I met a lady from an agency a couple of weeks ago. Everything went smooth with setting it up, she showed up on time, she was as attractive as in her photos but a few things about the way she carried herself , which I won't go into, turned me off from the second she arrived to the point where I didn't want to do her. I kept it to myself and pretended I was only looking for conversation and someone to have a drink with. I also paid posted rate and gave her a tip. When the time was close to up I reminded her how long I had booked the date for. That's when things started to go downhill. She wanted to know why I didn't want to do her and did I think I was better than her so on and so far. I remained polite and told her it was me and I was feeling guilty about my girlfriend etc. When , she was walking out the door she turned and called several explicit names and the left.  

So my question is why do they care ? I paid, tipped a little extra and was polite to her. Seems easy to me and something that shouldn't have upset her.

Thanks

We can't answer why she would care. Only she can. Maybe she was insulted that you didn't want to have sex with her. Probably the first time that ever happened to her.

I agree with you that she shouldn't care. She should be happy. Sounds like you paid her full fee plus tip, and you never even got naked. Some guys actually do pay escorts just for "time and companionship" and most escorts are just fine with that. Obviously this one wasn't, but we can't get into her head. Just move on.

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Who knows, you may have inadvertently given off some bad vibes to her.  IMHO, something about you spooked her, just as something about her spooked you.  You will never know, so the best thing to do is just move on.  Hopefully, the next one you engage will be better.

Swim

He was a customer and from everything he said, he was very respectful, but just not turned on enough to "do her" the only thing he could have done differently was fuck a woman he didn't want to fuck. That might be a valid option if he were getting paid, but he was the one paying not the other way around.

Customers don't have to do the acting, we only have to do the paying. The OP did nothing wrong, and he shouldn't let her little hissy fit bother him at all.

...maybe she was having a crappy day and had a short fuse already and you just were her last straw. Very unprofessional, of course and hardly an excuse. But ya never know.

Did you try to follow up with her by any chance? Or did you not want to poke the hornet's nest?

If he had done as you asked, it's my opinion that a woman who would "go off" on a client for not having sex with her, but still paying her full rate, would have made an even bigger scene if I had cut the date short and only "Paying her a few bucks" instead of her full rate.

I think his question is more along the lines of "what the hell was wrong with her" not "what could I have done differently" but I will grant, you do offer a different perspective, just not the one HE was looking for.

You have a great week too.

Maybe this has happened to her a few times before. Not your issue but maybe she just wanted straight answers so she could improve.

... he did his deed at?

You said Las Vegas, but no where in his original post did he indicate where he did the deed at.

So... how did you find out where he was at?

The Forest Waits

You were more than generous. I would definitely contact the agency and tell them about what transpired, her behavior was rude.  

Given your side of things as presented here, if you had been honest with her when she asked what the issue was, she would not have taken it well anyways. Some people just aren't compatible.

in fact, it sounds like you were more respectful and considerate than many might be. Kudos to you.

As for why she was upset? Hell, no one likes rejection. Ego, fear of a bad review... too many possibilities.

IMHO it says much for your character that you care abut her feelings, but remember that they are HER feelings and she has to deal with them... not you. Not a thing you can (or should) do, other than move on to someone you feel more connection and chemistry with.

I had a TER outcall last week.  As usual, before our encounter, in order to get a feel for whether we were compatible, I asked why he selected me.  He said he was attracted to mature, intelligent women and he had liked my forum posts here.  He admitted he was "new" to the hobby and offered employment verification in lieu of a reference.

He met me in the lobby and took me to his room where we hugged and smooched a bit.  I could tell he was very nervous and asked if this was actually his first engagement which he confirmed.  I suggested that he let me take the lead but instead, he provided his boundaries.  He wanted only to be touched.  Now this has never before happened to me but I respected that he had his reasons and my job was to give him the best time I could for the time we were together.  He came twice in that hour, so I suspect I succeeded.

If he had not told me on the front end that he didn't want anything beyond being stroked and touched, I too might have taken offense that nothing more happened.  I might have assumed I did something wrong and yes, I might worry that I would end up with a negative review.  The bottom line is that we DO care.  We are naturally giving people and pleasers so we want to know you had a good time.  Regardless of getting paid, if a gent arranges for and pays for an hour but stays only 15 minutes because he's one and done and quick to get there, I feel a bit rejected.  Certainly not enough to complain, but it's a bit of a negative nonetheless.

This lady was incredibly unprofessional.  I think you were generous with your time and your money and you very well could have told her when she arrived that she wasn't to your liking.  The fact that you didn't shows that you are kind and compassionate.  If you take that compassion just a bit further, telling her at the start that you only wanted companionship would have set her expectations so that she didn't feel as though she was not good enough "to do" when ultimately, it didn't happen.  For her part, why didn't she ask before the time was up?????  Seriously, the longest 'get to know you' time I've ever spent is a half hour.

And then got cussed at!

Steph xoxo

And you are correct, he did nothing wrong that I can see. Except some would say tipping was over the top considering...

Steph xoxo

It sounds to me that Forlorn was just not feeling a connection with this lady.  He handled the situation with dignity, by showing the lady respect and by not going forward with a sexual experience he had second thoughts about.  I've read many posts by experienced Hobbyists and the general consensus is to go with your gut.  I would have been taken aback by her reaction as well.  Her time was paid for.  Just as most providers say they are entitled to say no if they are uncomfortable, Forlorn did the same thing and was chastised for doing so.  Shouldn't the standard be the same for the Hobbyist as it is for the provider?  I hope Forlorn has a better experience next time.

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hit the " exit switch " so when I went to use the head the kids were still swimming around. If the vibes I give off spook a " lady" into doing that then I guess I'm screwed.  

Thanks again