I have been bounced around the world with my career for about 27 years now . A month here , 6 months over there , home for a month then off again , not fait to get involved with a civie relationship . I'm 45 , a fit 150 lbs , intelligent , well travelled ,and a damn good guy by all accounts. Literally after about 24 or 25 years of NO sex what so ever I discovered this avenue . At first glance it seemed perfect so I researched and found a HOT provider that was , just as you stated - friggin' HOT ! First visit with her the nerves were understandably there , for her and I . I was able to put them in the back of my head and realise this was for ME . Looking back after 3 visits with her some things became clear . The first visit for her appeared to have some excitement level to it , an addrediline rush if you will . She was completely into it, and tried very hard, but it was a no go for me . I was rock hard but just could not reach the big " O ". Second visit , a little less effort and again a no go for me , I could punch a hole in a concrete wall but just no orgasm . She was aware of this on both occasion's . Yep I tried one more time with her . She got comfortable with me and took advantage of it. She was 2 hours late , texted her next appointment - on MY friggin TIME and couch - WTF !!! To be honest I think she went by the coke dealer and that was why she was late . She just laid there while I went to town - nothing except chirping crickets and a warm hole ! Again no " O " for me , at this point I don't think she even cared Gret reviews but it taught me something ...............Look deep in the writing and you will see you need to take them with a grain of salt . Some are glorious and probably have some hidden agenda that the girl may be appriciative on her next visit with him - Just my opnion. Just be careful seeing the same lady - they can get a confort level and take advantage of it ! I had been warned by others on TER about this ,and they were right . Biggest lesson I wanted to pass on to 'ya ................I am pretty sure I need an emotional connection to achieve the big one. Nothing wrong with that but it is something I am discovering right now . I call it being a " nice guy " and I always have been in that catagory . It is possible you too need some kinda " feelings " in order to let go sexually . I just can't seem to let go with a wham bam , thank you mam session . I am going to try a few more different girls and see what I can find out about myself .
I visited a provider for the first time recently. I am in my late 20s and chose a provider that was well reviewed in my area (I have VIP membership.) A big part of the reason I have decided to start hobbying is I am in a serious rut and have not had sex in over 2 years. Because of that I was very concerned I'd not be able to last more than a few seconds, so about 30 minutes before I went over I jacked off.
Well, when I got to the providers incall I have to say she really put in a heroic effort trying to get me up, and I put in a good bit of effort just trying to get myself up, and it wasn't happening. A few times I got half-hard but I couldn't get it any further.
As far as the provider, she was very attractive and extremely understanding, she made me feel really at ease and I really appreciated the effort she put in trying to give me my money's worth.
While it has been a long time for me, back when I was having sex regularly this had never happened ever in my entire life. To be honest the provider I was with, if I had to rate her attractiveness she was more attractive than any woman I had ever been with before in my life. I've never had trouble getting it up by myself, so I don't think there is anything physical that is wrong with me.
I really want to try this again, and the provider I was with wanted me to do another session with her in the near future. However I'm obviously in this to get laid, and if I'm not going to be able to get it up I don't want to keep hobbying any further. Is there any way to make sure this doesn't happen? Or is it possible I just don't have it in me to do this?
Certainly, not yet. The first part of the answer is easy: don't jerk off first, then see what happens. And of course there are nerves that are part of a first-time experience like this. Totally normal. Just go in with no expectations except to enjoy the experience, whatever happens. If you pick any good provider, she'll make you feel comfortable. The main thing is, when you fall of the horse you've gotta get back on again.
It sounds as if in an attempt to avoid one imagined problem you created another real one. There is no guarantee of performance but worry is definitely a way to increase the problem. Seeing the same lady again is probably your best bet, you have seen her, you'll be more relaxed about what should occur and that should help. Lay off the activities before hand (several days if your really concerned) and if you felt rushed to perform possibly extend the time a little. Unfortunately your a young guy with performance expectations that can cause you to put extra worry about how your doing. Just relax and enjoy your time with the lady and the rest should sort itself out.
wilted when it was time to do the big finale. She got me off with BJ/HJ. Saw her couple years later after seeing other providers, no problem. Attributed it to nerves the first time, because she was really a hot chick.
When meeting someone new, I usually book a 90 minute session. A provider that charges 300/hr will often do 400/90 min. That extra 30 min knocks down the time pressure. The provider will appreciate the extra time, she's nervous with a new client as well.
Jerking off before a session is a really bad idea, stop that. The provider you met sounds very sweet & she's better looking than anyone you've had, according to you. Book her again and let us know how it turns out. Good luck. --z
I had a similar experience my first time in the hobby with an escort. Just too nervous...
Looking back at it I realized that I should have not jacked off beforehand, I should have told her that she was my first escort, and I should have booked a longer session.
If you are worried about not lasting long on the first pop then research and make sure you book a provider that offers msog.
