...or at least cold turkey from her. See someone else. It's easy to become attached especially with the excellent job many of these ladies do. Remember though there are many others that can rock your world. Check out other ladies that interest you. You may be surprised and find you like them all. Then you can rotate not seeing any one of them back to back.
At the risk of getting lambasted on here I'm wondering if there is any advice on how to settle my emotions after seeing a provider a few times & kind of becoming attached?
Is the best option to quit cold turkey & just move on? I live in reality & fully understand nothing will come of the relationship but I find myself completely mesmerized & while I don't want it to stop I also need to be able to keep my emotions in check.
Anyways just thought check this whole discussion board thing out.
You either are or you're not. But in my experience, guys who think they "may" be....ALREADY ARE.
So this is easy to spell out. You have 2 options:
1) Keep seeing her, she senses you becoming attached and she ditches you, causing you to go in the tank.
2) Break it off asap, before you get in too deep, and see other girls or maybe just take a break if you are not into any other girls at the moment. That way YOU control the situation and the situation doesn't control, you giving you some peace of mind that you handled it maturely.
But while it is easy to spell out your two options, it is much harder to throw the switch. But one thing is certain. It is MUCH easier to do it now than later when you are drowning.
Very, very few guys follow the cold turkey approach. But in hindsight, everyone of them told me privately it is something they wish they had done before they fell in love with their hooker
Agree completely, unfortunately from my own recent experience, there's one addition I'd like to tack on:
3) Keep seeing her, she senses you becoming attached and she attempts to take advantage of you.
3) Keep seeing her, she senses you becoming attached and she attempts to take advantage of you.
The only girl I feel any sort of "attachment" for is the only one who doesn't try to take advantage and she's more real than most other girls because she doesn't fain terms of endearment, she just gives me the occasional compliment and tries to boost my morale when I tell her about my lack of luck with civies, so in that sense she's just a good friend who I happen to P4P. I told her I'd still like to stay in touch after one and/or both of us are done with the hobby. The most I've given her was a pillow pet and a purse but they didn't cost much, just some thoughtful gifts I know she'd enjoy.
...or at least cold turkey from her. See someone else. It's easy to become attached especially with the excellent job many of these ladies do. Remember though there are many others that can rock your world. Check out other ladies that interest you. You may be surprised and find you like them all. Then you can rotate not seeing any one of them back to back.
they are pretty-they are fine-they are naked-they laughs at out dumb jokes-they give us all the sex we want-they accommodate our needs-we get things from them we don't get from other girls-Yes they memorize us- BUT-they are professionals-this is their job-this is what they do-and some do it very well- This is how I handle it. I wait 2 days and send them a nice thank you note (don't sound needy) My suggestion is that you don't go cold turkey but give it some time before you go back. This will give you time to cool down. Obviously you had a good time with her, as I have had with several girls. As you said we have to keep our emotions in check. Go out and experience other girls. I hope you find other girls that will give you the same feeling, when you do you will know that you can get that feeling anytime. Like you said keep your emotions in check.
Have fun enjoy the hobby don't get involved..
Just my opinion but opinions are like some body parts some stink and some don't
How you handle it is up to you. There is no magic solution to getting out of it. You have been given some good advice, it's now up to you which path you choose, we can't do it for you. Remember, it is their job to make you feel like you are the only man in their life, and for the time you are with them, you are just that, but after you leave, they are on to the next one.
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I am currently having feelings for a provider I met this past Saturday.
I always get over it in about 3 weeks.
I'm going to suggest something a bit different from the others:
Keep seeing her, a lot!
Why not? You like her, she may like you, maybe this could be a sweet deal.
On the other hand, familiarity breeds contempt, and the odds are you'll tire of her and maybe she of you after a few months or even weeks.
Compare that to the heart ache of pining away for her.
Think it over while having a word with the bird.
If your getting along and having a good time I see no reason to throw it way. Seeing a few other ladies might help you remember that it's P4P not a committed relationship but I don't think you need to stop patronizing her just because she's making you feel good.
I have thought to myself that I get very attached to the last provider I saw.. Makes me feel like a real slut..
I have been providing on & off since I was about 17 .
I have meet some really amazing Ppl with whom became friends. I have a very good friend who was provider for years herself meet a hobbies & that's all she wrote they now been together 7yrs & are to be married next summer. They are lovers best friends & amazing together!
Although I know its not norm it does & can happen .
Don't force it or wait if its one sided. Need to see where her head is in the situation. If not the same best end all contact for your own heart n feelings.
the time you are together. Obviously she did her job well.
Now, the solution for you will be to spend time with the next wonderful lady and your mind will be clear. Unless of course, you have the same feelings for the next provider.
Both guys and gals need to keep this in perspective. The guys are merely renting the wonderful company of a beautiful woman for a NSA time.
For the responses. Much appreciated.
yet we love them (repeat appointments). The post coitus hormones are surging... easy to get too involved emotionally. I think everyone has at some point. I ended up taking a long break from her... and developed a group of favorites which I rotated depending on my mood. I eventually saw her again & continued until recently when the wheels finally fell off that bus, but only in the rotation among Favorite (repeat) gals.
I find having a few Favs a good way to extend the relationship long term.
I admire your point of view and can definitely see where you are coming from, Harbor_View
I find having a few Favs a good way to extend the relationship long term.
She was the psychic that ppl truly believed in that was on TV all the time.Some people were spending there whole life saving talking to her on the phone.It was all bullshit she was talking.
Well same goes here. Before you walked in the door she was fucking another guy and after you left she did the same. We all think we are in love with providers but it is lust not love.
I saw this provider she always said when are you going to take me out.every time I left her we were going to go to diner that week. Well guess what we never went to diner.Then the next time I saw her I said how come we didn't go to diner.She always had an excuse and I always fell back into the trap.
THEY DON'T LIKE YOU AS MUCH AS YOU THINK THEY DO.
a bit of perspective. NO, we don't L O V E her, we LOVE what she does, the way she makes us feel. It is possible to have a single date & either to have a strong emotional response (that's the hormones I mentioned earlier... useful to protect the offspring in the cave man days). Or to not feel a strong attachment. But if one repeats, the hormonal surge is quite insistent. If you use the L work (L O V E) she may roll her eyes or refuse to see you again. Nothing complicates a provider's life like a possessive client or possibly a stalker.
I will plainly say... if I like a provider & decide to repeat... I'm likely to "fall" for her. Right up until the moment I'm with another provider. The center of my rotation plan.
Sure, I DO have feelings for long time Favorites but I know... we both know... I am unavailable, barring an unforeseen tragedy. So there's no where a "relationship" can go. Letting one's emotions run away can cause a lot of heartache for a lot of people.
Now there may be available people in this hobby... might even have 2 available people meet. That does not mean that a relationship will ensue. It's not impossible but statistically, the odds are against it working out. But we can not say "Never" because even here on these boards, there are a handful who have worked it out.
There are also gals who "retire" & leave the business... not infrequently, some return to the business some time later. But this business is not generally a long time career choice... I think there must be a lot of soccer moms who are former providers. There are some gals who have worked their way through school, grad school and graduated without student loans.
So here's the reality of it...
I have this one provider who will probably be the closest I'll ever have to a real relationship in my lifetime, but we both know it's gonna end so we don't try to dwell on it and just live in the moment and enjoy are time together, sure she tells me that she thinks, I'm good-looking, well-equipped and a nice guy, I know she'd never go out with me in the real world so yeah. I mean she did give me some of her artwork, drove me to where I needed to be and made-out with me a in public a couple of times at when it was uncalled for during OFC time, but I have to dismiss that as a customer loyalty thing.