I actually posted this on another forum also. Well, I finally decided to get in to this hobby. But I guess, I am probably unique in my interest to get in to this hobby. I am 30 yrs old and by this time, normally, a guy is expected to be good at "it". Well I am not, in fact I am horrible. I don't think I've ever gotten a woman off. Well this has casued issues in my past relationships.

But instead of ignoring this, I want to address this. Better to look like a loser for a while than be a loser for ever. Unfortunately, there are no community colleges where I can sign up for a class for this type of learning. Any who, my question is this - Is there any provider that could be a teacher (literally) to me?

An older (over 35) provider may be best, but really just about any provider would be glad to help you if you are honest with her up front that you are looking for lessons.

The link below goes to a thread from a a few months ago that spawned from a similar question.

Take it easy my brotha.

I consider myself good at sex. I've given multiples, women their first-orgasms, and a few other things (in personal life) . However I'm 100 percent socially and anxietally dysfunctional. So while I have sexual staying power, I don't have emotional staying power.

I hate to be polyannish here (sp?) but, you just haven't met the right girl. I'd question your motivation for your hooking up with your past partners.. was it all you could get , was it they boosted your ego, even though you felt no push-pull and/or chemistry with them?

What YOU Need to do. Get a porn star and/or 8/9/10 reviewed regular., save up a bit. And be the most selfish man alive for the first few encounters. (I still do this sometimes, it's a great confidence builder...even tell her, I challenge you to make me pop as much as you can....you need to get a really nymphish provider to get away with that talk though ..SUPPORT TER buy a VIP and you can screen it. )

When you've used that to build your confidence, take the lead and start booking regular providers, and treat them like you would a girlfriend (foreplay, DATY,dinner-date etc..) Your putting too much stock in HER pleasure. Only when you've discovered what makes you happy can you figure out how to please a woman. Also, at this stage of your new found hobby you can ask, hey what do girls like [please] can you show me? Your paying them, they will love that. Teach me how to DATY, or clit-stimulation during vaginal, etc. Girls love to be in-charge and be teachers, by nature. This may be embarassing with someone you love, but a stranger no.

If a girl your with has ever stimulated herself (as in rubbing her clit during sex..) this is a red flag.. If you learn how to touch a woman you can do that for them . . many other hot things involved in that, you can switch from your sexual position to daty (oral) then back to pounding them keep them on the brink . . I wont sit here and go into detail, but red flags are self-stiumlation, and TOO Much noise being made, those are HUGE. Some girls are screamers or moaners, but if it sounds like they are trying they probably are

Some guys haaaave all the luuucc...er Some guys are born with a skill to please a woman, some guys are born with the ability to court or attract a woman. I have none of these. I have just banged so many women that I learned. Women that I dated (civvies) were literally SHOCKED at my abilities..because I look like I might know not-a-god-damn-thing. and they can't move or breathe afterwords . . I've never lost a relationship to lack of sexual prowess. emotional prowess...ehhhhhh.

Also, you might consider the blue pill in your personal life but your not being specific on why you can't make a woman climax, remember foreplay and DATY and emotional stroking is more important that penetration, most women do not climax from vaginal penetration alone -- only if you've already fucked the shit out of their mind, then they'd cum if you breathed on them (I'm a certified head-fucker..)

I feel your plight my friend, follow this advice though, I think you'll be giving your regular GFS the 'O' in no time And for GODS Sake enjoy this hobby these wonderful women will BLOW your mind.

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That is an awesome reply. Thank you very much. And you have hit on some of the problems that I was facing and no ED is not one of them . Next step is to find the right one. Thanks again.

I agree. Great answer, and solid information.

Awesome reply and ty for the details now I am all revved up and ready to go over here!!!!  Let's see Teacher, Student, which one could I be.  I think I like both actually.  

I have to totally agree with you on the self stimulation. However, there are many times when I do touch myself and the man has gotten me off.  I personally think its hot to touch my clit and I know the guys love watching it. Oh and bringing a toy into the play is also very stimulating to the mind as well as the body.

Oh and in reference to noise, me personally, I am a talker, a potty mouth talker and boy does it get me going even more.  

Ok I need someone to breath on me--grrrr. Just the thought of that, hummmm

and you seem to have an excellent one, so I believe you will do just fine.

The worst lovers are those who are selfish and are only interested in themselves.

Sex is a dance, and to work properly, both people have to be willing to be in tune with each other.

Good luck on your search and let us know how things work out.