Making contact.
You have found her site and you know you want to see her. Time to either call or email. Look thru the site to see which she prefers. PLEASE check to see if there are hours she is not interested in taking calls. You will need to try to plan ahead if at all possible. We as providers need time to get a good feel about you. Remember, you have checked us out. You feel like you know all about us, but you are (at this point) just another voice on the phone. Be prepared to be asked for REFERENCE INFORMATION. If you are new, you will not have this. You will have to find a way to prove to the lady you are not a cop or a serial killer. It is important for all of us. We each do this in a different way. You will have to refer to her site to know what she is looking for.

Introduce yourself.
Be Kind. It would do you good to use the same manners you would if you were making the first call for a blind date. You never want to make a bad impression. Be direct with out being vulgar or pushy. Usually providers have a list of services and rate plan on their site. You should refer to what you are seeking in the way she has it listed, this way she knows what you are looking for. Never just assume we can read your minds. Have a time in mind so that she can see if her schedule will work with that. BE REAL!!! Remember she will have the ability in the future to hinder another lady from seeing you if you were not kind to her. You never get a 2nd chance to make a FIRST IMPRESSION!!!

Time to go and see her. What should I do?
Take a bath and pay special attention to your own special parts, brush your teeth, take a breath mint with you for the moment before you get there especially if you smoke or drink lots of coffee. If you are leaving from work, you have a days or even 1/2 a days sweat and grime on you, please just ask her if you can clean up in her bathroom. She will happily allow you to shower. If you don't want the full shower there is always a wash cloth, soap and a sink. USE THEM!!! I promise you that you will have a much better time and she will be happy to see you again. There is a term? YMMV Your Miles May Vary. I can assure you that your hygiene will affect this. Before you go to your engagement with the lady, make sure you have her gift prepared.  Put her gift in an envelope, or at the very least have it put aside in a pocket with nothing else there but that. Be on time. As you are leaving the office or home on your way to see her, call her. Make contact so that she knows you are on your way, and you know that nothing has changed in her plans last minute with family or an emergency. If something has to change in your plans call as soon as possible. Don't make up lies just be honest. If you get scared then be honest. Maybe we can talk through it. If you have work come up then we can reschedule. Just don't make a habit of that. If it happens a couple of times most ladies will write you off as a fake just wasting our time.

When you arrive!
Some ladies ask you to call from the car when you are outside, and others are happy to tell you in advance where you are coming. When you get to the door, knock on it. Don't stand around outside and be nervous. DO NOT cause attention. Look as if you belong there. You could be an insurance salesman, or a family member. No one has to know what you are doing there so long as you look like you belong. When she opens the door, come in. Let her shut the door and then you can greet one another. Most of the ladies I know will lead from this point. Lay the envelope on a close by table. Allow her to see it but do not make a comment about it. PLEASE JUST DO IT! Do not try to talk about services and what she is going to do for you. Just let the time you are together happen naturally. REMEMBER if you need to clean up this is the time to do so.

When you leave.
Notice the time. Do not try to stay longer than you have asked for in advance. She may have something else to do, so be respectful. If the two of you hit it off and you want to talk that is fine but make sure you ask her if you need to hit the road or does she have time. IF you are still playing you NEED to ask her what else you can do for her as well. Don't assume it is on the house. When you dress and are ready to leave, be pleasant. If you had a good time, some men leave a tip. That is your choice! It is a good way to show her you were happy with her services, and she will most likely remember you with a SMILE the next time!

Alana-Waters.com © 2006

-- Modified on 7/8/2006 4:08:25 PM

This is a great post. Very informative and enlightening. It should be a must read for newbies such as myself.  Thank you !

Thank you very much for this post.  It probably should be read by all and not just the newbies, like myself.

Thanks...this info will be useful!

Thank you for this post. It gives great first timers information.

Very good post, but I would make one correction. If the client intends to perform cunnilingus, he should use mouthwash instead of brushing his teeth. The risk of HIV from cunnilingus is very low, but brushing his teeth could create a small cut and increase this risk.

Thank you so much.  This is a great help making things a lot easier for a newbie like me.

Thanks, I'm going through the process now, and it does help.

Very informative...but is there a more specific guide on how to be better prepared when you don't have references?  I know each Provider may have different requirements, just thought there might be a general rule of thumb type info that could help speed up the process.  Thanks for looking out for us newbies.

How much should you tip for a 200 donation ? thank for the hints.

good post - wish i would have read it earlier.

Great post, very helpful!
Thanks!