The more you give yourself time to reflect, the more you inhibit yourself.

If you want to have a more enjoyable evening, I would suggest you to get a nice hotel room, have her come over, do the wild sex - DFK, BBBJ, whatever; relax, order room service, chat and then second round.

You will be surprised that once you're intimate with another person, how much more open up you will become.

Let the lady guide you.  Just remember, this is a sure thing so you don't have to try too hard to impress her.  Be yourself and have fun.

Good luck.

A few other thoughts, in no particular order:

--Let her know up front that you are new to this.  That way you don’t worry that she’ll “find that out” (not that it would matter much anyway), she will understand the normal shyness/silence that can ensue, and she will also probably work hard to take the lead.  Most of us like to be the “expert” in any area.

--Flowers cover a lot of ills and fumbles.  Bring her some.  Or just one.

I was stood up. But, that's ok, because she must have been afraid to meet me, and I don't want to be with a lady who doesn't want to be with me, and I also want her to be safe and well, and her being safe and well requires her to make such decisions, and not see every potential client that comes down the pike.

It wasn't a total loss, though: while I was in town, trying to call her, I was browsing through a retail book store, and found a very interesting book to read. I ended up going to dinner by myself and gave the flowers to my waitress.

When I got back home, I called a reputable agency, whose ladies have favorable reviews on TER. I ended up having a wonderful time with the lady who I requested from that agency. She was sexy, and had a fascinating personality. I think I will be seeing her regularly. Although, I still don't have a reference (I assume its not easy to get a reference from a lady who works for an agency), everything turned out well.