How does one ask a provider to wear particular clothing, say garterbelt and stockings, when you are not susposed to talk about specific acts prior to the visit?  Just looking to get out, for a short period,of my humdrum minivan life.

most providers will try to accommodate reasonable ones, if they have the appropriate attire.  If they do not have it, some will say that if you buy it for them, they will wear it for you.  I have never made a clothing request, but all you can do is ask.  Special items of apparel do not constitute talking about specific sex acts.

Swim

Simply say, "I have a special lingerie request (garters & stocks)."