I have been bounced around the world with my career for about 27 years now . A month here , 6 months over there , home for a month then off again , not fait to get involved with a civie relationship . I'm 45 , a fit 150 lbs , intelligent , well travelled ,and a damn good guy by all accounts. Literally after about 24 or 25 years of NO sex what so ever I discovered this avenue . At first glance it seemed perfect so I researched and found a HOT provider that was , just as you stated - friggin' HOT ! First visit with her the nerves were understandably there , for her and I . I was able to put them in the back of my head and realise this was for ME . Looking back after 3 visits with her some things became clear . The first visit for her appeared to have some excitement level to it , an addrediline rush if you will . She was completely into it, and tried very hard, but it was a no go for me . I was rock hard but just could not reach the big " O ". Second visit , a little less effort and again a no go for me , I could punch a hole in a concrete wall but just no orgasm . She was aware of this on both occasion's . Yep I tried one more time with her . She got comfortable with me and took advantage of it. She was 2 hours late , texted her next appointment - on MY friggin TIME and couch - WTF !!! To be honest I think she went by the coke dealer and that was why she was late . She just laid there while I went to town - nothing except chirping crickets and a warm hole ! Again no " O " for me , at this point I don't think she even cared Gret reviews but it taught me something ...............Look deep in the writing and you will see you need to take them with a grain of salt . Some are glorious and probably have some hidden agenda that the girl may be appriciative on her next visit with him - Just my opnion. Just be careful seeing the same lady - they can get a confort level and take advantage of it ! I had been warned by others on TER about this ,and they were right . Biggest lesson I wanted to pass on to 'ya ................I am pretty sure I need an emotional connection to achieve the big one. Nothing wrong with that but it is something I am discovering right now . I call it being a " nice guy " and I always have been in that catagory . It is possible you too need some kinda " feelings " in order to let go sexually . I just can't seem to let go with a wham bam , thank you mam session . I am going to try a few more different girls and see what I can find out about myself .
You can read it under one of my reviews. But I had trouble getting it up too. I'm also in my late 20's. masturbated about 10 hours prior. I more than lived out my fantasy, and I had trouble towards the end and the beginning. So don't fret. I feel ya. I'm certain that jacking off too often will mess with your erectile abilities since you'll be only accustomed to your own method of doing things. So it's best to hold off on going solo as much as you can, so that you can perform longer with these providers and actually take advantage of the multiple pops if offered.
When I started this it was just to get laid, after a long break. And I got that, but I also got to work through all the various forms of dysfunction, most particularly limp dick, and no O. What I found was, as recommended, no jerk off (the greatly missed LG even had a program called No Mas Masturbation, or NMM - search on The Erotic Highway Board), and eventually Vitamin L(evitra) for me. And now I am clicking.
Funny thing was that this only happened with ladies I really wanted. When there was no real chemistry, I was up, in, done and out, no problem. So the two ladies with whom I could not even get it up both became regulars for me because they really turned me on physically, and engaged me mentally. Apparently getting the mind going took all the blood from the little head.
Stop with the jerking, go back and see the lady, relax, enjoy. Try some L, V, or C if you want extra security, though my guess is you can do without.
You want be charged for at least two days, at a minimum. Next time, if you want to hold longer, play with her as much as possible...DFK, play with her tits, and DATY. and keep your cock in contact with the air only. Eventually, when the times comes for BBBJ...if you think you are going to lose it too quickly, you have a choice...either just allow that happen, and enjoy the orgasm (which may be surreal in it's intensity), or opt to don a hat and fuck her instead...that may allow you to hold out longer, and remember that most of the ladies like to fuck! Since you are still in your 20's, a second pop should likely be in the cards, and maybe you should look ahead to that as a goal...
I made that same newbie mistake on my first visit with a provider, jacked off about 6-8 hours beforehand. While I was able to maintain the erection and eventually have an orgasm, it was without a condom -- came via HJ.
Don't worry about it. Abstain for 2-3 days, and book another session with her or another provider, and you'll see a world of difference. It might be a great idea to go back to her, as you seemed to like her, and you'll probably be less nervous on a second visit.
I've been UTR on here for about 4 years now - Just Joined the Hobby today by seeing my first provider and had the same fears about popping to fast, so did what you did with the same results. Everything was going great till she applied the cover and then things went south after that. The more I tried to the more south things went, and believe me she tried. I’ve never been more embarrassed in my life. She kept telling me it was all right and It happens all the time with first timers (to the hobby) like me. It wasn’t tell reading your post that I started feeling OK about it. So thank you and everyone else on here for posting their stories. I’ve already set another appointment up with the same provider for next week. Just go to get back on the horse so to speak.
For many guys, it takes longer to start to pee at a urinal if someone else is right next to them at the other one. If you were alone, you'd whip it out and piss up a rope. With someone there, you KNOW you've got to pee, you were squeezing your legs together squirming in your seat before you made the mad dash to the men's room and now you're dry as a bone. Some chalk it up to something similar to performance anxiety. A perfectly normal bodily function that gets disrupted by an unusual setting.
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Gret reviews but it taught me something ...............Look deep in the writing and you will see you need to take them with a grain of salt . Some are glorious and probably have some hidden agenda that the girl may be appriciative on her next visit with him - Just my opnion. Just be careful seeing the same lady - they can get a confort level and take advantage of it ! I had been warned by others on TER about this ,and they were right .