY long way.  That can just be kind words, talking to them about where they are from, brothers and sisters, etc.  I have helped girls with English words they do not understand.  In my experience, she will be more GFE if you treat her more like a GF.  

You may find the below guide useful to give you some more ideas.  Can't take credit for it, has been posted a couple of times...  

Good Luck...

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