I have just started the hobby and made a contact with a provider who had  a good review.  We exchanged photos and emailed for about 2 weeks before setting up the session.  As the emails went back and forth, I described my wishes for GFE & CFS.   This was all good for her as she stated she was “selective”   and preferred a few serious repeat clients.
The anticipation & fantasy got the best of me and we arranged for an overnight at a hotel.( a bad idea for the first meeting, dahh!!)
I open the door and she is much heavier than her photos.  First thing, she wants me to take her out to dinner ( we had  previous discussed that was not an option for me).
Instead of GFE she then informs me, her desire is be “knocked around and treated rough.”
Instead of pleasing me, she next  insists on DATY first.  I have read the newbie manual and was freshly showered.  DATY revealed she had not.
All she desired was Mish( not my favorite)  and refused cowgirl , my preference.
During this time, she is at least sensing it is not going well and makes the comment several times she is not going to take the envelope.  She then decides to go out for a smoke (her profile stated a nonsmoker which was not true either as that was my taste at first kiss).
Of course she does not return and the envelope is still on the nightstand. But when I pick up the envelope it has been carefully opened and resealed with the overnight cash gone.
So my impression is that she may have had the rip off planned along since nothing matched her profile & emails.
There were several times I could have called it off and should have.  That is OK, correct? Just simply state it is not going well?
Then what about the money?  I was foolish to arrange the overnight as a first meeting, but how are negotiations made when the experience is not right and the provider has the cash up front?
And who writes the Provider Profiles?  Her profile is highly inaccurate with errors about incall, smoking, weight, ,boobs,  etc…
Do I write a bad review of her? (not in my nature)
And this all from a provider who charges $300/hr.  At that rate I would have expected better.
Final comment was getting screwed by the hotel which asked for my name when I ordered room service food for her.  So now she knows my true ID.  How to get around  a situation where you have to use your true ID in the presence of the provider?
For a newbie TEF has been a great resource. Thanks

First off lets assess the fact that you used your "true Id"

Very few gentlemen I meet have ever, ever felt uncomfortable giving me their real name. When I feel uncomfortable I will ask for an ID to verify they are the person they said they were if they are a newbie. This is different with gents who are seeing other ladies and have provider references.

Second is that you were pretty naive to have a girl come to you for an overnight who you have not previously met. That is not a good idea. You SHOULD write a review of her and state all the different facts including how she ripped you off. Do the hobby a favor and include this so other men are not scammed in the same way AND NAME her on your regional board so others will know the sh** she pulled with you.

1.  She had "a" review?  Dont' go for an escort with only one review, especially if you are new at this.  Look for at least six or so.  Did you check if the reviewer himself had several reviews to his credit? If not, that is classic phoney review situation.

2.  You already know the downside of starting off with an overnight.  Try an hour instead.  The loss would have been minimal to your wallet and your constitution.

3. I'm glad you resisted the dinner scam.

4.  Write a review.  Dont let this be a total loss.  My impression is that we are looking at maybe a 6/3 situation here.

5.  As for your real name, a good provider insists on that upfront.  If she didn't require that for starters, that was a tip off that trouble was brewing.

6.  Profiles:  My understanding is that the first reviewer sets up the profile and it remains unchanged unless someone complains to staff about it; complain now!

I wish you much better success in the future.

there are 2 ways to hobby: the right way & the wrong way.

You, my dear friend, have been screwed... & obviously not the kind you had in mind.  My sympathies.  

But what is regrettable, is that you had to have your experience despite having TER as a resource.

So lesson # 1:  there is "research" & there is RESEARCH.

Lesson # 2 : chalk it up to experience & learn from it.

Lesson # 3: see LESSON # 1 !!

learned from this, although the hard way, so it is time to move on.  Research for multiple reviews (at least 5 or 6) from reviewers with multiple reviews and you should be rewarded with a wonderful experience.  Good luck.

Mac, you got screwed, and not in the good way.  As the other guys have said, the key is RESEARCH.  If you don't have VIP membership, get it, even if for only a month or two.  Definitely worth it.

Sorry you had bad first experience, but don't let that keep you from hobbying.  It is a ball (pun intended)

Swim

....by and large fishman and hump have spread the gospel on your situation.  Take their wisdom and go with it.  One thing that no one has commented on is that you traded emails in which you described what services you wanted.  DON'T DO THIS!  While you avoided LE this time, next time you may not be so lucky.  Plus, GOOD PROVIDERS (the kind you WANT to see) will not go for this exchange.

Sorry you got dicked up the toot.

Thank you for the feedback and further education.  I did try again with a different provider who was simply wonderful and represents what is great about the Hobby.  I wrote a review on her to share.
As a newbie one mistake I made was to equate GFE with compassion & caring.  The scammer's emails led me down a path of anticipation and she reeled in a sucker when she hooked one.  jjackflash has a great point and something I had no clue about.  Thanks again.
If I post a review of the scammer, any thoughts on potential repercussions since we know she is not of the ethical nature??
Or do think she is simply satisfied with the money and will not have any interest in revenge?

Glad to you found what you wanted!

Now what to do about the last time?  I agree with everyone else, a review is in order, but I also understand your concerns.  Yes there are cases of guys being harassed by providers when they post a bad review.  I wouldn't expect this in your case if , as you describe, she has only one review from a one-time reviewer.  It is possible she has never heard of TER.  It's up to you to determine if she has enough info to cause you trouble.

Another possibility is to post a problem report.  You will see the "report a problem" link at the top of every problem.  A provider's initial profile is set by her first review, and subsequent reviews don't always lead to corrections/updates.  Posting a problem is another way to let the powers that be know that things aren't right, or have changed.  If you report a problem, I'd recommend that you include a link to your original post here, http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=26584&boardID=33.