There is a provider who I am seeing who I would like to see more often. From everything I can tell she would benefit as well, as she is a grad student and could use the money, yet she is low volume in all this, and I think she does genuinely enjoy our time together as well. While I'm sure we both want to keep this on a professional level, I have a questions about what happens financially when a gig becomes regular. Since we started seeing each other about three months ago, we have been seeing each other about once every three weeks, but we have not talked about making it "regular" per se. We always do a 3-hour appointment for $750. So if we begin to see each other more often, like once a week or even once every two weks, like clockwork, what is reasonable to expect or suggest regarding our financial arrangement for a three-hour appointment, which of the following (1) continue paying that same "published" rate (which for a year translates into about $20k to $40k); or (2) expect a discouted rate because it is so regular and reliable a source of income that requires minimal arrangement time; or (3) pay higher than the regular rate because it is an especially supportive arrangement.
I'm sure it's all over the map in this regard, but is there kind of an "industry standard" approach to financial arrangements for regular gigs? Ladies, I would really apprecate your thoughts about this one!
Thanks, all.
make sure you BOTH fully understand what you are agreeing to. Make sure there is a beginning and ending time to the "arrangement."
A word of caution is in order here too. If she agrees to give you a discounted rate in return for your agreement to see her weekly or whatever for a specified time, and then you burn-out on seeing her before the ending date, you need to be prepared to continue to pay her as agreed upon until the ending date.
Good luck - you may need it!!
it does not mean she will give you a discounted rate. As JB said, after a while you should discuss it with her. Just do not be surprised if she is not interested, after all, you are seeing her frequently at her given rate, so she has little to gain by giving you a discount. She's not your girlfriend, it's a business arrangement, so she will have to decide if it's to her financial advantage to make you the offer. There ia also the possibility of burn-out by you. What happens if you get tired of seeing her?
It actually sounds like you want to start a sugardaddy/sugarbaby relationship with her. If you put it that way, she might be more receptive to the idea of a lower rate for you.
Remember this, if she does offer you the discount, keep it to yourself!!!!! Do not spread it around to your friends. She is doing it for you and should not be expected to do it for others too.
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and the most common scenario is No. 1. In some cases, I have gotten good discounts when we do longer sessions, especially overnights. Also, I sometimes get OTC time to go out for dinner. But the basic rate stays the same.
One other advantage of being a regular is that your rate becomes grandfathered in most cases, so if and when she raises her rates, yours are likely to stay the same.
You can, of course, discuss with her the fact that you'd like to see her more often but would need a discount to do so. Let her decide on the number unless she asks you to do so.
There is another discussion that your post begs, namely the wisdom of seeing just one gal to the exlusion (?) of others, but that should be a separate thread.
I'm going to be very honesy here.....I have had a couple of reg women that I have seen and after the 5th time they knew that we, One, we connected sexually, two, knew I was a nice, good looking guys, three, treated her like a women whould be treated by her boyfriend or husband in the bed room. Therefore, they charged me half the price going forward. I truely believe they like my company, as I like thier company. These were top 10 women in LA, rated very high and charged $800 to $500 a hour. It goes to show you that teating them good and coming back for more works out. Most of these guys are in the hobby to fuck as many women as they can and different ones everytime. I like finding one and continuing to see her. YOu get more out of it and you are able to make a connection with them.
A better word would be "repeat," meaning he comes back again and again. When we say "regular," that usually doesn't mean "Every Thursday at 4pm."
You are mistaking what would be better for you for what you think would be better for her. The biggest problem with giving a guy a discount in price is then you may not be able to "afford" to see him because you have other new guys willing to pay the full rate. It's better to have regulars paying the full rate so there is no choice to be made between loyalty and economics and just give them extra time as a "loyalty bonus."
A discount should be at her initiative, not yours. It's SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCH a turn off for guys to ask if they can see you for less money than what they are currently paying! Don't be that guy!
