I think the best time to ask is in a follow up email or text the day after the session. I think it's slightly rude to ask during a session, even at the end.
Hi gang, I was wondering, what's your take on providers asking clients for reviews? As a relatively new girl on the scene, I have had a few clients, some quickly becoming regulars, but none have reviewed or offered to review me. Is it rude or presumptuous or just in bad taste to ask for them to write a review? If not, what's the best, politest way to go about asking?
Thanks!
Marla Lyons
Just don't try to influence those reviews or offer discounts etc in exchange for inaccurate reviews.
Some of your clients might not be aware of TER as well.
At the end of a date, politely ask them if they are aware of TER and if they don't mind writing a review for you. If a client doesn't know about TER, simply direct them to the site for their enjoyment and have them write a review in the process as well.
The bottom line is that very few guys you ever see will review you (even members of TER). Many don't like writing them for whatever reason.
And the guys really don't have an incentive other than to "help our careers" because they like us or to get a discount off of the monthly fees on TER. So, the guys really motivated to save that $19.95 a month (read what you want into that) are more likely to review you than the guy who booked you all night and gave you a $200 tip. On top of that, reviews get rejected and the guys have no real incentive to edit and resubmit them (I followed up on a few guys who told me they were going to submit a review because they had a great time and I never saw a review posted by them. They told me their reviews had been rejected and they didn't know why).
What is the result? Reviews on your best sessions never get posted and the guy who saw you for a special (to save a buck) and just wants to save $19.95 gets his review posted (not because he liked you and wants to help you, just trying to save another buck). I've had guys tell me "that was the best ever" over and over... would love to have more reviews that say that, but it is what it is.
Ask, but don't hold your breath.
At the time I write this, there are 731,512 posted reviews and probably another 1.5 million denied or delisted reviews. Are you really saying that those 2 million-ish reviews were written by bottom feeders looking to score some free VIP? That seems awfully short-sighted. I've also seen profiles of ladies with hourly rates in excess of 600/hr. If only cheapies write them, those ladies would never get reviewed.
Now, on to the OP. It's OK to ask for a review. It should be done at the end of the date and in a non-threatening way. Something like "It would be awfully sweet if you'd write a review. They keep my phone ringing". Some guys won't but many will. Some do it for the VIP, others do it to immortalize the memory, and some do it to help a lady starting out, or so that their fellow mongers know who is good and who isn't.
No, I didn't say most of the reviews in general were written by guys looking to save a buck on the fees.
I said there were TWO main motivations.
1) Many guys do like you and want to help your career (and I did say that!), and that's their main motivation for writing the review. They usually book you at full price rather than a special and could care less about waiving the fees. Then they want to let the world know how great they thought you are with their review.
But you may have one great session after another and only get a few reviews out of them.
2) And then there are the other guys whose main motivation seems to be saving the fees. They only see you when there's a special don't balk at throwing in comments that are petty and nit-picky regardless if it may hurt your business. They seem to have no concern other than to save money in every way they can!
Not bullshit! I've seen this same tendency with other providers I'm friends with who run specials, too. You guys never see reviews on great sessions that are never posted or written in the first place. It's really frustrating.
Now, on to the OP. It's OK to ask for a review. It should be done at the end of the date and in a non-threatening way. Something like "It would be awfully sweet if you'd write a review. They keep my phone ringing". Some guys won't but many will. Some do it for the VIP, others do it to immortalize the memory, and some do it to help a lady starting out, or so that their fellow mongers know who is good and who isn't.
to contribute to the sum of intel that all mongers benefit from. It's not all noble altruism, just enlightened self interest. Our way of paying back for the good times the reviews here have guided us to. And encouraging them to keep flowing.
It's why I write reviews, and I can tell from reading them that it's the motivation behind most reviews I give any credence to. Mingled in, naturally, is some braggadocio and the pleasure that comes from reliving in words a pleasurable experience.
Frankly, it's a good thing more reviews aren't written to "help your career". Too many shills get posted as it is. They don't add anything to the sum of intel. Fortunately, they aren't difficult for me to spot and disregard.
Same goes for reviews written just to get VIP credit. There are too many, but they're easy to spot, and they don't carry much weight.
I for one do not review every lady I've seen... If I were to try I doubt I'd have the time!
Personally, (and I can only speak for myself) I tend to review ladies that are new and are looking to get started... It gives me a certain gratification knowing I'm the first reviewer! It makes feel I have a purpose on the board when folks see someone on my recomendation...
I also like to review when my experience is particularly stellar or especially bad! It is not often that I review someone who is well reviewed already... Unless they ask or my experience significantly differed from that of others I'm inclined to just keep quiet.
In regards to folks squating on reviews to get VIP credit... I don't know anyone who is that cheap (and I know allot of penny pinchers) so I highly doubt that is motivation for submitting reviews! As far as getting disscounts... I would consider that a bribe on behalf of the reviewer. Not to sound high and mighty but I would frown on anyone submitting a review based on being offered a discount! Not to say running specials for TER members is not OK but offering a discount for a review seems to me to be a guarantee of positive remarks which would question the credability of the review.
My .02
Fog
Although I am not new to the business... i am new to it as far as internet clientele and database... I have recently started adding myself to these sites and have made my own personal site... I am offering a review through this month, but not anything huge or significant to effect what those reviews say...
I have only received 3 reviews from this and actually none of them took advantage of the special! They all have been return clients but they all said that they would love to help me out so my phone will ring more often and I in turn will generate more money!
Guys aren't as bad as they seem! If you love what you do, guys can and will see that and are willing to help you out!
As stated in an earlier posting, helping them out for helping you is always a good thing! A lot of providers out here require references or okays/white listed before they will see a gent, i believe it is fair, if he leaves you a review so your phone rings, that you in turn give him an okay so other ladies will see him!
if you want to attract some reviewers, you might consider waiving your two hour minimum at least temporarily. Just a suggestion.
to help other hobbyists, and any help to providers is entirely secondary. At least that's how it should be.
Which of course is not to say that a review can't be very positive and serve to promote you. But realize that a client who says nothing but good things during the mutual flattery of a session may be more candid when he's sharing his assessment with fellow mongers. If he can't, the whole review system has no integrity, and everybody loses.
So, in my opinion, although it's perfectly OK to ask to be reviewed, suggesting that you'll be watching to see what he says can be in very bad taste.
I think the best time to ask is in a follow up email or text the day after the session. I think it's slightly rude to ask during a session, even at the end.
that a TER review will require explicit description of sex acts. I don't think it'd be at all rude to simply mention that you're OK with being reviewed on TER as he's getting ready to leave. If he says he might post one, it's also a good time to mention any off-menu services you'd prefer he leaves out of a review, if necessary.
Thanks for your wonderful suggestions-- I now have a review up! You're all the best xoxo