I am having trouble finding the right type of provider, and would like some advice as to how to find her (Mr. Fisher- please edit this post for appropriateness).
I am seeking something that is between GFE and BDSM. I am wanting something, without full service, that stimulates me just to the breaking point. Classic tease and denial on the BDSM scene. However, my problem with a BDSM provider is that there is no nudity, I am strapped to a table as opposed to a bed, sometimes they are into inflicting pain as opposed to pleasure to their client, and there is no cuddling, kissing, etc.  My problem with a GFE escort provider, even one who advertises herself as S&M/domination (who presumably can provide the nudity, cuddling, and kissing), is that she does not have any devices to tie me to a bed, is not very experienced at role playing, and is not comfortable with an experience where the client does not want full service.
How do I find "Mrs. Right"? Am I asking for an hour of foreplay? I had an experience recently with a well reviewed provider, who knew in advance via email what I was looking for, yet did not/could not provide what I was looking for.

Please advise.

i think this is a good start as many providers read tis baord and may point yout owards someone.  it would help if you named the city you are in as that may narow it down.  then go post on that board as well.

i know there ar efolks in chicago that would fit your neeeds for instance.

Putting this on the ISO board might get you some help. there's no good way to search for this, you are kinda gonna need recommendations to point you int he right direction.

having said that.... what you need is a GFE provider who used to be a Pro Domme... yanno like ME.

They don't let me have the blue pencil around here.

Heck, at work I have to check out the crayons each time I want one.

As far as BDSM goes, I'm quite the newb.  I did try it once, and the results were not so hot.

Give me the GFE life, and I'm a happy guy.