Hey guys...

I posted here a few days ago saying how this would be my first time contacting a provider and was looking for some tips on how to approach. I settled on one girl who's affordable and had high ratings and I sent her an e-mail with over a 24 hour notice. I didn't get a response and today I texted her to see if she was available because I didn't have access to my e-mail and no response to the text too.

I was honest about me being new to the hobby. This provider has several reviews a month and lots recently so she's clearly still active. Is it normal for providers to take time to respond, and should I have tried to set up a time for a couple of days ahead? Should I expect some trouble landing the first one? Just a bit disappointed

She could be booked.  She could be avoiding new entries.  She could have a sick child.  She could be occupied with her other job.

Yes, you should expect that you may experience a little difficulty as you get your feet wet.

Have a contingency plan of several providers so that you can move on quickly if one doesn't respond as quickly as you would like.

That is in poor taste and she may block your number..

You may be new but hope you have manners.
I don't answer my phone unless I know who it is. It goes to voicemail all the time and I screen my calls.Most ladies do.

We have family, jobs and other commitments. We are not available 24 hours a day.

Did you send all your info for her to screen you..First/last name, Work info with number, Home info, age

It is very hard to connect with some ladies the first time..Joining DateCheck or another verification service might help.

Kisses Haley

Thanks Haley that's really good to know. I texted merely because I had a coworker next to me and I saw someone else on the board suggest it in another thread. I'll keep that in mind from now on.

So when a provider doesn't list a preferred way of contact, but leaves her number and an e-mail, which is better in your opinion? and how long after trying one without success should I try the other method?

Thanks for your help!

I see what you mean! So how long should I wait for one to respond before moving on to the next one? Thanks for your help!

From what I have found, e-mail is a good method to deliver all of the required information for screening.  You should wait at least a day as these ladies are generally not stuck in front of a computer.  Some times it takes another polite e-mail giving all of the info again.  Do not be in a hurry.  The better providers generally take more time but are well worth the effort compared to the trouble you could run into by rushing into things.

And if she does not arrive in 30 min it certainly is not free

Lina

I would suggest setting up an appointment a week or so ahead, which will give your provider of choice the time necessary to screen and feel comfortable about you.  Also, keep in mind, there are a lot of ladies that are not available "today or tomorrow" and require further notice.

As for your question about how soon you should move on if the lady doesn't respond... well, that's really up to you.  You can keep trying and, usually, persistance pays off.  Or... you can try another provider... there are so many beautiful girls out there

I know if I were a hobbyist, I wouldn't know where to start LOL.  Good luck!!

Jaydenn-

24 hours may not be enough time for a first date...  she needs to screen you and then find a time.  I'd suggest 5 days or so on the first date...  with the date open, once she's screened you.  "near future"

If she feels pressured, she may just pass...   So try again, with a slow approach.  Be prepared with a backup to approach if this doesn't work out.
skb

Since I started the hobby about 4 months ago I've been very fortunate to have fairly easy appointments set up with providers. I feel like one is I always talk or email them with the utmost respect of their time and understand their lives are very busy. However there was one lady that I've tried for over 4 months to hook up with and up until 2 weeks ago hadn't even got to talk to her.

I first emailed her and waited 3 days with no reply. Then I emailed a second time telling her maybe she had not received the first email. Then 2 weeks later I called her on the phone number she had listed on her website. Shortly after the call I had given her my datecheck # and noticed she had checked my profile. That got me thinking she would be contacting me...NOT!!

So after 3 1/2 months I had given up on this one. Then on my way back this week spending time with my ATF I get a phone call on my cell. The lady on the other end said Hi and how are you. My reply was who are you?? She laughed and said its _______ and you sweetie have been so patient to try and get a date with me. Well, turns out she had surgery, been out of the biz then after getting ready to come back had an automobile accident and is just now coming back. Said she was gonna let me be her first on her comeback tour!!

So maybe persistance is the key but then again sometimes it's better to just move on!!

Haley, darling... we love you however this rule doesn't apply across the board.

One of my lady friends, TXT is her preferred method, both for initial contact, and as she told me, also for setting up subsequent appointments.

As they say, different strokes...

LOL!!

Dude, don't get frustrated I went through the same thing. At first it felt like I was being rejected but after actually seeing 3 providers and striking out 3 times as well I realized that these girls are busy. They can't always get back to everyone. In my experience focusing in on one could lead to a lot of wasted time and effort. You can always see her sometime in the future, but don't wait for one that doesn't respond. Another thing is a lot of these girls travel from city to city. Hang in there and keep trying different providers (stick with well reviewed ones though).

respond as quickly as we would like.  If you can't plan your encounters a little further ahead, be prepared to move on if you don't hear back quickly enough.

As someone mentioned, providers do have lifes off the board.

I read somewhere someone was complaining there were no providers running "super bowl specials"...hmm, maybe because some providers LIKE football.

Imagine that!

Sometimes we cant call you back.  It happens.