I have only had a few sessions and notice most providers like to get down to business fairly early . My problem is I get hard early on, but purposely delay cumming so that the session does not end early. Then what happens is I have difficulty cumming towards the end of the session. Today I had no happy ending.

Do you suggest I tell the provider I would like to cuddle/chit chat more early on? So far I have just been following their lead.

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You can tell the provider what you want!  Just wait until you get past screening before discussing anything.  And yes, if you delay you will become over-stimulated.  You could allow yourself to cum when you want to, and go for another round.  Or just relax and enjoy the post-orgasmic bliss.

This way, you may be able to turn it around, and deliver that second cup.  You can also cuddle and play with her during the interim.  And even if you can't muster a second cup, the session should not end early, if you are doing your homework, and seeing the right ladies.

I LOVE sitting and chatting a bit, slight flirting and then on to some Kissing, at YOUR pace.
I think turning you on with my mind, slowly is as good as foreplay, in ANY venue most men enjoy the "chase" I try to offer than within the hour (90min or 2) its AAALLLL part of the fun...and usually a very happy ending. If I were you, I would very casually mention that to her. It is YOUR hour, and however, it works best for you a GOOD provider would understand!

Same experience Homer - I find I can:

a. get way excited, cum in 20 minutes, and then doodle, visit and see if a second pass is in the cards (most often, not);
b. get way excited, but manage it, screw for an hour, but never cum.

Honestly, I am not sure which is more pleasurable. It has been my experience that the ladies like it better when I finish because not finishing is just slightly uncomfortable for them in many ways (I have asked). But in case b, I generally get up right to the edge of finishing for that last 1/2 hour which feels very good, maybe better than finishing even. Tantric, I am told.

On the other hand, the visiting that goes on after I finish early has a kind of comfortable intimacy to it that is just as enjoyable in a different way - we get to know each other a bit more (assuming both of us are being honest, but even if that is not the case, it is still a comfortable intimacy) and relax together, maybe play with some toys while talking.

Anyway, I have not had any resistance from a lady to going slow or going fast, depending on my mood. And whether I finish early or late - well that part seems to sort itself out without me even thinking. In fact, while both of those scenarios do play out in different meetings, I am not sure it is really true to say I actually choose one over the other. The dynamic with the lady takes over.

Just go with it Homer, and have whatever good time is in the cards that day.

Zig

Try this next time you have a 'Backup'. This was taught to me
by one of my asian providers. Have her lube a finger and insert it
in the backdoor while in Mish. If shes experenced and massages
the prostate I promise you your clogged pipe will empty faster than
you can say DRANO..

I think within reason you should get what you want....if you like a more cuddling and just chatting yes by all means speak up. If you don't like just jumping in just say so.

I'd suggest, the way you want it to go, being a respectful gentleman along the way. I too am a newbie and all of my sessions, one or two hours, have been a lot of conversation (getting to know each other) and then BCD fun ... on repeats, we seem to talk less and have more fun which I suspect is because we know each other, a tad bit, and I'm much more relaxed ... I have found that the providers have an astute sense of how you are doing (ie nervous or not) and the ladies will do what they can to relax you, and relieve some of that anxiety, and not just by getting BCD real fast. Just my thoughts.

Letting the provider take the lead is fine, but you have to keep in mind that its your dime for her time. What you do in that time is up to you.