Ever since my first good experience, I've always written a thank you note. Originally, it was partly to express my honest gratitude and partly to gauge whether the girl in question would be okay with seeing me again.

Since then, I've discovered references, P411 okays and the TER white list. My question is, how much of a hassle do providers find it to do all of this follow-up? Do providers consider this just part of being a good member of the community? Guys, do you ask for this stuff? It Seems a little tacky for what was a thank-you note to become a laundry list of okays, whitelists, references etc.

If they liked you they want repeat business.  But it's a completely different thing from asking for a P411 OK or whitelist.  The latter serve a different purpose: making it easier for you to get screened by new providers.  Thank-you notes are worthless for that.  I will often ask for a P411 or Date-Check OK.  I have never asked for a whitelist, though I think some providers to that as a standard thing if you also ask for an OK.

In a business like this, it's the little niceties that leave a nice impression and keep me interested in someone.

It's all a part of the wonderful fantasy experience.

Everyone that I have requested has been most gracious to give me the ok.
That has not prevented me from repeating with the same providers when I returned to their cities.

I usually send a Thank You e-mail after a session. That's all it is. If I'm going to ask for a white list here on TER (I'm not a P411 member or DC etc.) I do that separately a few days later. I don't e-mail them again until I want another appointment. If I want to communicate about things here on the board or another board I use PM's.

if I enjoyed the session, as I mentioned in the thread below (Ladies- appropriate protocol after...).
I usually just say, thanks for the session, It was great meeting you and I would like to see you again in the future. If it is a visiting gal I also tell her it is okay for her to keep my info and contact me when she is back in the neighborhood.

Like xyz, I don't mention anything in that thank you note about whitelists etc. For p411 "OKs" and Date-check "verifications", I use the form on p411 or date-check and ask for it there. For TER whitelists, I will PM them or email them later. I only ask for whitelists form ladies that I have whitelisted other clients. Some will whitelist you without you asking her.

This is all seperate and later from the thank you note.

If I am disposed to write a positive review, I will tell her and ask for a p411 okay. I will also ask for a whitelist reference, "if it is not a problem."

If I am not going to write her a nice review, I do not ask.

I believe the review takes more effort than the okays, though by providing those okays, she is opening herself up to requests for refernence requests from other providers - but most providers tend to view that as a favor to the provider, not the hobbyist. And, of course, as reviewers we get those PMs asking for more info on ladies we have seen, so I guess it all works out.

Anwyay, that seems polite to me - ask for okays if I am doing a good review. it also makes sense since I do not want some lady who might be mad at me because of a lousy review to be contacted for a reference.

zig

....as a quasi utr courtesan.  I always send my gentlemen a thank you note after our date.  I am in DC, and there are well over 200 ladies a gentleman can choose to see.

  Personally, I do not want reviews, therefore, I would never whitelist, give an okay, etc, unless the gentleman asks me to.  Many do.

  When a lady requests a reference from me, I never give details.  If our time together went as planned, I tell her, "with me he was a gentleman, and yes, I would see him again".
I screen well, and always speak to my gentlemen friends before our date.

  A hassle?  The day I find it a hassle, to help someone out, is the day I resign.

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

I like tits, but not too fond of tats! eom

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it isn't a hassle to us. We are encouraging you to see others also by giving you okays and putting you on a whitelist.  These things you feel are tacky are the positive qualities that tell other providers that you are safe to see. You should be glad you have been placed on a whitelist and not a blacklist, if that maybe clears up the perspective for you.

Thank you notes from clients are appreciated, it also lets us know that you enjoyed your time and are interested in doing it again.

In this world of hobbying there are many levels of verification we providers use to decide if a client is safe to see or that we will see. Think of it as a compliment if you have been acknowledged in this way, alot of guys screw up so badly in the beginning that no one wants to see them.

Thanks for the advice.

Sorry, my original post may not have been clear.

I didn't mean that a lady giving me a whitelist listing or a P411 okay is tacky. God no, I'm honored that I've seen 2 ladies since I registered for P411 and have 3 okays, including one from a provider in the UK who was happy to vouch for me. I've never asked for a whitelist and never gotten one.

What I feared might be tacky is for me to write a thank you note that went:


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Dear Miss Hotty,

Thanks for the wonderful time yesterday evening.

Would you mind if I gave your name as a reference. Also, I've requested a P411 okay, hope that's okay. Finally, would you mind whitelisting me?

While I'm here, could you walk my dog next Tuesday.

kthnxbye
Ed

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for any guy I would see again, and some that I would not. I mean some guys are still considered good to other women whom I find too much, so I will not withhold a reference for them...just won't whitelist them. I do not use P411, but I use Date-Check because it allows me to modify the level of an "Ok" I will give. It also allows me to document publicly on a gent's profile if he was a NCNS, so other women can see it when they view him. That makes all the difference. What good is a note to myself if other women have to deal with the same bs and are not alerted?

So no, it is not a pain and is part of my job to take care of the guys who take care of me. It is also part of my job to warn other providers about time wasters, and serious offenders.

Thanks London, I was hoping that that would be the way that providers see it.

If I don't have a whitelist yet, I guess that I have to work on my game.

I was the first whitelist for many veteran hobbyist and wondered why, because they were excellent in all departments. Many women just don't bother, but a good way it to ask for one and write them a review. Make sure to get the whitelist first lol.

I have to agree with London, some girls just don't care and won't take the time to update information. Thats there loss.

As for you sending a note after, its fairly customary but alot don't bother. Those who take the time are the ones we remember and will usually see again.

unless somebody specifically asks me to.  With DC, RS2K, and P411 available, why?