Ok so I'm not exactly sure where to start. I have contacted a bunch of providers and have probably scared them off making them think i'm LE due to asking to many questions. I'm just looking for one thing and that's to lose my virginity. I'm not the stereotypical virgin, some people thinking I've lost it and when I tell them I haven't they are all surprised. The providers I have contacted stop replying after I ask too many questions from what I've been told from one provider who was kind enough to help me out a bit. And I recently contacted another provider and she said this "I dont see virgins honey.. im sorry that should be saved for someone special" and then "Ur welcome.. just wait.. its worth it.. nobody is a pro even if they're experienced.. everyone likes something different ". I'm confused a part of me wants to wait and another just wants to get it over with. I just need something sexual. I'm 19 and my hormones are raging to the point where I can barely control my erections. My college is no help since it's probably the most anti social college I have ever seen, and it doesn't help that I'm super shy and anti social myself. I'm not sure what to do, right now I'm heading towards the path of waiting because I can't find a provider, but wait how much longer?  At this moment I don't want to lose it but I want something sexual like a BJ, FJ or italian anything, I might sound really desperate and I sort of am, I've tried going to parties but all the girls go with their boyfriends and those who don't, it's not in my nature to take advantage of a girl like that. So if anyone knows of a provider within New York, Long Island, North Valley Stream area, willing to help me in anyway without intercourse please let me know or give me tips I don't know what to do. I'm ashamed of myself for having a hard time controlling my erections at this point because all I think about is sex. I don't want to make a mistake of not waiting but I would love to have some sort of sexual adventure with a provider. Please help. I know I'm sad at this point but I just don't want to make a mistake.

What questions are you asking the hookers you contact? You dont need to list them all but can you give us 3 or 4 typical questions you have been asking?

involve actual sex, i.e. intercourse?  If all you want is a BJ, just set up a quick date and tell the provider that when you meet her in person instead of asking all your questions.  At your age though... I would suggest just taking care of the erection yourself and waiting for that special someone for the first experience.

If you can share some questions you ask them that would be great... are you actually telling them you are a virgin or they can deduce it from your questions? Are you asking for non-fs only session? I can't say i am experienced in talking to a ton of providers but i know you should never discuss any sort of services over the communication line - it should strictly be "when/where/how much/long". If you discuss services they will think you are LE or at least be cautious about it. With that said i am a BJ guy and when i see the girl i do ask more time on that department than sex so maybe you can try that route. Just say you like BJs and ask her to only do that or DFK or whatever you want that's not intercourse....

Well I'm 19 with an athletic build, I usually just ask if they offer a gfe with out the piv, ask for the outcall donation rate in my area, if they would be able to "tutor me", if they allow multiple pops, stuff like that. Um italian is when the penis rubs in between the butt cheeks lol, the only reason I even ask that is to make it look like I'm doing it and only because I'm not sure if I want to lose it yet. Why don't they see anyone under 30? And I've seen some that are withing my age group but from my perspective they have fake pictures or charge around $500 for an hour. Oh and another thing I think they stop replying back after they ask for referrals, Id on't have any because I haven't seen anyone and almost every single ones ask for referrals.

At this point I just want a BJ and a FJ and possibly an ITALIAN(escort term) that includes multiple pops. The erection thing I have whenever I see a really good looking girl anywhere, like this one time I went to go get a psychical and the nurse was ok looking but I couldn't lay down because I was starting to get an erection and I didn't want to tell her, I can thank pornhub for that fantasy lol. And I want to wait for that special someone but my college isn't the best place since it's very anti social.

Well here's what I usually write, "Hello I saw you ad on (...) and I was wondering what the donation rate would be for an outcall near (...) " Some times I include what I'm looking for such as a BJ, FJ, Italian, and multiple pops and sometimes I ask them if they can tutor me because I'm inexpedience.  

Read this board for the last few months, go to the self help center at top right portion of this page and read everything there. Twice.

You do sound both Desperate and Confused.  I suggest waiting, at least until you are less Desperate and less Confused.  Take things into your own hands, for now.  The D&C will pass.  Maybe NOT in a week or a month ... but it will pass.

Well usually they should have outcall rate if not then thats fine asking. Do not include sexual acts or what you want..those can be doscussed when you meet... and saying tutor is kind of weird...again bring that up when you are there and gauge how comfortable the gal is. For example i did my first daty with escort i never mentioned it was my first time doing it but did ask her if i am doing it right...

Which is fine, btw, for that is what the NB is here for but please leave the advice GIVING to the more experienced people here bro.

Nope lol this is my first post.

Thank you and all of you thank you. I might just this lol.

Jack was talking to lioil who is a newbie himself asking a million questions over the past couple days now thinking he is qualified to give another newbie advice.

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While I agree lioil shouldn't be giving advice, is it possible he is actually not a newbie but just asked all those recent questions as a troll? I seem to recall someone doing that a few months ago.

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perfect thinks he's better than everyone else, therefore, he stalks other hobbyists and belittles them.

Posted By: perfectstorm

While I agree lioil shouldn't be giving advice, is it possible he is actually not a newbie but just asked all those recent questions as a troll? I seem to recall someone doing that a few months ago.

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Frankly, most people don't look back that fondly on their first time, so forget all the shit you hear about doing it with someone special. The truth is that you will be more sociable and have better luck getting laid after you get the "virgin" monkey off your back. Virgins get turned away because it's usually: 1. bad sex, 2. first-timers are prone to getting emotionally attached.  

Being a member of the "Hobbyist & Hooker Belittlement Club" myself, I take offense to your remark. If I had the opportunity to rip PS, he knows I would have taken the same shot. LOL

That's way too young to be worried that you haven't lost your virginity. Honestly, don't worry about it. The right girl will come along eventually and you'll be glad that you waited.

for not realizing how big of a dumbass you really are.

Go to an AMP first

I don't know of any in my area and I'm not sure how to look for them.