so fill your tank up at the Newbie Manual by clicking the link to it at the top of the page.  Read it cover to cover and then follow many of the threads on this board because every day, topics of vital importance emerge.

Also I would suggest that you pony up the $20/month and become a VIP member which will get you the juicy details so necessary to making a wise decision on whom to see.

As always, feel free to inquire anew if you have any questions along the way.

As to getting referrals, this is a subject that comes up frequently.  Type the word "referals" into the search link on here and you will have hours of reading on the subject.

would be to get a membership on one of the verification sites. (Date-Check, Preferred411, RS2K) They are easy to use, and when you see a lady who interests you, her reviews on TER (if any) are linked directly.

VIP membership here on TER is also a very valuable tool.