Greetings All,
Thanks for taking the time to read this post.

As I stated , I am a newbie (I think lol) . I have been with a couple providers and have had a nice time, typically spending an hour or maybe two on average. I'm not married, make a very good living, and prefer to have my provider come to me in the comfort of my own home. I have made the decision that I do not want to be in a relationship with a woman and this hobby is just what i needed.

What is the protocol for wanting to spend an evening with a lady out on the town before retiring to my place? If I wanted to take a provider out to a nice restaurant, and maybe a walk through the zoo or a stroll through the mall, is it typical to expect to pay the same rate per hour as an outcall? Are some providers willing to reduce their rate if other non-physical activities are involved?

Some of you might be thinking, "Why not just go out and get a real date", and I understand this, but for me, I like the no strings attached part the best. I'd like to spend an entire evening talking, laughing and enjoying ones company, then getting down to business. I look at my donation at the end of the evening as a payment to leave and not call me or "swing by" to visit. That is why I like this hobby so much.

I can afford to pay a couple thousand I guess, but I'm just not sure if I'd be getting the best "bang" for my buck. I have other hobbies as well , and would get more satisfaction buying car parts or ammo.

Just curious to see if there are any other "wierdo's"LOL ( I'm Kidding ) like me out there that could give me some advice.

Thanks in advance!

It's just as real a date as if you found a gal at the library and she accepted the offer, except that with the former you'll know exactly where you stand and will probably have a better time.

First, let me congratulate you for your judgement and common sense.

As to your question the answer is yes; there are many gals who will love to spend a day and night with you and fill it with interesting activities like movies, theater, museums, shopping (especially shopping!), and dinner, as well as the expected fun time in the bed room.  I do this frequently myself.

Some gals offer extended time of several days or even a week or more for going on long vacations, etc.

Most gals have sharply discounted rates on their websites for extended visits, so inquire there first.  Some gals will want to have seen you one or two times first before they accept an overnight date, and especially before staying at your home as opposed to a hotel or their place, just from the point of view of their safety.

Just remember, all the time you do spend with her is on the clock, in one way or the other.  Never assume otherwise.

a range of rates for longer than just one hour dates on their website.  If you do the research, you will see this.  If she does not, then it's incumbent on you to ask about 'dinner dates'.  If you are willing to drop a couple grand, look at her overnight rate.  That would cover everything you want I would think.

Swim

Thanks for your input!

I wouldn't want to do this with just any provider. But I have come across one that I do enjoy our conversations and I don't care if she is "working" me or not. Let's be honest, it's her trade. It would be no different than some of the customers that I can't stand that I entertain and make the best of a situation that has to be done to make me money. But, she is proffesional, and I become more aroused after spending some time talking with her and having interesting discussions.

I may do some more "shopping around" and just be upfront with the provider. I have never some across a woman that turns down a shopping trip to Victoria's Secret.

I just wanted to make sure my request would not be misconstrued or considered inappropriate. I guess it's all in how I handle the stuation.

Thanks Again!

Most hobbyists are adverse to dinner dates or any type "out on the town dates" (i..e a Broadway show, time at a museum, etc.) simply because they feel they are paying the provider to eat or participate in some other activity rather than sex.

I think what they miss is that you really get tremendous value for your time with lady. As the previous posters alluded to, most ladies will have drastically reduced rates for dinner or longer engagements. A lady would MUCH prefer a longer date for an evening than a series of 3-4 hourly sessions. For example, on a recent business trip, I set up a dinner date with a lady (whom I have seen prior) who has the following rate structure: 1 Hour: 300, 2 Hours: 550, 3 hours: 700, Dinner Date: 800. With the dinner date, I was with her for the evening. She arrived at my hotel room around 7. We built in some pre dinner play time. Dinner was prob. from around 8:30-10:00. Then we went back to my hotel room for some post dinner play time. She prob. left close to 1:00PM. Never was there any rush. I was "on the clock" with her for almost 6 hours (great value for 800), multiple pops. Yes, I was "on the clock" while the lady ate, but guess what? If I wasn't with her, I'd be taking some boring client out to dinner (same cost) and I wouldnt get laid after!!!!

In short, dinner dates would be perfect for your preferred method of dating. My suggestion though would be to arrange a shorter visit with a lady first, before arranging for a longer date. The last thing you want is to book a 5-6 hour eveing and realize after 30 minutes you are not compaitable.

For me personally, I am not having sex after I spend hours eating or drinking, so all of my dates are sex first, and dinner afterwards. I also offer a "clock free" option up to 7 hours, but we agree on how that's going to go before making firm plans.

