So you made an app with a provider. You got there on time, and when she opens the door (she is really not what you were expecting for whatever reason - most likely, photos are old, photos are photo-shop, age is much older, etc etc or she is just not what you though she would look like). What is the best way to leave?

This has happened to me before but I went through with the session anyway, but I find myself feeling "that was a waste of time & money" afterwards. I know that this is a very small hobby, especially for the local providers ( I am afraid that if you pissed one gal off. Next thing you know - no one wants to see you anymore ).  

What is the best way/excuse to let her down gently? I am guessing partial payment would be the gentlemen thing to do. what % of the session? Or a C-note to cover the hotel maybe?  

Thanks for your input..

I would say it all depends on the situation.

First off I would say you should do your homework.  Yes, that means becoming a premium member of this site.  I was not one for a good while.  However I decided to join and it is like going from black and white to high definition color when it comes to the information on the providers.  It can really help you decide if that person is someone you want to see.  I am not suggesting that it is infallible just that it is very helpful.

Doing your homework and going with a well reviewed provider that does not have a large gap should eliminate most of these situations.

If you found the person on BP and it was bait and switch I would just walk away.

Now when you are talking about someone who is supposed to be a bit more reputable I understand you the position it puts you in.  I am a newbie myself and would like to hear what others have to say.

How about explaining the situation to the provider?  Basically saying that she was not what you expected and what would be fair for everyone to just call it a day

If it's a obvious deliberate bait n switch (different person (they advertise petite young spinner and you get 50s chain smoking pregnant), heavily photoshopped, pics that look like they're 20 years old, etc) then I would politely and firmly say no and GTFO, don't pay anything. If it's incall to her place, just say "I'm sorry, you're not who I was expecting, this isn't going to work", and get out ASAP. Don't negotiate, argue, respond, etc, just get out. Hopefully you've done at least some research for your safety and she doesn't have a Pimp/backup around to jump you. If it's a hotel just say "oh oops wrong room" and leave.  

If it's more a case of their face was blurred and doesn't appeal to you, or maybe the photos are slightly older (say 2-3 years) and they've put on a few pounds BUT it's still obviously them, or for whatever reason the chemistry just isn't there and you want to back out, then I'd say at least go in, and be honest with them. Hotel or incall, leave a partial donation, at your discretion.

Ultimately, these situations should be very very rare if ever come up if you do proper research with a VIP account.

....although this is just MY point of view, and I know other providers' opinions differ: there is no "good" way to do this without potentially hurting the lady's feelings.  And feelings lead to anger; anger leads to the DARK SIDE!  (yes, I needed to quote Yoda lol)

Once a lady's dark side comes out, anything can happen, even with ladies who have no public history of BSC behavior.  

Walking out, most especially if the lady's photos are recent & accurate, can bring out and/or highlight a woman's insecurities about herself and her appeal.  Pretty much all people have such insecurities.   The fact that we're professionals doesn't mean we can simply turn off our "emotion chip".   (see what I did there?? both Star Wars and Star Trek TNG references in one post! lmao)

I use RS2K for the vast majority of my clients and there are definitely some who have reports on them that they've walked out with or without paying a cancellation fee.  A popular move is when the client walks in then immediately says he "forgot the donation" in his car so he leaves to "go get it".  He gone!!  (now I'm mixing in baseball quotes! yikes!!)

There are reviews floating around where the reviewer states that he almost left at the beginning but later was happy he stayed, so first impressions aren't everything.   I even have had near-walk-outs wind up becoming very regular repeat clients so you just never know.  

Offering a cancellation fee, or even giving her the full donation (which, if she did not misrepresent herself in any way, yet you are just not attracted to her is the appropriate thing to do, IMO) will decrease the odds of the lady retaliating.  But nothing can really eliminate that risk.  Human beings are just so darn unpredictable!  

