....and I'm a decade older than you with the same problem. I'm at the point now where I need to be able to control my stimulation, so a face-fuck is more likely to achieve orgasm than a BBBJ. That "menu item" is not listed in TER's profile so reviews have to be read to see if a guy mentions that he was able to do it.
I have had luck with communicating online with ladies who provide BBBJ/CIM, telling them my age and difficulty, and asking if they are willing to accommodate me. Those services are enough to qualify a gal for a 10 in performance (I don't care about TER's bi/anal point rating system).
Have you answered your own question yet?
Hello All,
Although I am a man in my 50's, I have come to the hobby recently, and I enjoy it very much! I have been lucky enough to locate two or three providers locally that I just love being with-- it is a thrill to be with a beautiful, open, experienced woman half my age and be able to have her the way I would like. What a great hobby!
Unfortunately, I have all the chronic medical problems that befall many men my age in our society, and this causes me problems many times in getting a good enough erection to participate in sex with the women the way I would really like to. Even Viagra and its cousins don't help that much, although they do help a little. What usually happens is that I can have sex for a short time (or not) and then these lovely ladies finish me off with a BBBJ, CIM which I do enjoy tremendously!
So, my issue is this-- would I be better off seeking a "Blow and Go" provider who could do a BJ during a shorter appointment for half the fee I am paying for a full hour with these great providers? I know this comes down to a judgement call about how I choose to spend my money, but since I am not sure how I feel about this, I would appreciate hearing the input and opinions of my more experienced Brethren.
Another factor is that in the full hour appointments with my favorite ladies there is also quite a bit of kissing, DATY, and cuddling, which I also enjoy very much, and I guess this would be missing with the Blow and go ladies, actually the only advantage is that it would be less expensive.
I just wish I was able to enjoy the sex more fully since I like that the best of all. One of the ladies suggested I might get a cock ring to help sustain the erections, and I plan to give this a try. Please feel free to comment on any or all of this, as it will help me develop my thinking in this dilemma.
Many thanks!.
BD.
and the only problem is you wish it would be even better. I'd say just keep on doing what you're doing and maybe it'll get better as you feel more comfortable (or maybe get a cock ring; can't help you there). If you enjoy all the GFE stuff I doubt you'll be happy with "Blow and go." Sometimes it's all about the journey.
You didn't mention anything about your previous sexually history or if your married. Many gents new to the hobby have issues with condoms and being able to finish. I'm guessing your using whatever the escorts has available. You might want to try different brands. Bringing your own condom to a session has been discussed before and you can do a search to read the threads.
Now as far as the "blow and go" or a full gfe date. Only you can decide, as you've probably realized the hobby isn't a one size fits all proposition. Good luck
Wouldn't change a thing. I'm in agreement with the previous poster. It's about the journey. The kissin', cuddlin', lovin' huggin', squeezin' is what makes the finale all that it is.
Given your health issues and difficulties completing, you may not be able to finish in a CUM and GO setting. Remember, the largest sexual organ is the human brain. That is why activities such as kissing, cuddling and sometimes even talking help prime the pump so to speak. Its that connection and the entire experience that help you to finish as you are aroused by the ladies and all the senses.
The typical in and out scenario may work well with a guy who does not have performance issues, although I would guess this is generally not what the guys are looking for as can be verified by reading the appointment lengths of reviews. It may not work for you.
Cock rings often do work to maintain an erection. This may also give you more enjoyment. There are also some topical creams available at adult stores which may heighten your senses. Including some toys may also add to your enjoyment. Vibrating cock rings or a vibrator at the base of the scrotum and along the base of your penis may add additional and fun sensations.
A cock ring with the use of a female condom may assist with penetration and intercourse as regular condoms lessen the sensations you experience and this is not good when combined with other performance issues.
The decision you have to make is whether you want a quality time with the lady and including those other activities you enjoy or if you just want to get off, if you are able to without that connection and those activities.
Good luck.
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you clearly stated the choices... It does not have to be all one or the other. Mix it up a little depending on your mood.
I mix FBSM & FS providers...
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I actually book two hour appointments with my ATF and we almost never have penetrative sex. Much like you I have medical issues. Viagra actually works quite well for me but the condom is a major inhibitor. Regardless of weather we boink or not I always finish with a sloppy bbbj/hj with jizz flying everywhere! Much to my ATF's delight! To add to the pleasure my ATF really prefers oral sex to penetration for her pleasure as well. We have a great 60 to 90 minutes of licking, sucking and sometimes fucking on every visit!
If all you want to do is get-off then, by all means, find some one-and done girls who will get the job done in a 15 or 30 minute session. If you want to enjoy having sex with a woman I would stick to what you are doing now.
than what specific activites the gals does with you.
I have found this to be even more true as I age.
I do see some gals who do just about everything, and I love that. (I'm fortunate to still be in very good health.) But some gals I see are fairly plain vanila in their range of activies, yet I see them because I find their company so enjoyable.
You may find this good company lacking in the gals who specialize in 15-30 minute BJ sessions only.
As for your medical problems, have you seen a urologist for help? If not, you should do so. Often a change of medication or some other fix will get you back in shape.
Best wishes to you.
my hotel room and the business was completed, she asked, "How many times can you cum in an hour?" I replied the most for me was three. She then said, "No problem honey, we will beat that easily tonight. Let's get started." There was minimal kissing, caressing, and fondling and lots of sloppy BBBJ; not what one would consider a GFE session at all. And if you must know, she did not accomplish her goal for the evening with me.
....and I'm a decade older than you with the same problem. I'm at the point now where I need to be able to control my stimulation, so a face-fuck is more likely to achieve orgasm than a BBBJ. That "menu item" is not listed in TER's profile so reviews have to be read to see if a guy mentions that he was able to do it.
I have had luck with communicating online with ladies who provide BBBJ/CIM, telling them my age and difficulty, and asking if they are willing to accommodate me. Those services are enough to qualify a gal for a 10 in performance (I don't care about TER's bi/anal point rating system).
Have you answered your own question yet?