Some women charge a substantial amount just to eat dinner, and some don't. Personally, I get paid to have sex, and not so much to eat. I would never visit a client at his home much less spend the night there, though. Just not my thing. I keep business separate from my/his personal space, and always have.

Just ask the providers in question, what they would be comfortable doing.

$1200 for 8 hours?...check.
Beautiful woman?....check.
Loves to cook?......check.
Gun owner?..........check.
Keeps me from going to Jiffy Lube?...check.
Sophisticated yet will still eat in a "hole in the wall"...check.

My attorney is drawing up the pre-nup as of this very moment!

Dont take her off the market yet, I need someone to change my oil, would see her today if I was in NC.

Guess they didn't have websites or maybe you just didn't read it. Most top providers have websites and almost all of them have a page that descirbes the type of dates they offer from 1 hr to 1 month and everything in between and what it costs. I don't know what the best bang for the buck is, but there should be absolutely no problem in arranging a multiple hour date. Depending on how long you decide as another poster mentioned you might want to try a shorter date just to make sure you get along with her.

invite her there for cocktails, two appetizers (one a quick get to know you play time then a food option), dinner that you prepare, and then dessert (more playtime).

And they also, allow you to get to know the lady a bit better and get a feel of how smart and interesting she may be (something impossible to get within the hour sometimes), each of us have a different rate structure and depending on the client, we may be bit more flexible to a lesser amount if the chemistry is right  (keep in mind that an extended date with someone you don't like may be very exhausting mentally). I recommend meeting her for a short period of time (two hours) and then ask her if she would like to have a dinner date with you, then you can disclose exactly how the time will be spent so she can decide how to manage the financial part.

Kisses,

Paloma M.

I would ask you to reach out to the girls in question that you are considering.

Typically there are multi-hour discounts, so you are basically not paying the same rate as you would per hour.  However, because you can also book those multi-hour dates as being purely in bed, I can't tell you that it's a discounted rate from purely hooking up.

Your best bet would be to state exactly what you are proposing.  For example, propose dinner and a show and then an hour or two back at your place.  Let them know it's not gonna be more than an hour or two of intimacy and that the rest of the time, it won't be physical exertion.  Some women will give you a better rate this way, if they know upfront what they are getting themselves into.

It also helps if the non-physical activities are upscale.  For example, if you are taking her to a black-tie charity dinner, that's a lot more appealing than dinner at Applebee's.

Good luck.

I'm in the camp that I am paying $$$$ for sex, not to take someone out to dinner!  

I've never gone on a dinner date with a provider, as most providers I've seen seem to have a dinner-date rate that does deviate from the normal rate.  You know, I am not rolling in cash, so I must maximize what cash I do have and that means not dropping an extra $500 just to sit for an hour at a dinner table watching someone eat.  

Having said that, I don't want to sound like a cheap bastard and I very much like the concept of taking someone out to dinner and drinks first, getting to know them, building up the anticipation...I just don't feel I should pay the same hourly rate for that (especially if I'm also paying for her dinner and drinks).

I had a girl the other day offer to go out for dinner/drinks before our next session, I mentioned that I probably couldn't afford her rate for that, and she said "Oh no! I would be free, just hanging out! You would only pay for the session time once we got back to my place".  

WOW, she is a keeper!

I demand half price for 8 sleeping hours per day.

So that's $30,000 per day.

I expect to live about 30 more years.

That's $328,500,000 for 16 GFE hours per day for 30 years.

Will you take a check?

I loved the quote that "you are paying the lady to leave". Haha,it doesn't get more nsa than a provider in my opinion.

quite different ,as a lot of ladies I have seen over the years have remained friends.While some are in Atl.top 100,others retired from that list & still others might get there once qualifications are met.( met all of them as newbies)Most however are UTR  ladies with full time jobs .
For example : This weekend I had 2  providers from out of town stay overnight.Still a few others drop by for lunch and I had Utr stop in today on her way to church.(btw she was the only 1 I had a session with or payed any money to.)
Now I own my own business , have 1 in college and I hit the slopes in winter & casino's in the summer(of course with at least one lady or sometimes two.)I find it helps to introduce them  to each other and set parameters for friendship & fun.I am not a banker and if a lady goes in that direction regularly she gets deleted.Bottom line.. they choose to spend time cause we have fun & I treat them as the ladies they  are!
Now this is me, you have indicated that while you want to have fun , you prefer keeping a distance.IMHO that can be done once you find a provider you connect with, see on a regular basis and show her your fun & worthy of her spending time with.
Now chances are slim of this happening with an agency lady IMHO, It is probably best to seek out top reviewers in your area.