Thanks for your reply, mrfisher.  I have another ridiculously newbie question - what is a GMILF?

 Thanks for your reply.  I'm pretty clear on the fact that unless someone finds me attractive, as well as willing to do the things they're into, they're not going to want to see me as a provider, period.  I think my main concerns have been, since I look younger, others have advised me to claim that I am in fact younger (which grates on me, as I suck at lying and don't enjoy it either), and then I don't have the foggiest idea really of how to safely (as in not attracting LE attention) signify clearly what my own interests and limits are, so as to not waste my time or anyone else's.  For instance, is there any market at all anymore for providers who don't do DT?  If not, I may as well pack it in.  But are there hobbyists who may be so into certain other strengths of mine, shall we say, that the no-DT thing no longer is a deal breaker?  And how do I find this shit out?!  Do I just put up an ad, say it all in as safely-coded language as possible, and see what happens?  It's hard to get other providers to talk specifically with me about transitioning to a provider who blends both BDSM and escorting.  Seems like everyone's afraid all of our phones and emails are being tapped or something.

I will say, I realize that these boards are not meant as free-tutorials-for-Marnie, so I totally understand if no one wants to spend time answering my questions.  I just figured if anyone would know what potential hobbyists are looking for, it would be members and reviewers of TER.

So thanks again to everyone who's replied to me, and thanks in advance to anyone else who may feel like weighing in.  Other than that, happy hobbying everybody!

Re: Yes

 Thanks for the feedback.

I had the same concern when I got started (and I have had kids! true MILF here). I wondered how I could compete with the perfect body 23 year olds. But I have found that there are three main types of hobbyists... 1) those mainly concerned with physical perfection and beauty, 2) those mainly concerned with personality, and 3) those mainly concerned with skills... since most are a blend of the three priorities, there is a huge market for a woman of any age who is attractive, has a great personality and highly skilled without being "10 perfect."

Another surprising thing I learned (by asking) is that many men want to be with a woman they could fantasize they had met at a bar or in the elevator who might really be into them. They can't maintain that fantasy with a 23 year old perfect 10 who they could never "pick up" or relate to in "real life" (it ruins the "suspension of disbelief" needed to maintain the fantasy).

And as far as posting your "real age" in ads that require age, if you look way younger than your real age, guys will think your pictures are really old and you don't actually look like that now... fyi...

Thanks for responding.  

That's one of my least favorite parts about being a provider (as I mentioned, I have a lot of experience doing straight pro BDSM sessions as a sub) - the whole competition thing.  I always have loved doing doubles, am into women in general, and it goes against my grain to look at any of this from a standpoint of trying to say I'm better than anyone else.  Plenty of people have seemed to love me, and many of them see or saw other pro subs and loved them too.  I mostly am just trying to figure out how to make it known, safely (re: LE), that my boundaries have expanded, and whether I'm supposed to post an ad in the regular escort section of the website where I've always advertised (but formerly in the BDSM section) and just say how old I am and what I'm into, or post in the "mature" category, or what.  

Thanks to everyone who's responded here, it's helped me a lot so far.

Well thank you for the kind words.  I think because I'm so fair skinned naturally, staying out of the sun was my only option anyway (all I ever did was burn and freckle, despite a brief but valiant effort in high school) - but I will say that there is something super delicious to me about young women with gorgeous tans.  (Fake/spray tans, on the other hand, are a little disorienting for me).

I technically never really stopped straight pro submissive services in the first place, just stopped doing it full time a few years ago and got a really enjoyable "straight" job, so sessions were confined to weekends and bi-annual trips to NYC.  I took down my website from back in the old  full-time-pro-kink days though, and am currently super ambivalent about investing in another (good, professionally-maintained) one.  I don't want to put up a cheap, tacky-looking one either; it's that I'm not trying to attract a large volume of play partners anyway, just enough to satisfy my personal sex drive.  So it seems like the most important thing is getting more professional looking recent photos (I have recent photos taken with cell phones already, but again, while I'm happy to send them to prospective new play partners, I'm afraid they could give the impression that I'm not serious about attracting high caliber playmates because they're maybe too amateur-ish for a website).

I'm going to read the rules again for posting ads on here, because I have this fuzzy memory of it maybe being possible to link to my Eros Guide ad, once I put one up in the next week or so, and that would of course have photos of me.  But I think I'd need to have some return-link to TER in whichever page I link to, so I'll have to figure out how to do that too.

I seriously appreciate everyone's discussions with me here.  When I started in the pro kink industry about ten years ago, after a brief initial stint at a commercial dungeon, I went out on my own and had only my common sense, sexual appetites, and the examples of various independent professional Dommes to help me figure out how to connect with those folks with whom I was a good match, and to avoid the pitfalls of crappy advertising and other "business practices."

This whole world, on TER, is brand new to me (though I did receive two reviews on here when I was pro subbing, can't remember if it was under sub Marnie or just Marnie, etc.).  Most of the people I ever did sessions with never came to sites like these, so I had no idea about how the rest of the hobbyist/provider world went about screening each other, etc.  I'm finding it very interesting and informative.