If SHE wants to see you more often, she will extend a discount.
Keep it simple, "I really wish I could see you more often...." and then leave the ball in her court. If she doesn't feel the same, you need to accept that.
I pay the regularly donation, however, the ladies are incredibly generous with their time. I also get OTC time as well. I also see other ladies, and travel a lot for business, so I see these favs maybe once a month, sometimes not even that much. I give them nice gifts for birthdays, Valentines Day and other times.
I never asked for this arrangement it just sort of evolved into this. There was NEVER any type of negotiating this. My first thoughts are you should be seeing other ladies. My next thought is, if you gotta ask for a discount, forget about it. Just see her when you can afford it.
I recommend against this... and I recommend the ladies do not discount for "regulars"... You get your little discount... and then over time you see her less often but she's stuck still getting the lesser rate. Instead, I have found that ladies I repeat with are extreemly generous with their time but it's good that they know when I come through the door they are going to get the full amount.
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I pay the regularly donation, however, the ladies are incredibly generous with their time. I also get OTC time as well. I also see other ladies, and travel a lot for business, so I see these favs maybe once a month, sometimes not even that much. I give them nice gifts for birthdays, Valentines Day and other times.
I never asked for this arrangement it just sort of evolved into this. There was NEVER any type of negotiating this. My first thoughts are you should be seeing other ladies. My next thought is, if you gotta ask for a discount, forget about it. Just see her when you can afford it.
For me, it's the generosity that is such a turn on that makes me want to do this, not necessarily getting the actual money, if that makes sense.
I could make the same amount seeing three guys at a lower rate, but I'd rather see one at a higher rate because his generosity is a huge turn on.
I had an overnight a few days ago and the guy "pretipped" me by adding extra than my rate... that was so hot! He definitely experienced my appreciation for how much he valued my company!
Thank you for saying that so perfectly.
It is such a turnoff. Let me give you the extra time or tell you that I am going to start giving you a discount.....don't ask.
Don't change anything. If you want to keep seeing her then keep seeing her. Keep paying her donation. If it hurts your budget then maybe see her for shorter sessions occasionally, 90 minutes, 2 hours, maybe even just 1 hour sometimes.
Once you discuss "arrangements" you are obligating yourself. Why would you want to do that.
In this case I say Keep it simple.
Well, the "industry standard" is that you pay her what her published rate is just like you have been. Two assumptions that you don't want to make here are that YOU are doing HER a favor by paying her for sex or that she really enjoys her time with you. If she does enjoy your company you may get additional time or even non-sexual OTC time but I would not expect the donation rate to go down.
What else did you expect? Free pussy?
Thanks all for the responses (except for one late entry smart ass). I'm a little surprised, I don't think anyone advised option #3 - give her even more than regular! Though pretty new a this, I had an ATF/regular for the last year [she moved out of the area 
] and I'm pretty sure I was more generous with her than with others, and more generous than her "published rate" with both the gift $ and gift products. Might make that a little more like a Sugar Daddy? But it wasn't really, I couldn't keep her quite that well! But with her and the current lady I'm moving in that direction with, it's true what many of you said - the "extra" return on steady investment been not in fewer $ but in unrushed time and in some OTC time - though even that I felt uncomfortable with, and I ponied up even for those lunches or dinners - she was giving her time, her most valuable commodity, so I thought that was only fair, and it keeps the undercurrent that it is a professional relationship. And thanks for the wisdom about seeing others - yes, for me that's an important balance even if not too many others too often - it still helps maintain the balance. Thanks again, all, I appreciate your insights!
if a good provider is low volume, she probably has no trouble filling her time slots, so how does it benefit her at all to see you more often? she could easily give the time to another guy.
Why in gods name would you want to hem up more of her probly limited time she has in general and for less? um thats not very caring or kind or generous of you. Why not pay her 750 fpr 2 an half hours , so she can spend the last 30 min struding instead then shel really have you ad a regular.
