I am not really a variety guy and have seen a fantastic provider for the third time as of last night. First meeting a month or 2 ago was great . Second time around was even better as the comfort level increased a little. Last night was a disaster !!!
I am about as a laid back bachelor as they come , not much bothers me . She always visits me ( in my bachelor pad as she is outcall only ) , and I do all I can to make her feel appreciated and again comfortable . BUTTTT..........Second visit she was informative but ran an hour late - no biggy............Last night again always texting, but 2 friggin hours late - come on now !!! So I'm thinking she is going to make it up to me,  by RAPING me before the door is closed - NOPE . She mentioned  "no beer tonight " in a text - I stopped at the store and got water , juice etc . Nope she wants a beer and goes to the bathroom. I'm thinking she is putting on some outfit and THEN come out and RAPE me - NOPE .
So I KNOW that I need to be the aggresser - no worries and NO problem chit chatting on the couch , her convo  turns to the " buisness ". Intresting as it may be, does not really set the GFE mood if you know what I mean . She tells me the previous night included 2 bottles of champagne and not making it " home " until 4 am and she was tired . I scheduled last Friday for pete's sake !!!  In all fairness it was quite apperant, she was having a bad day - we all do !
THE GOLDEN rule then was broken .......She is texting a possible 11:30 appointment on the couch - WTF !!!
So now I need some attention and start the party . Well , I have no idea what state or county she was in but it was not mine !  I love to give , and stayed on that kitty for a good 20 minutes -a groan here , a groan there . Pretty lackluster . So then I decide I am going to POUND that thing like a wild stallion ! NOPE - She postioned herself so I could only get about half in that thing - Damn I want to drive it  all the way home dear !!! Thats called doing your job half ass - LOL !!!
I WANTED to be a regular and she knows that . To be honest I am 150lb , fit, 45 year old dude living with a beach tan in Florida - A pretty good client by any standards .
To be honest ladies .........Regular or not , comfort level or not ..............I can't see calling her again - I think rightfully so . She never will know what happened when I don't call next time ,so in a way that sucks for her , but this was SUPPOSED to be about me for at least a friggin hour !

If your not on your game a particular time, and the guy is understanding then why risk losing a potential long term decent client and bring such a terrible performance to me ????
Just food for thought ladies, and sorry for the rant , but I'm still horney damn it !!!!

PS : I had a dinner with my boss prior to our date, required a suit and I have a NICE one !!! So when I get home and shower, I decided to put it back on ,in a little gesture to her - I'm putting in a effort and it's my dime !!! Live and learn I guess for the next lady I call ......
PSS - Before you ask , 36 great reviews , HOT , on Eros as a VIP , and competitive $$$ . Crap, I might as well roll the dice on Backpage

No need for any lectures as I get it with this particular experience , but wanted the ladies to hear it I guess.
I formally step down from my soap box .........Sorry .



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Will you change this gals MO?  Not likely, but you can let others know that she did not deliver "the goods" for you and why.

Is this a normal occurence?  Not in my experiences with seeing ladies over lengthy periods of time, but obviously this does occur.  Move on and find another gal to "push your buttons".  But you might want to keep your mouth shut and not tell her that "you will be a regular"...as your actions will speak for themselves.

Good luck on the search (which can be a whole lot of fun...at least it should be).

If a provider is running that late, texting you excuses, tell her to forget it and maybe you'll give her a chance some other day. Allowing her to disrespect your time that blatantly sends an invitation to treat you like dogshit. No matter how hot she is, you've got to obey what your rational mind tells you, not your penis.

Being a laid back " beach bum " is less stressful in a lot of aspects , but has many drawbacks. Changing my attitude just became eaisier after this for sure .
Sometimes all the blood leaves the big head and I get a little whoosy
Let the new search begin , and yeah , it will be fun !!!

I know your not being into variety feeling very well, but one of the first things I have learned here on posts and from real experience, is you need more then one regular lady. The first regular lady I had got out of the business shortly there after leaving me high and dry. Still being a newbie at that time I had to go through the hard job of getting another gal to see me. Secondly I find that having only one lady your seeing can lead to the same type of experience you just had. I still have an ATF and some regular ladies but every once in a while I try someone new. You don't have to constantly see new ladies but get to know a few and then you can rotate between your favorites and if one disappoints you then switch to another for a while.

I can tell your advice is wise - Experience helping a newbie - way cool , thanks and point TAKEN !!!
Took less tha 4 hours today to find another !  I contacted her this AM and then sent her this thread to read  
She has explained to me in very nice details as to how she will take care of my delimma - NICE !!!! Looks like I will get good use of the $25 it took to dry clean my suit

.....but damn ,you guys are right in so many ways, so grabbin' my manhood and movin' on !!!!!

Oh crap , I better work on finding a back up as well - good times !!!

or headboard as many times as possible.  I learned early on that going exclusive with a provider did not work for me.  Yes, I was taken for granted & performance suffered considerably.  T ook a long break...  she thought I was gone for good...  before I circled back near a year later.  In the meantime I found a couple more Favs.  I will from time to time, try out a potential NEW Fav.   I rotate these Favs...  it helps to keep my head on straight and keeps them on their A game.  

Well, done G.B.A.G.!

Happens to us all at one time or another, and not just the noobs. I've decided to stop seeing my ATF, who I see every couple of months now for the last two years. Because I live in a smaller city, I have to drive a couple of hours to see her, which can be difficult as a married guy.

On my last visit, there was no heat, no passion, just the old in and out, two pops in 90 minutes, and then I'm being shuffled out the door 20 minutes early as she's getting in the shower. What's up, I ask? Well she's got an overnight starting in another hotel at the same time our session is supposed to end. At 5 bucks a minute, I'd really like my full two hours, but she closes the door in my face. I've since cut off all contact, and I really hope she reads this on the board...

Not sure where in Florida you are, but if you are in the Orlando area, I invite you to check me out.

Would love to give you some company...

Makenzie

I have had situations that were similar to yours (but no where near as bad) where the more you see a lady, the more they take you for granted.  The sessions are less hot, tardiness, etc.

This sounds like a combo of she was having a bad day AND taking you for granted.  I would simply move on.  That should speak volumes to her.