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JMHO, the best thing to do in a first date with a lady is to just do it! No extra, no talk. ...
A Spectator 12680 reads
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The more you give yourself time to reflect, the more you inhibit yourself.

If you want to have a more enjoyable evening, I would suggest you to get a nice hotel room, have her come over, do the wild sex - DFK, BBBJ, whatever; relax, order room service, chat and then second round.

You will be surprised that once you're intimate with another person, how much more open up you will become.

Let the lady guide you.  Just remember, this is a sure thing so you don't have to try too hard to impress her.  Be yourself and have fun.

Good luck.

Gentle_man15380 reads

First of all, I want to say that I have done alot of researching before I made an appointment with this particular provider, and I know all of the basic rules (i.e. be a gentleman, exhibit good personal hygene, don't talk about money, etc.) but I still have some questions, mostly because I am self-conscious.

This will be an incall appointment, by the way.

I suggested that we go to dinner because I want it to feel like a date with a girlfriend, I need practice dating, and I felt that we could get to know one-another better, and hopefully, it would be less awkward. The problem is that I am already an awkward guy, and I suffer from anxiety under normal circumstances, so I am going to be very nervous, and I am afraid of having one of those "uncomfortable silences", which happen alot when I go out on dates with women. My question is, what do women like to talk about? I don't want to talk about myself, because I've heard that alot of women think guys who talk about themselves, are boring.

Also, when we get back to her place, would it be ok to ask her if I can use the bathroom, before we get more comfortable, so I can brush my teeth? That's a stupid question, I know, but it seems like it would be a cheesey and awkward thing to ask to do. I guess I'm just wondering if any other john has done that.

These are things I'm concerned about, but they seem like cheesey questions, so I apologize if anyone finds this post annoying, but I thank you for reading.

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A Spectator12681 reads

The more you give yourself time to reflect, the more you inhibit yourself.

If you want to have a more enjoyable evening, I would suggest you to get a nice hotel room, have her come over, do the wild sex - DFK, BBBJ, whatever; relax, order room service, chat and then second round.

You will be surprised that once you're intimate with another person, how much more open up you will become.

Let the lady guide you.  Just remember, this is a sure thing so you don't have to try too hard to impress her.  Be yourself and have fun.

Good luck.

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spinner3914454 reads

Ask about her (her interests) ... don't worry she'll carry the conversation and probably speak volumes about herself, tell her your nervous (she'll already know that you are)... she'll understand .. as for back at her place .. don't worry about the bathroom she'll offer it to you to use (just brush your teeth softly) and she'll like that you do clean your teeth (freshen up)it will show that you care about your time together and about her.  And if you get in a bind in the sex area ... ask her what she likes or what you can do to make her happy and you'll be in like flint ... good luck ... hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be....

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OldTraveler13774 reads

A few other thoughts, in no particular order:

--Let her know up front that you are new to this.  That way you don’t worry that she’ll “find that out” (not that it would matter much anyway), she will understand the normal shyness/silence that can ensue, and she will also probably work hard to take the lead.  Most of us like to be the “expert” in any area.

--Flowers cover a lot of ills and fumbles.  Bring her some.  Or just one.

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Slowstart12387 reads

but just remember no matter how good looking or sexy this lady is when you get back to the bedroom you are GOING TO GET LAID!
That is the beauty of the hobby.  Have a great time, it won't be you last.

-- Modified on 8/7/2003 3:03:12 AM

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OldTraveler10923 reads

True, but they vairy from 1's to 10's.

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hueyfan12413 reads

I was also very nervous the first time I scheduled an appointment.

Do treat it as a date.  I ALWAYS do.  Therefore, flowers, perhaps wine and/or a small gift (I often bring lotion or something they like) is always nice.  Let her know that you are new to this and she will help you be more comfortable.  Ask her what her likes/dislikes are.  Music, movies, pets, etc.

Ask what makes her feel good.  After all, this should be about both people have fun and enjoying it.  Above all...RELAX.  Have a good time.

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Gentle_man13251 reads

I was stood up. But, that's ok, because she must have been afraid to meet me, and I don't want to be with a lady who doesn't want to be with me, and I also want her to be safe and well, and her being safe and well requires her to make such decisions, and not see every potential client that comes down the pike.

It wasn't a total loss, though: while I was in town, trying to call her, I was browsing through a retail book store, and found a very interesting book to read. I ended up going to dinner by myself and gave the flowers to my waitress. :)

When I got back home, I called a reputable agency, whose ladies have favorable reviews on TER. I ended up having a wonderful time with the lady who I requested from that agency. She was sexy, and had a fascinating personality. I think I will be seeing her regularly. Although, I still don't have a reference (I assume its not easy to get a reference from a lady who works for an agency), everything turned out well. :)

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scotdaman12569 reads

Thanks for sharing.

Good luck and keep trying.

Congrats:
Scot.

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victoriaparis10386 reads

...I won't stand you up.  I'd enjoy showing you the sights of magical Paris, as well as some secret and intimate places.

Victoria in Paris

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