I am a complete newbie to the hobby and have a quick email etiquette question.  I recently set up my first appointment and looking through the providers website for her etiquette I didn't see anything. I wanted to know if it was proper to ask some questions through email about her etiquette and if it is reasonable what are the boundaries you shouldn't overstep with the questions?

Have you read the self help center? This comes up a lot on this board, skim a few pages here and search for key words like contact, correspondence, email, etc.

Discretion is important in communicating with providers, but you don't need to be so cryptic here. I think you you will get more answers, and certainly better ones, if you tell us what you need to know about her.

Good luck.

Thanks for the reply.  I did look through the the self help and couldn't find what I was looking for and I have a thread from earlier that spoke to this but couldn't find it. My question is around facial hair.   I know from my old post that others were saying that you shouldn't worry to much about it but I guess for me I may be second guessing myself but figured whatever I can do to make it enjoyable for them would make it more enjoyable for myself.  I normally have a trimmed beard but want to make sure that the provider is ok with that or if they provider a clean face.  Is this crossing the line with a question in an email to them or is it a weird question to ask. I just understand some people are more sensitive to facial hair than others.

Now, if it is about her facial hair, that might be dicey.  8o)

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Most other things are fair game. (I did say MOST, not all) Facial hair is not an issue that you can't discuss. Feel free to let her know you have a trimmed beard if you want to. It is probably not necessary, but if it makes you feel better letting her know in advance, I don't see any Provider getting offended that you have told her this. From personal experience most providers are ok with beards and ok with clean shaven. What they don't like is sandpsper stubble.

Haha thanks. I'll keep that in mind.

But my opinion is that if you're afraid your beard will ruin your date, you're just borrowing trouble because you're nervous. If you keep it trimmed, it shouldn't be a problem. Doubly so if you use some conditioner on it and remember it's there and don't get too rough.  

I've worn a trimmed beard of some form or another consistently for about 15 years. Some women like the look, and some even like the feel, if done properly. Are you really ready to change how you present yourself for someone you haven't met? We're not talking about an outfit that will show her you care what she likes, which you can change out of as soon as you leave. If I was in love with a woman and she with me and she told me she didn't like my beard, I'd shave. If I was crazy about an ATF and she said some things I like to do weren't gonna happen anymore because of the beard, I'd seriously consider it.

I think you should see her once or twice and if you think you like her enough to be a regular, ask her in person. If you really wanna know before the date, I'd see no harm in asking what she thinks of facial hair or whether she likes it. She'll probably think you're very sweet. Just don't say hey I love to DATY, are you afraid my beard will give you a pussy rash?

With asking!

I've certainly read emails that included a simple "I typically wear a neatly trimmed beard.  If you prefer I have a clean shave please let me know."

Wording it like that allows us to tell you if we have ultra sensitive skin or to simply ignore the statement if one were to be uncomfortable addressing it.

I suppose some ladies do have super sensitive skin and might prefer a clean shave but I personally enjoy a little tickle

Xoxo

Chloe

if you mention it in an email if she is okay with facial hair/beard.
Have fun

Some might prefer no beard, but will usually find a way to accommodate, even if it means the loss of certain close contacts that you might prefer.  

I would avoid making jokes about HER beard in email until you know her better. You think you're joking about facial hair and she might be put off by thinking it's a coded reference to a shaved pussy.

On a semi-serious note, you can also pick up some beard covers / beard nets on-line or at local (maybe; depends on what is local to you) surgical supply shops. Not standard equipment in the hobbyists tool kit (magnum condoms -check; lube - check; beard net - ?????), but you can customize to suit your needs!

Good luck and have a good time

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Don't talk about money or sevices in emails...Etiquette overprice prostitutes.

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