Soo i'm getting ready to pull the plug i have a few ladies i'm narrowing my list down too. Any advice how to make this a memorable experience ? Should i offer her a drink when we meet ? I found a provider who has a package for 4 hours for 1,300  pretty reasonable however that seems pretty long would you guys recommend i just stick with the basic hour to begin ? Keep the conservation light and friendly just like i'm meeting someone for the first time? Any advice would be appreciated

I booked for just an hour with a then well regarded and reviewed lady named Sexy Toni, who was touring in NYC at the time thirteen years ago.  The meeting went off well, to say the least.  She has since become legendary, and I am friends with her to this day.  Thrice this week, in fact.  

Getting back to your question, I'd advise keeping it simple for your first foray, and book for just an hour or two.  It's likely you will be as nervous as a bridegroom, and best not to overwhelm yourself first time out.  She also doesn't know you, your in-hobby references are probably minimal or non-existent as a newbie, so it's probably best to pace yourself up before going on a 4 hr. dinner (?) date.          

Best of luck, and welcome to The Game!

It seems like you have this preconceived idea that you want the first time to be this lovely, memorable experience. It's not a good idea to have those kinds of expectations going into any new session. I've been hobbying over 40 years, and sometimes you have a euphoric experience, and sometimes it's on the other end of the spectrum. You can improve your chances by seeing only highly rated ladies, but that is no guarantee, as my last three new highly rated ladies no showed. Thank the TER Gods for old friends.  

With that in mind, this is what I would do. Take your 1300 + 200, and schedule the top three ladies on your list for an hour each. Just don't schedule my three ladies. You'll have a better chance of having the euphoric experience you desire. With three experiences, you'll be able to judge better who gets the 4 hour session next time. You'll also have three valuable references. Lastly, it's probably not a good idea to offer the lady a drink. Let her offer you a drink.

Based on your questions I am going to assume that you have enough $ to throw around that you can afford an hour with a well-reviewed newbie-friendly provider.  As others have pointed out, that's the way to go.  Since you are asking about offering drinks, I am assuming you are looking for outcall, so the following advice is geared toward that.

When she shows up, it's basic good manners and professional interaction - the  twist is that you need to make her comfortable that you are not a psycho, that you will respect her boundaries, and that she will get paid.  When she comes to the door I invite her in, thank her for coming, and tell her she looks nice.  If it is winter and she is wearing a coat, offer to hang it up.

 Since the bathroom is usually between the door and the sleeping area, I usually put the envelope with the donation there in plain sight.  As we pass by I point to the bathroom and say something like "the bathroom is over there if you want to freshen up."  She may want to go in there; she may go straight to the sleeping area with you.  I usually offer her a bottle of water and  sit on the couch if there is one.  In other words, treat her like a guest in your home or office.  Usually the provider will take the lead at this point, so just follow her cues.  When she asks what I like or what I want, I usually respond by asking her if she has any rules or anything I should know about.  I find that helps with her comfort level and avoids misunderstandings when we are getting down.

....my attitude going into every new encounter is "you don't ever know" and I hope for the best.

Yep -- it's going to be like your first dates and first time in any other situation -- you'll be nervous and awkward.

Best advice is find a provider that is newbie friendly or at least well reviewed and experienced. Try to relax and let her lead.

Also, it is highly unlikely that you're ever going to give her a ring and propose -- and even less likely that she would accept (no unheard of though) -- so you might want to think a bit about your needs and motivations here. If your lonely and have problems with non-pay relationships it's going to be easy to want to project those needs and feeling into these experiences. That's generally going to end poorly for you. You need to learn how to control your emotions -- allow them to run wild (well, at least wild within the rules she has)  and then know that when you walk out the door they were no more than a fantasy. think of it as having read a great book or seen a great movie where you really identified with one of the characters.

I appreciate your guys feedback found them to be very helpful

gals will eschew a drink, unless you open a sealed bottle of wine, or similar.

 
You might want to knock back a drink  (emphasis on "a") a few minutes before.  it helps with the jitters.

recommend starting with a shorter time. The first time I did it with a provider I was nervous and didnt know what to expect. If you don't connect than 4 hrs is a long time to hang out. I'm usually only good for one shot and to have to spend the rest of the time talking or cuddling would be too much for me especially with someone I just met.

As mojojo said:  I would also recommend only 60 or 90 minutes sessions for the first time(s).  That way you're not overwhelmed and you run no risk of running into the awkward silence when there's nothing else to do.  

Take all that money you've saved up for the 4 hour date, and see three ladies for an hour each with that same money.  You'll gain some experience AND get different perspectives with different ladies in the process.  You'll find that you like one best.  

Then find your absolute favorite and knock it out of the ballpark with that 4 hour blowout date.  

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