Don't make up silly ass excuses... simply tell her straight up that you're not interested, but it would be better if you leave vs. staying and having to write a bad review for things that are not either party's fault. If her photos are misleading, that is one thing but if you book a gal who does not show her face and you just don't like it, oh well that's really on you. Don't book with women to obscure their faces if you are not confident enough by reviews you are going to be pleased. Hell, even that is no guarantee because no other guy can predict what you're going to like

Just leave!  Don't make up excuses, just politely leave and don't look back.  Avoid a confrontation

and when that is the case that the guy was not misled, but is simply "not feeling it" when he meets her in person, I can agree with this advice

That said, the truth of the matter is in the overwhelming majority of these situations the woman either lied about her age, weight, or some other major detail, used misleading or outright fake pictures, or all of the above. In those cases offering even a single dollar is "rewarding bad behavior" and encouraging more of the same.

When you catch a thief, you don't apologize to the thief and offer him/her a fee for not allowing yourself to be robbed, If you go to a restaurant, order a lobster and end up being served a hamburger, you don't worry about the restaurant getting mad at you for standing up for yourself. Why should this be any different.

I agree with LR's advice, simply state that she was NOT was you were expecting and leave. No need to make a scene, but there is DEFINITELY no reason to be her a plugged nickel either.

For the record, I don't think I would be advertising that you have had more than one "near walk outs" that's not exactly confidence inspiring to us.

...as many ladies from other sites are bait and switch, as well.  And, many of us have large gaps between reviews, because we entertain gentlemen on a regular basis; more than twice a month, or have retainer agreements.  These gentlemen can not post reviews each time we see them.

   With that being said, I only had one gentleman walk away, years ago, because I would not let him smoke in my incall location.  His loss; not mine.

    In my opinion, if a lady does not represent herself honestly, a gentleman has the option of walking away, without penalty, and the lady should not black list him.  This might include her photos, her weight, her incall location (she says four stars, and it's a Motel 6).

   Now, if a gentleman walks in, stays for a while, but then feels the chemistry is not there. I would suggest tipping her, based on her gift for said time.  

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

My point is that even if she did misrepresent herself, there is no guarantee that she won't go crazy on him if he walks out, even if he does it as politely as you and LR recommended.  
 

Why should I not be completely honest?   I've been in this game on-and-off for many years, so for me to claim it's never happened is just unrealistic.  I've never shown my face, and for a significant portion of my time in this business there weren't ANY photos of me.... so yes, clients have formed a certain image of what they think/hope I look like prior to meeting me, and then when the reality did not match up with the image they had in their minds, they were disappointed.    

I actually far prefer for those who are on the fence to be put off by my admission that not everyone finds me pretty, than to only describe myself in the most flattering ways, and then have disappointed gentlemen who then feel the need to write about it.   This way, I may have fewer clients, but I have a much higher percentage of HAPPY clients... many of whom are pleasantly surprised by my looks.  

Just walk out the door. If a Provider isn't the one in her ad or tries to upsell or do anything that makes you uncomfortable, just walk out. I've walked out on a few Providers. I never ever leave them any amount of money. I've had a few wanting me to give them 50 dollars just for meeting me. I told them hell no I'm leaving.

However, the fact that you have 97 reviews, with an appearance score of a solid 8 (really hot,) speaks to how you are generally perceived by your gentlemen callers.

Of course everyone is different, with different tastes and opinions, so what you are saying about some not finding you attractive is only natural. A lady could be Miss Universe and some guys will not find her to be attractive.

You seem to have a great self image and sense of awareness without.an exaggerated ego. Confidence in who you are and an understanding for what you are not. That, my dear, is very attractive. And extremely rare! So, my hat's off to you.

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VIP, read the full profile & reviews.  Choose well reviewed provders.  
Look at all available pictures & run them through an image search like tineye or google image.  Likely the gal has NOT advertized all over the country or world nor started her pictures on a bikini magazine.  By being better informed, you'll run less risk of a spoiled date...  and havng to decde to stay or g