Newbie - FAQ

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pandamod 17 Reviews 1891 reads
posted
1 / 14

Hello ladies and gents. I'm new to the site and new to this hobby. I will be setting an appointment with my very first provider next week. I am nervous/excited, probably more excited at the moment lol. Any tips for a first timer would be greatly appreciated :D

clarence37 37 Reviews 564 reads
posted
2 / 14

It is likely that the cleaner you are, the more areas of your body she will be willing to lick. Scrub up well as close to the date as possible, and touch up your privates when you arrive, they get funky fast.

Brush early, use mouthwash close to the date and bring some gum or breath mint.

Be polite, compliment her, act like it's a real date. She knows it's fantasy, just as it is for you, but she will still appreciate it, and will likely reward you. She's a person, not a sex toy.

Once the envelope is put away and you are getting comfortable, it's time to let her know what you want. If you want to lay back and let her go to work, you have to be specific about what you want, don't expect her to read your mind. If you are the more aggressive type and want to lead, you still should let her know what you want to do so she can play along.

That's all that comes to mind at the moment, is that what you were looking for?

SinCitySinner 66 Reviews 519 reads
posted
3 / 14

Here is the link. Go over the stuff. It will help you immensely.

The link can be found on the upper right hand corner.

When you get more experience, you will automatically develop procedures and practices that suit your personality and habits..

swimtrekr 58 Reviews 510 reads
posted
4 / 14

You already have some good advice.  Here's a little more.  Get VIP membership, do your research on the providers, maybe join one or more of the verification sites, Date-Check, Preferred411, and/or RoomService2000 (most popular in the midwest).

Relax, enjoy, and share your experience with us by writing a review following your date.  As you are an admitted newbie here, see only well-reviewed providers until you get some better understanding of how things work in hobby land.

I will reiterate a previous suggestion, definitely read the self help center linked to on this page.  It has a wealth of information important to all of us, especially when just starting out.

Good luck,
Swim

pandamod 17 Reviews 494 reads
posted
5 / 14

Perfect! One thing though, should it always be in an envelope?

Posted By: clarence37
It is likely that the cleaner you are, the more areas of your body she will be willing to lick. Scrub up well as close to the date as possible, and touch up your privates when you arrive, they get funky fast.

Brush early, use mouthwash close to the date and bring some gum or breath mint.

Be polite, compliment her, act like it's a real date. She knows it's fantasy, just as it is for you, but she will still appreciate it, and will likely reward you. She's a person, not a sex toy.

Once the envelope is put away and you are getting comfortable, it's time to let her know what you want. If you want to lay back and let her go to work, you have to be specific about what you want, don't expect her to read your mind. If you are the more aggressive type and want to lead, you still should let her know what you want to do so she can play along.

That's all that comes to mind at the moment, is that what you were looking for?

pandamod 17 Reviews 426 reads
posted
6 / 14

Thank you very much. I will be joining Date Check and becoming VIP here before meeting with her.

pandamod 17 Reviews 388 reads
posted
7 / 14

Awesome read! I should've looked around on the site to find this. KT certainly answers a lot of questions.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 509 reads
posted
8 / 14

Many ladies are pretty specific in their website of how they want the donation. Some say things like, "please place donation in a plain white unsealed envelope, marked 'gift.'" I have seen one that said, "Place donation in plain site upon arrival, fanned out. Do not use an envelope." If it's mentioned on the website, try to follow her instructions. If nothing else, it lets her know you read her website. On the other hand, I have never heard of a lady refusing her donation because it wasn't in an envelope, or vice versa. The topic does come up a lot and some guys say they never use envelopes, and others say they always do. The important thing is to place it where she can see it, but don't hand it to her or talk about it.

pandamod 17 Reviews 423 reads
posted
9 / 14

For clearing that up for me :)

case321 31 Reviews 449 reads
posted
10 / 14

Make some friends here and PM about the ladies. See a well known provider first, she will open doors for you if she is known and respected among the ladies they talk so if you treat her with respect she can offer invaluable advice and suggestions who to visit and who not to. Also she will help you from turning into a blubbering mess when the the appointment time comes. Good luck and welcome you will damn near be shaking riding the elevator up to room but if you have done you're homework when the door opens and the women you've dreamt of is a reality before you, you will be just fine. The right lady will make you forget all you're reservations and anxietys in about 5 seconds. At least that's how my experience was. That sound right Julia?

BigPapasan 3 Reviews 423 reads
posted
11 / 14

...stank ass.  Also, trim your pubes and shave your balls.  All women appreciate a little effort.

harborview 10 Reviews 396 reads
posted
12 / 14

but the donation should be separate & counted correctly in advance.  I use a paper clip to keep it together.  I carry it in my key pocket so I can't forget.  On a first date, generally the lady will want the donation to be placed at once, even if she doesn't pick it up or seems not to notice.  

My Favs mostly go 'old school' which I personally like...   What I do is I place my pocket clutter on the corner of her dresser, next to my clothes (nice if the lady has a chair ready).  My keys go on the dresser, the donation goes on the dresser, watch, wallet, everything else on top of it.  When I redress, the donation is left behind, silently & without obivious watching.  Rarely it is picked up before I leave...  some visits are quite extended after play time...  more often it is still there.  I like the extension of the GFE illusion all the way to our parting.  
As one gal said...  no one could prove she wasn't my GF...  as indeed she was for the time we were together.

mrfisher 112 Reviews 381 reads
posted
13 / 14

the best advice is to read the gal's website VERY carefully in terms of how the donation should be handled, and then follow that advice to the T.

Doing otherwise could leave you high and dry.

harborview 10 Reviews 434 reads
posted
14 / 14

has instructions for the donation & you follow them.  If you seem to be trying to bypass her instructions, then she'll be wary that you may try to bend other rules.  Her safety is at stake.

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