I was declined by Date Check because I do not have a publicaly listed phone number as a self employed business owner.  It is a very new business and is registered and in good standing with the state of Maryland where I reside with my home as the registered address.  My business partner is working on putting a website together but we are not there yet.  I have an IRS assigned EIN and Articles of Organization on file with the State and offered to provide the documents to Date Check but they never replied and just declined me and kept the $20.00 application fee.  

It has become pretty clear as a newbie that it would be beneficial to be registered with either Date Check, P411 or RS2K.  I am  a basic member with TER.  I am also open to becoming a paid VIP member of TER. My concern is in reviewing the applications for P411 and RS2K, that I will be declined for the same reason I was declined by Date Check.  Can you offer any advice as this is getting frustrating and I am concerned about seeing a woman who is not with one of these services and getting scammed or worse?  

Additionally, can any poster with more experience, which should be pretty much everyone, recommend a safe/reviewed, fun, sexy, female companion in the greater Baltimore area with softer screening requirements I could see?  I started the process with Date Check and subsequent decline from them last Tuesday and here we are 11 days later and I am even more in need of female companionship asap.  I went through a brutally tragic five years from 2006-2010 in losing both of my parents, beloved Dad to horrific injuries from a car accident in 2007 and beloved Mom to Cancer in late 2009.  They were both only in their mid 60's and I remain eternally devastated!  Literally nothing could help me more in trying to move forward with my life than some fun, relieving, female comanionship which has been sorely lacking for the majority of the last five years.  I apologize to all for the long post but any help would be tremendously appreciated.

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I can relate to losing the parents, I lost both of mine within 13 months back in 96 and 97, heart attack and cancer.  As to the prob with the verification sites, I have no idea what to tell you, unfortunately.  VIP membership here will certainly help.   You might also try posting on the ISO board or the DC and/or the Maryland boards that you are a newb looking for newbie friendly providers in the area.  Admin may or may not let ISO posts stay on the regional boards, kinda depends on how busy they are I think.

You can make your long posts easier to read by breaking them up into shorter paragraphs.

Swim

It has been very tough and I really appreciate your response.  Additionally, my condolences on your losses.  I really appreciate you taking the time to respond and thanks!

Raven.35

My first paid date not at a legal brothel was with one such woman. She screens quite well but not with references. He may want to find one of them to get him going.

I would recommend you still try P411. They may find ways to verify you that is different than date-check. On their site there is an 800 number and support chat feature. Contact them through one of those methods. If you explain your situation with them, they will try to work with you. They have verified students, retirees, self employed people and others.

I definitely recommend you get VIP here. At least for a month. You can always decide to keep it or cancel it later. The 30 bucks will more than pay for itself on your first date. You can use the vip to search reviews, and read all the important parts to find someone who is right for you. You can also use the PM feature of the site, and PM other reviewers, or PM the ladies.

If you do get P411 membership, you can search for newbie friendly ladies there, and check for reviews here. Some of the newbie friendly ladies will still ask you for some other form of verification and screening. Because of your job situation, you may be harder to screen than someone else, but there are ladies out there who will see you. There are all types of screening methods that the ladies use, some which they keep secret (for good reason).

I agree with swim on posting to the ISO board and your regional boards for specific requests. The regional board posts will probably get deleted or moved to the ISO board, but it is still worth a shot, and they may stay up long enough for someone to see it.

There is one other method that exists. I shouldn't be recommending this on a newbie board, so lets say this is definitely NOT a recommendation. Just letting you know it exists. It can be risky. There are ladies out there who don't screen, but yet are willing to give references after you see them. making it easier to see ladies who do screen, later. There are hobbyists who have gotten in the door that way.

Sorry to hear about the loss of your parents. That is truly a terrible loss, but be careful going into P4P relationship in this emotional state. A paid female companion, can truly make you feel better and help you out of the emotional sadness. However you have to remember this is P4P. Do not confuse a girl freind experience, for a girlfriend! All the great ladies will make you feel like the experience is real (and it is real, for the amount of time you pay them for!), but when you leave the paid date it is over, until the next one. Be careful of crossing boundaries and falling into the IFFP syndrome (I've fallen for a provider).

Good luck with your verification and your first date.

perfectstorm:
Thank you so much for your response and kind thoughts!  I am cramming to learn quickly about this community and wish I had checked it out sooner.  

I am definitely not looking for anything more than a GFE experrience this is a means for me to move forward as needed in my life.  I know it is P4P and am good with that it is exactly what I need.  My entrance into this community is a bridge I am not interested in anything more for a good 4-6 months.  While I am still hurting fron the tragredies and losing my parents, I am not vulnerable as I was a year or two ago.  I know exactly what I am looking for at this time.

I actually will be adding a publicaly listed business line in my home this week, as my partner and I have talked about rampng things up to try and really build something.  

I will apply with P411 immediately thereafter and become a TER VIP as well.  It is clearly a great resource of information.  

Thank you very much again for being so kind and thoughtful to respond and do so with such great tips!

Very respectfully,
Raven.35  

scoed:
         Thanks for being kind enough to respond with another excellent tip that I have defintely been looking into cautiously as a back-up plan.

Respectfully,
Raven.35

I've had many issues with providers on these verifications sites.  I have done away with them and have had no problems since doing so.  My instinct has served me better than these sites.  I've gotten stood up by 2 different providers from P411.  I've had upsell problems with one other from another site.  I've met providers from THIS site only to have them be quite different in person than in photos. People are going to to what they're going to do these sites offer no guarantee of anything.

I have an excellent screener so Im sure you will pass screening with the info you have already. Once you meet an established provider, you can have her offer references anytime you go on to see another provider. While the verification sites are great, you can also start off just by seeing a provider who will give you references as you need. Also, if we were to meet, I can then offer you a datecheck trial for free