A new hobbyist PM'd me and asked: How do you explain to a provider the kind of time together (Ie: wearing a certain outfit, toys, Greek, talk dirty, whatever) you'd like to have? I know you're not suppose to refer to sexual acts and such directly to a provider but how do you convey what you'd like & not get into any trouble if it's even possible?
I thought it was a good question and worth posting. Here's how I answered him.
That's a good question and the answer is complex. Obviously you have to read her TER profile, every word of a provider's websites, any other profiles like P411 she might have, and what her reviewers have reported about their experiences.
You are correct that any talk about anything explicitly sexual will get you in trouble with a provider. But less explicit questions??? It really varies from girl to girl. I prefer to err on the side of caution. None of the girls seem to mind being asked to wear a certain type of outfit. Beyond that, I won't discuss toys, greek, dirty talk, etc.
This approach has kept me safe and in good standing with all the girls I've met. After I've established a rapport with a girl and revisited her a few times then sometimes we exchange more explicit emails. (My ATF just sent me an email saying how wonderful I am (blush, blush) and what powerful full body orgasms she had with me yesterday!)
But on the other hand, I must confess this approach has led to some disappointments as well. One girl told me when I visited her that she didn't offer greek even though her profile clearly stated she does offer it and some of her reviews mentioned greek as well. So I go with the flow, conceal my disappointment and try to have a great time anyway even though that one thing I had hoped to experience with her was not gonna happen. Who knows, maybe she said no because my cock is so huge she was scared, (as if, LOL!)
