I'm set to meet up this weekend with my first provider in a very long time, and haven't found an answer to this question in my searches of this board from recent months (despite the fact that it seems like it would be one of the most basic queries of all!).

Much as I've always loved doing so, back in the day I never kissed a provider on the lips for fear of contracting herpes; yet when I read reviews in this era of the internet, I'm surprised to see account after account of hobbyists kissing providers during their times together. Am I seeing things, or do hobbyists really throw caution to the wind as frequently and carelessly as it seems? (Or are reviewers just exaggerating, and it's actually just kissing elsewhere and not on the lips they're referring to?)

Which leads me to my real question--and I hope this doesn't seem too naive: is it inappropriate or even tacky letting a provider know (either beforehand by email/phone, or upon meeting in person) that one prefers not to kiss on the lips during one's session?

Thanks much in advance for any feedback.

especially "DFK", deep french kissing, is an integral part of any so-called "GFE" encounter with a provider.

If you are engaging the services of a provider, tell her exactly what you want or don't want (once the session is started of course, most don't want any discussion of specific acts beforehand). And just because a provider's reviews say she offers LFK or DFK doesn't mean she DEMANDS it, just means she ALLOWS it. Tell her you prefer not to kiss and it won't be a problem.

Still, you need to know that ANY skin-to-skin contact can pass on the Herpes virus, not to mention MRSA (multiple resistant staff aureus), Syphyllis, HPV, and Molluscum Contagiosum. In addition, a careful fellow like yourself must realize that condoms do not PREVENT the spread of HIV, they merely REDUCE THE RISK.

Now that I think about it, how the hell are you throwing caution to the wind in such a careless fashion? If I were you, I'd have my entire body shrink wrapped in PVC plastic, and then stand across the room from your girl and blow kisses. Oh, wait, TB is airborne....

I don't think there would be any problem at all telling her beforehand (I would wait and tell her when you meet her....I'd for sure not mention it via e-mail).  She is providing a service for YOU.  

And if I had to guess (based on what I've read here), I'd say 95% of the guys are into kissing.  If people are playing safe (and I believe almost all do), the risk is going to be minimal IMO.  How many people go out for a night on the town and make out with multiple gals?  Many.

And I'm highly offended that you think you would catch something from kissing me.  

Sure I've seen gentleman who didn't want to kiss and of course I follow his lead and give him the session he wants. (within reason of course)  But in the back of my mind, the above comments are what I'm really thinking.  

I think you should take up golf or fishing instead.

Upon the initial appointment, I usually follow the lead of the gent, & if he does not initiate kissing, then no kissing it is. It is a personal choice that many gentlemen partake in, but it is also your choice in whether YOU want to partake in it yourself. Do not bring it up before meeting the lady, as this may quickly lead to her not speaking to you anymore(the whole no discussing services).

In all actuality, the chances of you catching something from kissing are extremely low.. unless the lady in question(and this is for both providers & civvies) has sores around her mouth, or an active infection inside her mouth.

Yah it's better to discuss it all the better providers in person BCD. I've seen always open with something along the lines "So what do you like, Honey" followed by a giggle, and that would be your cue to say X this Y that. Though now that I think about it they are the ones that initiated the kissing.

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Probably because it's not very often that they run into a client who isn't into kissing.  In fact, I've read a ton of reviews where the reviewer raves about the kissing and says something like, "I could have spent an hour doing that alone."  We know that's a flat out lie, but it's a big deal to a lot of guys.  LOL.

Takes all kinds and from what I've read, no provider is going to have an issue with a guy who would prefer not to kiss.  In fact, I think they appreciate the candor.  After all, their goal is to make sure you have a good time.....why would they want to do something you're not comfortable with?

Easy peasy.

Here in Richmond,  no kissing seems to be the BP rule.  For me.... No DFK = no date.

meaning a lack of experience..wisdom..or judgment..i think you are 3 for 3 on this one..nuff said..

an email from me to set up a date.  I read the reviews (with VIP) rather than go by the profile which, in many cases, is outdated or just plain inaccurate.

And do a damn good job of it I must add!!!

I personally don't like to kiss either. But for a different reason. In my case due to the way life has turned out I have never been in a relationship with a girl that involved french kissing. Simple truth. I was not around girls due to living on a boat, till nearly an adult, then I married young and she just didn't want to. As a result inn my case I am terribly self conscious about it because I don't really know how and feel embarrassed trying.

We don't all think you are a disease ridden puss bag Some of us are just odd in other ways lol.

Think about the resulting epidemic from a night in the clubs in any major metropolitan city in the US.

As far as letting a provider know you don't like kissing...just tell her.  It's not a big deal.

A session with a provider is probably the best place to practice your french kissing if you're so inclined. We've been around the block and have kissed our fair share. We've probably kissed someone who fits us perfectly and someone else who is the exact opposite of what we like. Notice I didn't say good or bad. Everyone prefers something different and the best way to find out what you like is to try things. Maybe you'll find out you don't like it either, or that you only like soft kisses with little or no tongue, or you'll find you really like passionate, deep, hard kisses. A provider isn't going to judge you, and may in fact be able to help.

Anyway, I hope you're able to find a way around your self consciousness because kissing can be incredibly fun! You have thousands of nerve endings in your lips, so interacting with them can be quite the trip.

"If I were you, I'd have my entire body shrink wrapped in PVC plastic, and then stand across the room from your girl and blow kisses."

LOL!

This shit is funny. So, you'll let a provider suck your weenie with her LIPS, but won't kiss her? Do you think you can't get herpes where it really hurts? LOL...wow. Trust me...a guy dropping six bills on me and not wanting to kiss, I couldn't give two shits about. Play on brother....I will still take your money and NOT kiss you.

Glad you asked the question though Starman. That's what this place is for.